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Funeral Flowers - Not sure what's right

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  • nigem
    nigem Posts: 223 Forumite
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    Why not ask your Mum/Dad to check whether all the family are to be included in the one tribute? If your grandfather wasnt into funeral flowers then often one lovely arrangement will say more than lots of different colour/types of flowers. You can always give a little towards it, or to his favourite charity.
  • taliwillow
    taliwillow Posts: 415 Forumite
    Thanks everyone for your replies.

    nigem - It's a bit difficult to ask my Dad as he lives overseas and I don't really know him very well which is why my Grandad became the closest thing I had to a Dad. He walked me down the aisle on my wedding day and he was so proud to do that as he doesn't have any daughters. I will cherish the memory of that day forever as it is the last memory I have of him being well and being the real him before illness started to get the better of him. I think I may give it a few more days until we know for definite when the funeral will be and then ask my Aunt if she knows more details of what the plans are re flowers. I'm probably just getting a bit ahead of myself but just really want to get it right and don't want to upset anyone any more than they already are.
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  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,770 Forumite
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    What a nice, thoughtful person you sound.

    You'll 'get it right' by just being there.
  • JCS1
    JCS1 Posts: 5,335 Forumite
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    How about a bunch of flowers, but using the same type that you had at your wedding. It would then remind you of the special time when he gave you away.
  • DaisyFlower
    DaisyFlower Posts: 2,677 Forumite
    I had to order them for my little sister just prior to christmas, the florist couldn't have been more helpful and just asked if any favourite colours etc. She then came up with a few ideas and asked which I liked best. They were beautiful yet simple and perfect. If you have a local independent florist I would give them a call and hopefully they will be as helpful as mine was.
  • I'm sure that this is one time no-one will be 'offended', whatever you decide to do. Bereavement and funerals are so personal that nobody can or should say what is the 'right' thing to do. In my opinion spending loads of money on a flashy arrangement is madness - I agree with the posters who suggest something small and personal is a lot more meaningful. I also like the idea of a permanent memorial in a rose bush or similar.
    I lost my dad a couple of years ago and I honestly can't remember what we did, flowers-wise. The whole funeral day was a bit of a blur and those aren't the things you remember. My memories of my dad are my whole life with him, and all the things we did together while he was alive, not how much anyone spent on flowers for the funeral.

    I'm thinking of you in your loss and hope you can find comfort in your happy memories too.
  • diable
    diable Posts: 5,258 Forumite
    My Mum passed away in April and I kept it simple and had a double spray of white lilies on the casket as they where my Mum's favourite flowers.

    Keep it simple and keep it pure but don't dwell too much on it as I don't think your Granddad would want you to worry so much about the flowers.
  • MatyMoo
    MatyMoo Posts: 3,176 Forumite
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    So sorry to hear about your Granddad :(

    For my Mum's funeral we had one large arrangement made up of all her favourite flowers and then her three daughters and three granddaughters wrote their own messages to put in it.
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  • katebl
    katebl Posts: 637 Forumite
    Very sorry for your loss taliwillow, when my Dad died we had "Dad" in letters, think it cost around £75, however my Mum got two hearts intertwined with the letters "Husband" spelt across it in silver plastic letters, this might be more understated and certainly a lot cheaper - think it cost about £60.
  • meritaten
    meritaten Posts: 24,158 Forumite
    could you afford to recreate your wedding bouquet? or even just the buttonhole he wore and write that this reminds you of your most treasured memory of him and a happy time in your lives?
    If grandad wasnt a flower person - then tributes dont have to be flowers! tbh - they are mainly for show for the bereaved arent they? and if you prefer to go a less traditional way then as long as you discuss it with grandma and she is happy with it - then one flower and perhaps a donation to charity or as others have suggested plant something in his memory. or if he was a great darts player for example offer to donate a cup for local pubs in his memory.
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