The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

*Mari*

fedupandskint wrote: »

Ok you win - I'll run another one starting midnight tonight

Now then - only sign up if you are committed to achieving then you will get there

Next Mon-Thurs 96 Hour Challenge starts at Midnight tonight

Let me know if you want to sign up and I'll add your name to the list

Let's really commit to achieving 4 AFD and then see how much better we feel as a result both physically and psychologically

No half hearted attempts please - we need strong commitment for this!

Thank you Sparkles can you put me down please, I for one need to know that I have to report back and say I've been AF!!

DB Im Definatley going to be AF today so thats 6 for me please

Well in back from my girlie break, which was lovely. I didn't manage to be AF, but only had 2 drinks in 2 days so for me thats a huge improvement. Am planning on being AF Sun-Thurs each week at least.


Off to get dinner on, complete with roast potatoes my favourite yum yum :drool:

honeybear_2

brokepaolo wrote: »

cheery thought for you all(at least I hope it is):

a friend of mine was on Dartmoor today having a walk when he saw a burger van in the middle of nowhere surrounded by hungry ramblers tucking into some food. the sign on the van read 'The Hound Of The Basket Meals'

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I know this was days ago but I'm just catching up & thought this was brilliant :T

DecemberBaby_2

All this talk of roast potatoes made me hungry .
Just about to tuck into some with roast chicken and lots of veg and yorkshires. Yum

penelopedee_2

Sparkles, can you put me down for your challenge please. Thanks Pen

graemecarter

fedupandskint wrote: »

No I'm having a week off. I got a little fedup of people pledging to achieve this and then not bothering then as the week went on I realised more people were achieving than not

I know for me, that when I pledged to myself to be AF, I sincerely meant it. In the past, if I told myself that I wasn’t going to drink in a particular week, I meant it, and was determined to do it. I would start strongly, but never finish.

This was my alcoholism – I crossed all those lines that I said I would never cross.
Even now I only say I will not pick up a drink today and today only. Most people can manage one day without a drink (maybe not the people with severe alcoholism), so that’s all I do. One day at a time.

The days have built up into weeks, months, and years. However, what’s in the past doesn’t protect me today. The sobriety I have had in the past has little bearing on today. That’s why I need to keep things in the day, and not look too far ahead. My head needs to be where my feet are, which is exactly where I am now, nowhere else.

graemecarter

fayjmck wrote: »

Hey Sparkles I know what you are saying - I'm really sorry you feel let down. You put alot of work/effort into the challenges. Its very appreciated.

I dont' know, to be honest, in my own case if it was a case of not bothering - Although I wanted to be diligent and accepted to be on the challenge - life got too stressful/couldnt' get online much in the evenings and I just couldn't do it for those few days even though I said I would try - the intention was there. Although I drank really moderately on the days I did drink (I was never drunk/over limit) and only half a glass one night before just thinking OK I just want juice and chucking the wine down the sink.

I know these are all excuses/triggers but my intentions were good and honourable when I signed up. OH's been up and there's been alcohol in the house - which is unusual normally. When lifes like this, I have to just take things each day at a time - I probably shouldn't have signed up for 4 days - but didn't realise the chaos having someone else around would cause inside my own noggin!

I love the support that's on this thread - from you all - even when challenges don't quite go to plan - there is still alot of thinking/etc going on! (Honest)

Well done to those who did achieve your challenge and great that you've taken the time and energy to run it.

That's how I feel, and apply that to my life.
I am alcoholic so cannot afford to stare back at the past nor look too far into the future.
It was my alcoholism that made me drink (even a small amount) when I didn't want to drink.

honeybear_2

Bit of a development over in Bear Towers; I spent the weekend with a friend & realised how much loneliness is the major contributing factor in times when I feel uber down. Now I can clearly identify that I feel better about tackling it

graemecarter

Bismarck wrote: »

I could find a reason most days to start drinking and then stopping usually occurred when I'd not quite passed out.

Went through 3 hours of various temptations when no-one would have known if I'd had one.

But I know that one would have been like flicking a switch. Everything was in place. TEMPTING ME. And yet...

And yet....

...I remain. But it was closer than it had been for a long time.

Glad I was ready.

take care everyone...it really can be tough out there sometimes.

Bis

Indeed - my alcoholism wants me to put alcohol into my body, so I need to be vigilant always.

When I feel closer to alcohol, there is normally some underlying cause - an anxiety or secret. When i look honestly at what it could be and voice it to someone, the power often leaves, and I am on more of an even keel

graemecarter

honeybear wrote: »

Bit of a development over in Bear Towers; I spent the weekend with a friend & realised how much loneliness is the major contributing factor in times when I feel uber down. Now I can clearly identify that I feel better about tackling it

While sometimes I can do nothing about lonliness, I can avoid straying into isolation which I do when feeling down. This compounds the lonliness, and is a self-perpetuating cycle.

While lonliness is an emotion, avoiding isolation is an action which I can take. When I feel down, I know that taking action is the quickest way through the pain.
When you're going through hell, keep going!

penelopedee_2

I'm having one of those evenings when family are stressing me out, I'm really tired, the tea isn't even in the oven yet and there is school and work in the morning.

I need to find my bl**dy minded head again - I am going to be AF today - I don't want it or need it, I'm just a tired and narky mare!

Roll on bedtime