How would we ask???

Bride2be24

Me & my OH are in a sticky situation. we have had our house 2gether now for 3 years so there is nothing we want or need, so was going to ask our guests if they want to contribute anything towards our wedding money would be brilliant, however how would you ask this sort of question without sounding cheeky???

I came across 80 Butterfly Wedding Poems Ask Cash Gift on ebay. Scroll down to read the 16 available poems on offer.
What i would like to know is would these be suitable??? we are really stuck on how to ask

deano23285

same boat i'm in, got everything for the house that we need, would ideally like money or excursions on the honeymoon to be paid for, just figuring out how to ask people for it!

Bride2be24

thats what we want it for... our honeymoon

binkyboo_2

we are in the same position as you, having lived together for 3 years there is nothing that we need so we aren't going to be asking for anything in the way of a gift list. If anyone does ask what we would like we have decided to say that whatever they would like to give us will be gratefully received. I expect this way we will get a mixture of presents and possibly gifts of money but we both felt it would be too presumtuous to ask some thing specific and we really didn't like the idea of telling people what to buy. It's something i also do ant christmas and birthdays so i don't really see a wedding as being any different. I can appreciate other peoples views differ on this, just thought i'd share my opinion

floss2

We have used the following phrase:

As we have a home filled with everything we need, we do not have a gift list. However, if you insist, Thomas Cook or Debenhams vouchers would be very gratefully received.

We had to combine a 3-bed semi & garage with a 4-bed terraced house when I moved in, so have everything we could possibly need!!

shellsuit

We're not asking for anything.

I don't know if there is a nice way of asking people for money really. Some people take offence and some people don't mind.

An old friend of OH got married last year, I'd never met him or his fiancee.

OH got an invite with one of those poems in it, but I was fuming.

Why? Because the invite was for OH, me and our baby. I've got 2 children too, me and OH have been together for 8 years, so I took it as an insult to ask us for money when they don't even know what/who our family consists of.

And I think it would be rude to ask people for their money, when you're not having children at the wedding, like your brats aren't good enough for our day, but your money is.

Or asking the people who are only invited to the evening. If they are good enough to ask for money, then why aren't they attending the whole day/ceremony/meal etc...

Rant over! lol

You know your guests and should know how they would take being asked ~ do you think they would mind?

If not, then pop the poems in with the invites.

gorgeouslatinrose

How about doing a list but for you honeymoon, eg, dinner at restaurant, boat trip to see dolphins, night at hotel, drinks on the beach? that way the guests can feel like they are giving you something other than money, and you can enjoy their gift on your honeymoon without directly asking for money.

Techno

I see an ideal business opportunity for a travel company somewhere in this.
You decide where you want to go and then the honeymoon is split into it's constituent parts - bit like a wedding list - now if there as a company out there that is doing that? If not I'll add it to the list of things to keep me occupied when I retire :rotfl:

anderson8

our invites are ready to be posted and we put a money poem in, to go towards our honeymoon.
im going to 3 other weddingd within 4 weeks of mine and they all had gift lists etc in them.
i cant see what the differnce between asking for specific gifts and a contribution to a honeymoon is

Cloves

I think most people nowadays want cash... and I personally wouldnt have been offended by it. I think its more of a how much issue... last time the OH got invited to a wedding thinking it was a meal and a bit but turned out to be finger food and cash bar! doh!

If it is for a honeymoon, I think lots of travel agents do "wishing wells" which i think sounds really nice for invites/poems etc

Rosie75

Techno wrote: »

I see an ideal business opportunity for a travel company somewhere in this.
You decide where you want to go and then the honeymoon is split into it's constituent parts - bit like a wedding list - now if there as a company out there that is doing that? If not I'll add it to the list of things to keep me occupied when I retire :rotfl:

There's a company called "Buy our Honeymoon" which does this.