Wake-up Call Challenge

LuckyBiscuit

true27 wrote: »

I just wanted to let you guys know that I've taken steps to improve my employment situation.....I've enrolled on an evening course in Beauty Therapy - something I've always wanted to do, and actually tried to do about 6 or 7 years ago. I almost feel like I've gone back in time

Well done you!!! That's one step closer to the future you want..........

XXX

LuckyBiscuit

elantan wrote: »

Try not to be too concerned about it ... Your gonna fix it remember .... But it is excellent you are being honest with yourself ....

I think this is the fundemental truth!!! Of all of it, wether it be relationships, career, weight etc etc,

You can not change what you don't acknowlege and being honest with yourself has to be the start!!!

LuckyBiscuit

Dragon’s Challenge Homework - Any comments/suggestions???
Personal Relationships, I have divided these into :
OH- 7, My OH is the most amazing man on the planet (believe me he has to be to put up with me!!!) He helped me through 2 lots of counselling due to childhood trauma’s and through a nervous breakdown with panic attacks, He supports me in everything I do, even if he thinks I’m sometimes a bit nut’s, So Why a 7 you ask well, the -3 is for my part in the relationship, I’m hard work, emotional and I don’t put in enough and give him what he needs, so I need to be more aware of what he needs too and not make it all not about me.
DD- 6 She is a stroppy teenager and I find it really frustrating!!! I need to work harder to do more things together which is even harder now she has a boyfriend.
DS- 7 Although a teenager too, he is slightly more laid back but incredibly lazy, which gets me annoyed, again need to find something to do together and please don’t say the games console!!!
With Parenting skills I find my distinct lack of follow through is my issue, with regard to plans and punishments.
Rest of Family - 5 My Mum, I talk and see her less now that we are 100miles away, and I somehow like it cause she’s not always asking me to do things, but I find he incredibly frustrating as her life is the TV.
My Brother(that lives with her) has mental Health issues and I really need to make an effort to talk to him on the phone.
Other Siblings don’t talk to one month to the next, need to make more effort.
Friends - 2 this is laughable as again they all live 100miles away now and you know the saying out of sight, out of mind, there is only 1, I now talk to about once a week. I usually find friends that are users. Find it difficult to make real friends, I don’t know what else to say about this one.
Financial - 7
OH currently works but is on a low wage but can’t look to move until he has had a operation that he needs, So until then, we will be worse off if I go to work (absolute madness) so we are currently on benefits. Our debts are from a long time ago, over 10 yrs and only currently making payments to 3, the rest have not started chasing us yet from a failed IVA 2/3 yrs ago. Budget is manageable as long as we are sensible. We have no current cc or loan payments.
Health - 3
I am about 4 stone overweight and seriously unfit. We live in a rural location and have started walking about 2 and a half miles a day, plus working in the garden/veg plot. We sold some stuff and purchased a treadmill, which was delivered this morning. My Future Goal/Dream is to run a half marathon before I’m 40 (I have 3 and a bit years). The problem I have is that after exercising my legs ache, I’m not talking from the exercise but excruciatingly!!! They like seize up, I’ve had tests and x-rays, there is nothing wrong medically, so I think a lot of it is down to the extra weight they are carrying. We have also looked at our portion sizes, they were huge!! And of course my comfort eating, I eat because I’m bored and lonely. Need to curb that by keeping busy!!
Work/Career 3
Before my breakdown I was in retail management, HELL on earth, that’s what contributed, the work load, so I am not going back there again. I would really love to train to be a councillor, and to make a difference to others, I have applied to do an access course, but there is limited places and I’m not sure I’ve got one yet, the plan if I don’t is, well I don’t know?? can I scrape enough together to do it online, I don’t really want to leave it too much longer as I’ve been home now 3 yrs and want to feel part of society again and contribute to the household finances for the future.

Hobbies - 4
OH brought me a professional camera about 2 yrs ago as I love macro photography, but do I do it NO!!! I seem to make excuses not to do it, it’s almost a guilty pleasure, as in what right do I have to spend time doing something I want for the pure hell of it.
Spirituality - 5
I do have a faith, but I get annoyed with myself with my lack of self-discipline, and lack of commitedness!!! I struggle to spend time in prayer or studying cause I think I should be doing other things like housework.
Self Conclusions
I am extremely hard on myself, am I demanding too much of myself, would I demand it of others???
Goal Setting - Take 1 day at a time.

Was very liberating writing it all down, i really recommend it!!!

Love to all

Krisp_3

TMVen wrote: »

That's interesting you say that cause i thought that straight off, but then i thought how much better would it be if i lost the weight and then started to take care of myself, we'd do more stuff together and you know in that department too....

Its a mindfield this thinking stuff.............

Yup. It certainly is. My minefield started and ended with work! I love my job, but.... I don't want to bring down any bad luck on me so I'm not wishing myself away or envying the dustbin men (did that once!).

Anyway, that would impact on many, many other areas of my life too.

oy vey!

Krisp_3

OMG.

It's very odd, but this thread is SO relevant to my future plans. Which will get reinforced when i meet up with my friend tonight for a gym session. He's a personal trainer (friend's benefits, so not expensive!) but also very interested in the whole mind/body 'thing'. He guessed straight away what my career aim is, and this thread just links it all up, Wheel of Life or whatever you want to call it.

My realtionship is still a 10 - but then I get over-compensate-y about being at home so little, which probably means I'm neglecting me somewhat in an emotional way.

Eeep! My brain is hurting!:rotfl:

elantan

Hi all have read everything but am on the iPhone just now ( damn those burglars) will try and reply soon ... And give u all the next bit of homework ... But I will say I am really impressed with everyone ... U taking this seriously and u will benefit from it all

elantan

Sorry about spelling it's this stupid phone

LuckyBiscuit

elantan wrote: »

will try and reply soon ... And give u all the next bit of homework ...

AAAHHHH!!!!!!!:eek::D

elantan

hi ... am on the p.c for a wee while so thought i would send this out while i had the time ...

birdlady that is fantastic that you are now thinking more positively about the way your life currently is ... i think you might benefit from doing this type of thing (wheel of life) maybe once every three months or so ... just to keep a good eye on where you are and how good things are for you

bob ...well yes fun and getting more healthy does go hand in hand i said so ... so it is law lol ... look at you already though ... you are planning on doing the whw ... that aint a walk in the park mrs .. but it is in fact an excellent goal to work towards that will help you achieve what you want ????

tmv i noticed that you are a good distance away from your family and friends... would it help to make new friends as well as keeping in touch with your old ones? i like the way you have split your relationships down into individuals rather than as a collective

elantan

ok homework

this is a very obvious one to be honest ... and some of you have already done it

i want you to go back over your list and really think about where you want them to be ... it's easy to say ten for everything but let me give you one of mine ...

my work is currently a 4 so i thought well i want it to be a ten ... what would i have to do to make it a ten ... well i would have to work in a nature park or something very similar ...

dont get me wrong i dont hate my job i dont love it but it is ok ... i work 4 days then have 7 off then work 3 then have 7 off so i have alot of free days ... but if i worked in a nature park that would be awesome i could spend all day cutting trees laying hedges learning about ecosystems etc that is heaven for me ...

but then i would have to worry about getting on with people .. the people i work with just now are ok nothing wrong with them and we tend to all get on ok and help each other out as needed.... and i would have to worry about budget cuts etc ... and working weekends ok i do that just now ... but it's night shift and it doesnt really interfere too much with my life but working every other weekend might ... and then i would have to do talks etc ... which is ok and i dont mind it ... but i want to do it when i want to do it ...not when i have to ... and when i have my seven days off i make sure i go naturing as much as i can (gonna be three times minimum this week yay)

so whilst that would be my dream job and it would get to ten ... would it interfere with the other parts of my life ? would it be as good as the dream? would i get to do nature things all the time or would i have to do paperwork etc (yes) ...

so the job that i am in ... how high can i get that cause after all it isnt the worst job in the world i have plenty of days off where i can go and be with nature ... i can do my garden i can spend time with my friends i can study on the night shift and learn new things ... but it is never gonna be a ten ... how high can i get it ? well i would say a 7 ... would 7 be high enough for me ... well yes i think it would because my work doesnt define me ... its some where i go to to get money ... i am very very good at my job but i dont live to work and i dont ever want to live to work ... so yes a 7 would be ok by me ...

so i am currently on a 4 and i want to get to a 7 ... what is stopping me ? well i think my attitude is stopping me more than anything ... i tend to just go and do my job and not really stop and realise the difference i am making ... and i do make a difference .. so i need to work on my attitude ... and possibly other things too self sabotage maybe?





so after you have figured out where you want each bit to be ... figure out why it isnt there ... what is stopping you from getting there.... what is in your way ? and are they all connected? is it similar things that are stopping you each time? do you really need to sort everything out or just the one and then the rest will fall into place?