Advice - Splitting Up!

windym_2

Good luck on a long and winding road.

jordan_gibson

I have just sat down and used a website that MSE recommended in one of his last flyers - I think it was https://www.entiltledto.co.uk ???? Any way, my ex will comfortably be able to cover rent, rates, tv, phone, food, clothes etc etc each month and still have about £350 spare. My ex even had a go at me for working this out for her - so much for lending a helping hand!!!!

I am very fortunate in that I have a good job and don't owe anyone a penny (except mortgage) but just feel that I am having everything taken away from me for doing nothing wrong. I would give up all of my money to have my son back with me again but realise that this just can't happen now knowing what I know.

To top it off I have offered to buy my ex a house and then rent it to her (making no profit - see other topic in houses section) but she is throwing this back in my face.

Any way....enough of the ranting!!

tanith

Maybe its all a bit too 'raw' at the moment and when the dust has settled she will see that you are trying to make things a little easier all round....

I hope so anyway...

Good luck for the times ahead

Prudent

jordan_gibson wrote:

I have just sat down and used a website that MSE recommended in one of his last flyers - I think it was www.entiltledto.co.uk ???? Any way, my ex will comfortably be able to cover rent, rates, tv, phone, food, clothes etc etc each month and still have about £350 spare. My ex even had a go at me for working this out for her - so much for lending a helping hand!!!!

I am very fortunate in that I have a good job and don't owe anyone a penny (except mortgage) but just feel that I am having everything taken away from me for doing nothing wrong. I would give up all of my money to have my son back with me again but realise that this just can't happen now knowing what I know.

To top it off I have offered to buy my ex a house and then rent it to her (making no profit - see other topic in houses section) but she is throwing this back in my face.

Any way....enough of the ranting!!

If she is going to claim benefits, I cannot see how she will have £350 per month left after costs. Are you assuming she will get the 15% of your income towards keeping your son? If she is on benefits, the csa will deduct this money from her benefit and only pass on £10 per week. The rest will contribute towards the benefits she recieves.

vik6525

ive got no advice at all, i just wanted to tell you that i think you're absolutly fantastic for what you're doing, you're putting your son first, you're not acting rashly (which considering the circumstances most people would), and you're proving (to me at least) that not all men are b******s. damm, where can i meet a guy like you?!? lol xxxx

buckaroo

Hi

If you're not married then legally all your ex is entitled to from you, is half the equity in the house and maintenance payments. You will not be responsible for putting a roof over her head. If the equity doesn't provide her with enough money to buy outright, then I assume she will go into rented. If she receives more than £56 pw maintenance from you, then there is little point in her receiving income support.

She should be entitled to tax credits, housing benefit and council tax benefit but hb may be affected by how much maintenance she receives. Any income from the equity in the house will also affect the amount of hb she receives. My local council works on a sliding scale and they allow you to have £6k in savings, anything above that up to about £16k ( I think) it is adjusted. Above £16k, no benefit will be payable.

Tax credits are not affected by maintenance payments.

It is so nice to read about a man who takes his responsibilities so seriously. Unfortunately when i split with my ex, I was pregnant with our 4th child and he refused to let me stay in the house. Me and my children ended up on the homeless register. I now live in a pretty grotty housing estate, my ex lives in our old house in luxury.

hankc35

would give up all of my money to have my son back with me again but realise that this just can't happen now knowing what I know.

Jordan it saddens me to see yet another example of a woman destroying her family by not being able to keep her legs together. Why not look into the possibility of becoming the primary carer for your son, things are changing and legally not as cut and dried as they once were. Maybe you Ex could then get a job and then look into what she needs to pay to you and your child in maintanance and you could look into arranging contact for her, it may seem like a far away dream but men do increasingly manage to hold onto their kids.

teacup_2

Well hank & I am being totally sarcastic here. It saddens me that you think that another" woman cannot keep her legs together". Maybe the nextdoor neighbour " A Man"!! should have kept his trousers firmly zipped and said no " you are married and I live next door to you" there are lovely decent men out their who do not have the morals of a sewer rat( sorry rat!). I would not be so narrow minded to even say that men are like that anyway.
Both are in the wrong the woman for doing this with the next door neighbour, and the nextdoor neighbour who obviously knows that this woman is married to his next door neighbour in the first place because he is being naughty with his wife and probably sees her with her husband & child.
Not a nice thing to put about a woman in general. No I am not on my high horse. This sort of comment sort out the men from the boys.

jordan_gibson

Thanks for all your help guys & girls. I am going to have a word with the citizens advice this morning and see what they say.

jordan_gibson

vik6525 wrote:

ive got no advice at all, i just wanted to tell you that i think you're absolutly fantastic for what you're doing, you're putting your son first, you're not acting rashly (which considering the circumstances most people would), and you're proving (to me at least) that not all men are b******s. damm, where can i meet a guy like you?!? lol xxxx

Thanks Vik - It's weird being single after 6 years! Can't really remember what to do - think I have lost the touch!! lol Fancy a beer :beer: lol