MSE Parents Club Part 12

Natalie85

workinmummy wrote: »

No have been told how fab it is by loads of people. Obviously loosing huge amounts of cash, is much preferable to spending it treating your family.

by lost do you mean spent????

if not and he actually lost it, id of kicked him back out the door to retrace every single step!!! :mad:

tarajayne

Oh and Mgirl, go with the flow for now, too early to be worrying about patterns. Just lots of cuddles. XXX

My_Fathers_Daughter

musogirl295 wrote: »

Hi everyone!

I'm moving over here from the pregnancy thread and thought I'd introduce myself. Holly Alyssa was born last Tuesday weighing 6lbs 13oz after rather a long drawn out labour and we brought her home on Friday. We're struggling to adjust to her sleeping pattern at the moment. Lots of sleeping during the day and continuous feeding during the night! Please tell me this doesn't last forever?!?!

Hi musogirl!

Congratulations! It feels like it is going to last forever at your end but believe me before you know it you will have a walking, talking toddler on your hands!!

Everyone says it but do try to sleep whenever Holly sleeps, it will make the world of difference! And stuff the housework for a while (I am still saying that at 15 months LOL!). Are you BF or FF? I am guessing that this is your first?

tiamai_d wrote: »

It doesn't last forever, musogirl And congratulations!!!

MFD, it started to get right out of hand with race and social status coming into it. And that those with implants (or aids) were no longer welcome in the deaf community at all. It was quite shocking that there was such venom coming from the deaf community because the parents chose to get him implants. Guess I just never expected to see the nasty side of what I'd always seen as a welcoming community. The way the comments were worded it was very 'oh how dare you choose to fix your baby, it's insulting to every deaf person'. They were basically told they were no longer welcome. In my head it's like the physically disabled community saying get out because you use a splint/prosthetic/wheelchair/go to physio etc. Hard to explain, so I'll stop now.

What I was trying to say was that these opinions are quite common amongst deaf society - not that anyone has a right to judge or say what is right or wrong - in my experience I would say I am not surprised at the comments or the strength of them It does make me sad though.

Sami_Bee

tarajayne wrote: »

Congratulations Mgirl! XXX

Sami, I read your FB warning, how do you know if you have the worm?

check your groups list, you should never 'like' any stupid groups but most deffo not ones that have titles telling you to join to be able to see something funny/shocking

boogellyboo

Congrats and welcome mgirl. As the others say, lots of feeding and cuddles is perfectly normal at this stage, the constant feeds do get easier

cazscoob

Congratulations Mgirl yes it does get easier but maytake time! just make every visitor make you a cupof tea and get them to do jobs NEVER SAY NO!!!

My cousin decided against the implant for his daughter, im not sure on the reasons but im sure it was something to do with not wanting to put her under more stress ect. Her mum walked out and left her and her sister, as they have different dads the girls were split up I think the parents were doing what they thought was right for the child and it is very cruel to have comments like that made.

tarajayne

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

What I was trying to say was that these opinions are quite common amongst deaf society - not that anyone has a right to judge or say what is right or wrong - in my experience I would say I am not surprised at the comments or the strength of them It does make me sad though.

Do you think that some who have disabilities that can't be helped with aids, may be bitter of thoses who have ones that can? Or that some just don't see their disability as an issue at all? Or a bit of both types of people? I just think as a society we put people into groups too much with makes problems like this, this was why I never wanted DS1 in a special school. Wouldn't we see disabled people in a different light if they were all in mainstream school as we grew up, so we all grew up together so it was all the norm rather than as it is now where I can take Ben out, just an example, and he asks why someone is in a wheelchair, or why someone can't see? Dunno, just thinking out loud.

Sami_Bee

Tara, do you not agree that some children just aren't suited to mainstream school then?
just interested on your view

workinmummy

Natalie85 wrote: »

by lost do you mean spent????

We think alike! Especially after some CSI work, where I found his "lost" bank card in the inside pocket of one of his work suit jackets. But no cash.

"I don't remember putting that there!" was his response.

Welcome Mgirl :hello:
Does it get better? Not cracked the night time sleeping yet, but yes it does. And you too will soon have a lovely smiley interactive ('tis my new work) baby, who melts your heart.

tarajayne

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Tara, do you not agree that some children just aren't suited to mainstream school then?
just interested on your view

Oh absolutely, but I also think that some can do well in mainstream, but as before it needs looking at one situation at a time. The specialist we were dealing with all those years ago was just 'special needs must go here' whereas I didn't believe that was right for 'us'. Maybe more interaction between the schools, we have other school events all the time with schools in the area, why are 'all' schools not included? I don't understand, why should the children in special schools not get to join in?