The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

skintscottishgirl

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Just have to say :eek::eek::eek: to the whole ex/sister scenario BP!!

treepotato - ((hugs)) matey, hope you are ok

Miss P
xx

I second that the ex/sister might be fine, then again could go horribly wrong....

Glad you are feelong better Miss P thanks for scoring

TP1 hope you are not too stressed, just have to live with it for now though it'll be worth it in the end

skintscottishgirl

SimIsOnTheUp wrote: »

Hi Graeme,

Thanks.

Sorry. I can see that I'm obsessing about this

You're spot on.

I need to focus my energy, into things I can do something about.

Being angry with oneself, for such stupidity, and lack of self - control, is exhausting.

I keep worrying, that I'm going to be convicted by The Money Shop / A&L bank, for fraud, however my friend came over today (she's lovely..we met in AA about 18 months back, and she's been sober over a year) - She said that the worst case scenario, is that A&L might close down my bank account / charge me / Money Shop will charge me.

Methinks, I need a good dose of perspective!

Sim.

Evening Sim

As GC, YM and TP1 say just try not to worry, wait and see what happens.

I am a worrier too but as one of my colleagues says, "you worry you die, you don't worry you still die" which puts things into perspective.

Personally i don't think you will get done for fraud, and next to that a bit more on top of your debt hardly matters, just wait and see.

If this woman does not help for whatever reason she'll tell you where to go to get help somewhere else.

At the end of the day you're not a bad person and that's what counts.

Why be angry with yourself, you just had a little slip.

If one of your best friends told you your story you would have a lot more sympathy for yourself, and understanding, but people tend to be harder on themselves than other people.

If that makes sense lol.

Take care and let us know how you go X

SSG

newroadahead

Hi All

Glad you are feeling better Miss P, hope you are not so stressed now TP1.

Hope everyone else is feeling good:)

I am now 3 days AF so after a really bad week last week,
feeling a little more in control.

To be honest I have been so busy at work have no time to think about alcohol.

Going for another early night tonight so hope all have a good one.

NRA xxx

yellowmonkey

newroadahead wrote: »

I am now 3 days AF so after a really bad week last week,
feeling a little more in control.

Well done NRA :T

yellowmonkey

115K wrote: »

Today will be my 3rd day AF please.

Good on you 115

skintscottishgirl

Good on ya NRA take care of yourself X

budget_babe

treepotato1 wrote: »

Sounds like a classic "I have no control over my life" dream. You have too much to cope with, no help with it and you feel like you have no real control over your current circumstances and destiny.

I don't really read dreams....This is just my opinion......Does it ring any bells|? Should I give up the day job?

Sounds good to me Tree

It does seem Jo that you have alot to cope with, the bags are weighing you down, this is the case in your normal day to day life, you are juggling many things all at once. Getting lost is perhaps not knowing which way to turn, ie to move forward, you say you are always unable to find a seat? This could be that you are searching out where you fit in? I do not read dreams but they do interest me, Dreams are supposed to be trying to give us a message, ie your subconcious self knows what you need/should do?

The upshot is you do juggle work/family/your Mum etc, in fact lots of things, you do such a great job and you are so hardworking. But perhaps it is now time to look at what you want/need out of your life. Obviously easier said than done, but small steps always help. Hugs Matey and do take care, think about having some me time yourself, drinking could just be the me time you crave, I don't know and I am probably not making a whole lot of sense, but be honest with yourself and the answers will come. You know I think you are totally fab and Budgie does worry about you :A (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Tree hope the work is going ok? Try and not get stressed, just think how brill your new kitchen and bathroom will be? I mean you can swank over to flylady with everything gleaming, shiney and new Hey they will all want one Hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Lurky thankyou matey and I have mailed you Hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pen sorry to hear things are not good sweetheart, hope life gets better soon. Big hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Miss P its 9af days for Budgie please, glad you are a little better sweetheart, hugs to you and Dear Piglet (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fay sorry you have a cold too, hope it doesn't turn into a full blown bug, take care and look after yourself. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sim its a nightmare for you, but if you stay sober you can move forward with this, I know its really hard, but well done on trying to sort it all out. Keep with it mate, things will get better. Hugs (())xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Graeme as ever hugs and you are a diamond :A (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sparkles hope you are ok hunny? Ym hugs to you too, 40sm hope you are feeling a bit better and can get about ok? 115k hugs and hoping you are ok too? 69 Chick, BP, Molls, 365, DC, FH, Eselt, SSG, Maman,DB, Marru and Shaggy as ever hugs. Ra nice to see you about a bit more mate. HS nice to see you back too hunny, you too Beachbeth, Nra well done and hugs too. Hi to Bis and Heath. Quite a few members missing hope everyone is ok? And I miss Ms Honey Bear too.

Ym meant to say thanks for you honest post to Sim, things are never as bad as we think, enjoy the kids while you can mate :-)

So thats all folks
Off for a cup of Rosie Lee and then its bedtime for me
Love n hugs
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

69chick

Wow Budgie fab post, don't know how you remember everyone hope you are feeling better now :A

I had a dream last night about a good friend who I don't see very often, we were out for an evening and she was sporting a bit of a beard but didn't seem to realise till someone pointed it out and she went crying to the ladies and shaved it off !!!! I don't think I want to know what that one is telling me :rotfl:

I do have a similar dream to you though Jo that is recurring, I am always going for an appointment/interview and I am running late and the time is just ticking away and I for some reason can't get myself going and the whole time in the dream I seem to have that horrible feeling you get when you are late....I think this one is possibly linked to me always feeling like I have too much to do and sort out and I am never on top of everything.....

Miss P another af day for me today and thanks so much for scoring for the month, it must be quite difficult to keep on top of.....xx

Yesterday wasn't af but I only had 1 bottle of becks with dh, we found out that my neice wants to rent our house and then buy it in about 6 months time,which is a massive weight off my mind, she will move into it how it is (so no need for all the diy jobs I thought we would have to do)....all systems are go now for our relocation back down south...I will really really miss a lot of things about here though....so after all that waffle, it meant that when dh bought some beers I fancied one with our celebration takeaway but what was nice was that even though I had thought I would have more, I didn't want another one..

YM I totally get what you mean about the kids, my three are 8, 4 and 4 and growing fast, I will be lost without cbeebies

Although I am af tonight I have managed to polish off a very large chunk of a family sized fruit n nut chocolate, feel quite _pale_ now

skintscottishgirl

Morning All,

Just a quick one to declare 5 AF days please Miss P

Hope everyone is doing well this fine morning...

Off to get ready for work there's nothing else for it......:D

SSG

Lurkio

Morning all

another one for me please Miss P.... 5 now, I think

Gosh, look at the time!! Gotta dash....