"Friend" hassle

BitterAndTwisted

She's either lost it, ruined it in the wash or lent it to someone else. As she doesn't appear to have either the strength of character or the integrity to admit it, I'd write the things off and delete her number from my mobile. Goodbye ex-"friend" and hello happy life not being taken for granted or for a fool.

Janey3

I bet she's spilled some wine/tea/coffee on it and the stain won't come out.

Janey

top_drawer_2

Just an update - I texted my "friend" last night (I've worried about it all bank hol, really peeved that she didnt even bother to text me to say sorry for her HM not bringing my item round). I was quite blunt and said, I need my things back from you so please put X, Y and Z to one side and I will collect them tommorrow at 6pm. She replied saying she only found out yesterday that her HM hadn't given to me, claims that she tried to ring me (I got no mis-call), says that she didnt hear anything from me so assumed I had received them. I didnt reply as I didnt want to get into a texting convo with her about it.

Today she has texted saying that she will drop my stuff off at 7.30 on her way to an appointment.

Cheeky mare!! Not so much as an apology and presumably I'm available to suit her.

silvasava

Hmmm - & what happens if she doesn't turn up??? I'd suggest turning up on her doorstep before she goes out for her 'appointment' just to 'save her the time as you were in the area'
You did mention that she has a disability but unfortunately some people are very good at using this as a means to get everything their own way & can be quite manipulative - sounds as if she could be like this too and just preys on your kind nature

Good Luck

Greener_Grass

did she turn up then??

Stephb1986_2

Yeah did she turn up or was it another lame excuse?? How do people have appointments at half 7 in the evening most doctors have gone home by then!

Steph xx

arkonite_babe

I'm intrigued to know too, cos I'm a nosey mare!!!

Seriously though, I was in this situation too until a few years ago. A "friend" always needed me for all the minor crises in her life. The one time in my life I needed her for something quite traumatic, she just brushed it off and started moaning about another molehill in her life. I broke off the friendship after that and have only seen her a few times since. She always asks me to call round for a visit whenever I see her, but I think we both know that I won't! Friends like this are worse than enemies, at least with enemies, you know where you stand!!!

Good luck in sorting her out

[Deleted User]

I agree u sound a bit like me some many moons ago. I sooo wanted to be nice to people (I think its called something slightly more technical than fool) but I ended up being walked all over. One friend, I loaned her some curtains (very expensive ones) I needed for my house when I moved.., she told me that her son broke them but somehow couldn't return them to me to be repaired. I also loaned (making it clear to her that they were loans) some baby clothes that were all I had to remind me of when my middle son was alive.., and she 'lost' them. That one really hurt. Now I don't loan anything I can't afford to lose, and I don't expect to see it back. Saves quite a lot of hassle.

I realised that if u lay down, human nature being what it is, people will walk on you. So don't envy your friend for being assertive.., learn from her and be the same yourself x x x x

top_drawer_2

Yeh she did turn up and if she hadn't have I would have gone round to the house, I was not particularly pleasant yesterday just said thanks although I couldn't help myself from inviting her in (she declined). When I looked in the bag she had given me a couple of other things back that I had completely forgotton about!!

I've resolved to be less willing to allow her to walk over me as i've been over more incidents today in my mind when she has done similar things (not returning small amounts of money etc).

Thanks everyone I'm really going to have to work hard at being less of a doormat.

Stephb1986_2

Maybe now you have your stuff back you can get a better friend It sounds like it's all on her terms.

Steph xx