Advice - Splitting Up!

vik6525

Lmao...........

vik6525

out of curiosity, what rugby team did you play for?

hobo28

jordan_gibson wrote:

Thanks Hobo - I see my ex and my lad as a package to be honest. She has (and still is) a fantastic mum but I am mainly doing all this for my lad. Thanks for raising some good points - i am sure I have got it all to come in the future!! My lad was born in July 2004 so as far as I am aware I have parental responsibility as well.

Hi mate

Thats great but you've got to stop thinking like that.

I bent over backwards to accomodate my ex. I used to let her come to my house and take my daughter to school in the mornings (rather than before school club). Whilst I was trusting her in my home, she was going through my private things and later used that information to try to break me and my current GF up.

There's so many more examples I'd love to tell you but i don't want to prattle on.

You've got to start looking after number 1 because trust me, she won't be sitting there thinking about how to be "fair" to you.

How does your ex feel now she's been found out? Is there any chance at all of working things out? Splitting up whilst is the easy option, is not long term.

pitdog

vik6525 wrote:

out of curiosity, what rugby team did you play for?

i think she loves him, she wants to kiss him etc etc
he he imma buy a new hat !!

Scarlett1

jordan_gibson wrote:

My lad was born in July 2004 so as far as I am aware I have parental responsibility as well.

Dont just assume, get a form from the courts and get you're ex to sign it otherwise you wont have have the parental responsibility when its needed.

You may think that you're ex is amicable now, but give it a few months down the line she might not be so accommodating, I saw my brother battle for over a year to get parental responsibility written down on paper, in the meantime being refused access to his daughter and even not being allowed a school photo of her

((((hug))))

ps. mine's a glass of wine

pitdog

one lambrini coming up!

vik6525

oh stop the booze talk! ive got the WORST hangover in the world today!

pitdog

sorry vik perhaps you'd like to talk about a nice snottery egg running over greasy bacon spilling over your fingers as you bite it............................anyhoo where were we !

vik6525

my poor delicate stomach cant take your post at all! anyway, we were trying to find out which team the ex rugby player played for... or, at least, I was! lol

jordan_gibson

hobo28 wrote:

Hi mate

Thats great but you've got to stop thinking like that.

I bent over backwards to accomodate my ex. I used to let her come to my house and take my daughter to school in the mornings (rather than before school club). Whilst I was trusting her in my home, she was going through my private things and later used that information to try to break me and my current GF up.

There's so many more examples I'd love to tell you but i don't want to prattle on.

You've got to start looking after number 1 because trust me, she won't be sitting there thinking about how to be "fair" to you.

How does your ex feel now she's been found out? Is there any chance at all of working things out? Splitting up whilst is the easy option, is not long term.

To be honest, I feel like I am looking after number 1 - my little lad. I know exactly what you mean though (and have already thought about this) becuase at the moment my ex feels very bad and that she is the cause of us splitting up. Give it a few months and this could all change, which is why I am exploring different options! My ex does not want to split up but she had plenty of oportunities to stop this and say no, but she said yes - that is all the info I need to end things. I am a believer in that sleeping with someone whilst in a relationship is 'crossing the line'. Some people may be able to forgive after a period of time - I can't! We still speak in a friendly way but it will never be the same so we both have to move on.

I can see negatives all day long so just trying to stay positive at the moment so the little one does not notice. At the end of the day I am 27 so I hopefully have a few years ahead of me to sort all of this out and move on.