The quest for home!

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Hi IWAH - I posted on your other thread earlier but have just finished reading through your diary (quiet Friday afternoon at work eh?!). You've done so well to be (almost) debt free in such a short space of time, especially given that you've been contending with a breakup too.

As I said on the other thread, two weeks ago I found myself back at Dad's after only three months living with my OH (after three years together) - these couple of posts you made a couple of weeks ago really struck a chord with me:

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After having a few negative months with regard to my sanity and living with my parents. (I turned into a stroppy teenager, resenting the world for my t**t of an ex, putting me back here). Things have started to look up a bit.

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The part of me that doesn't want to make contact is the annoyed part that is still very upset at the end of the relationship even tho it is almost a year (still I'm not over it, and i'm not sure I really ever will be, but life must move forward i guess). This part of me is also very annoyed at how things have gone so one sided. I get left with debt (some of which was cleared by the Ex - but not all of what should have been on reflection), I had to move in with my parents, while she stays in "our" flat (I'll never be bitten again by the only put it in one name curse), my car breaks down, she gets a new one. I'm still single and left being miserable over "what could have been", she's off partying in a new romance. Pah life sucks.

Maybe the impending doom of a christmas of singledom surrounded by friends and family all loved up and happy is taking an effect early.

He's not off with a new girl, but he's keeping all the furniture (which he did buy; I bought all the 'little' things which add up - such as bedding and bath mats and TV licence....) and will be renting a new place on his own, whereas all I'll have to show for my £2k spent on moving in will be a set of crockery and cutlery - and I'll really struggle to rent anywhere myself as I don't earn as much as he does. He continues on with the dream of moving to Australia (it was his job that would get us a visa), while I feel I've been well and truly dumped back where I was when I started

I don't have a plan yet, no idea what I'm going to do. I'm going to try and be good to myself till the new year then form some sort of POA then. I don't have any debt, but feel I should try and recoup that wasted moving money which I took from my ISA - as though I owe it back to myself because I didn't actually get anything out of it!

Anyway, sorry - I don't mean to moan and bring you down, just wanted to say hi

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Congratulations! Look how close you are- 1 more month!

Seeing you so close to your goals and what-not, makes it all seem worthwhile. So proud of you.

Hows Christmas and what-not shaping up? Think you may splurge because end of year, so much on etc?

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Hi IWAH,

Just wanted to say I have read your thread just now and its like reading my own thoughts! I split with an ex on NYE last year, he decided then would be a good time to announce he liked several other women more than me, after i-d paid out approx £10k on his flat that he owned in his name only for 2 years. Luckily i can live at my parents as at the start of the year i was in £20k of debt. I dont know how old you are but I am 29 and the only one of my friends who is single, the others are all mortgaged up with partners, married and have kids. SO i spent this year having fun and getting my life back, but in doing so paid off no debt at all. I have the same aim as you - Olympics 2012 as getting my own place, either bought or rented (renting appears to be my best option at the mo as 1 bed flats near me are around £150k - so would need a £35k deposit!!).

Either way - its going to be worth it in the end. And when you get stressed living at home, just think how amazing it will be when you get the keys to your own place, and you got there all on your own, and its through your hard work, and yours alone, that youve managed it - It will feel amazing and all will have been worth it! :-)

Chin up and keep up the amazing work!!! :-D