MSE Parents Club Part 12

My_Fathers_Daughter

Jakesmummy wrote: »

well had tea, am :mad: with 'OH' (and other half is not how i would describe him at the mo!! more like kh!!) we had an argument earlier and he scraped his tea straight into the bin, i am fuming!! i went to the effort of peeling potatoes and went out for the pies, the kids could have had it for their lunch tomorrow if he didnt want it, <insert lots of ranty swearwords!!!>

....anyway hope everyones having a better sunday than me!!

Jakesmummy I would be FURIOUS!!! I can'r even begin to tell you how angry that would make me. Whatever would make him be such an idiot?



DH's family came round and we piled into the garden. We have a big garden that MIL's partner looks after on a Wednesday whilst MIL looks after Benjamin so it was lovely for the kids to be amused playing and the adults to sit in the afternoon sun and have a gossip!!

Benjamin ate his dinner outside too! Bless him - shouting (ba)nana at the top of his voice!!

Now have fish and chips in the oven - not quite a chippie tea but will fill a hole!

kindofagilr

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

HV advice is that baby's digestive system isn't ready until 17 weeks at the earliest and anything before six months is considered 'early'. I weaned H early by HV standards, but he was ready and is now a great eater a lot more settled than before. I would personally be very reluctant to try before 17 weeks, but only you know your baby. How about Hungry Baby Milk? I think that is designed for babies like E, although I'm no expert. I think maybe Glam uses/used it so maybe able to help?

Hmm, how come they sell baby food for 4 months plus?

Yeah I dont want to change his milk from the colic milk cos I think it helps, I will just have to feed him more often lol

Ladybird he's only just coming up to 9 weeks on tuesday, LOL what does beetroot do?

EA why would the rice do that? I thought his colic was becasue he swallows air sometimes when eating are there other foods he shouldnt have?

aless02

Okay, I'm going to stick my oar in and be annoying.

Why are people in such a rush to wean? Milk is what is healthy and natural and provides the key nutrition that babies need. No one should "plan" to wean early until their baby actually reaches that age and THEN you can evaluate whether the baby is ready or not for food. If the baby seems like they need food when they hit around 17 weeks, then fine, but it really annoys me when people with 8 week (or whatever) old babies start getting all keyed up and automatically plan on shoving rice into their kid the second they hit 17 weeks or whatever. Why be in such a rush to have your baby move on so quickly??

So kindof, not a go at you, but stop worrying so much about what E may or may not be doing in the future. He may need 8oz bottles in a few weeks - he may not!! He may need some food at 17 weeks, but he may actually be happy with milk until he's 6 months old! There's absolutely no way of predicting it, so my advice is to stop stressing so much and just cross that bridge when you come to it.

End rant. Feel free to tell me to shut up, but it's really been cheesing me off lately (and not just here...I guess I'm sick of people asking me if I'm giving Finn food already. F*** off, he's only 19 weeks!)

(and just in case anyone reads this wrong, I'm not having at go at everyone who weans "early", I just don't like people who do it just because rather than actually listening to THEIR baby...not that anyone on here does that - grah, I think you all see what I'm trying to say. )

kindofagilr

I was only asking for advice on what to do if he wants more than 9ozs a feed.

got-it-spend-it

Do you have a good HV, Kindof? Maybe worth talking to her just to see what she suggests, her past experience etc. I'm lucky and have a fab HV who has a very relaxed attitude to most things but they see so many people that they can be a good resource.

SugarSpun

KOAG if he wants more than 9oz in a feed I'd switch to hungry baby milk

He is a big baby for his age, but he's still developing and his tummy won't be ready for solid food for a while. So see how it goes and enjoy his development

Gorgeous FB pictures BTW, and lovely photos EA and Nicki. I'm sorry your family didn't make it over

:eek: Husband is changing Molly for bed and she's just attempted to wriggle off the changing table! I heard his panicked voice, Molly Elizabeth, stop that now! as though she can understand Still, it's good that he's in agreement that middle names come out when kids are being told off :rotfl:

Dinner related rant ahead:
We got in a while ago from celebrating Molly's half in half out day, she's now longer out than in There's a local steakhouse, we went there the day before she was born, it was the first place we took her to eat, we were there on our anniversary... a special-occasion place, you know? We called this week to make a reservation and the guy said he was too busy for us. So we called three more times and only on the third time they actually did it. Got there, it was about 2/3 empty, and they gave us a dirty table I had to wipe it myself. Then OH asked the manager why nobody would make a reservation for us and he just said, Oh, that couldn't have happened. THEN some woman brought two dogs in :eek: and it was only when OH requested she be nowhere near us that they moved her, but she came over and b!tched us out because we didn't want her "very friendly" dogs beside us and anyway we have a baby and she's far worse behaved. But the dogs started growling at two little girls who walked past and scared them half to death, and did it every time the poor little things walked past to and from the salad buffet. And then we saw a giant beetle scampering across the floor. I think we need a new restaurant

Molly was very well behaved though, ate her approximate body weight in cucumber and three french fries, and then gummed and sucked a strip of steak white.

aless02

kindofagilr wrote: »

I was only asking for advice on what to do if he wants more than 9ozs a feed.

I guess I was just trying to (poorly) say was try not to worry and it will all be okay.

(lame but I can't seem to put thoughts into words tonight...:o:o)

eta: SS said exactly what I was trying to:

SugarSpun wrote: »

So see how it goes and enjoy his development

Jakesmummy

Thanks mfd, I still am furious!! i felt like pulling it out the bin and shoving it in his face!!

dont really know what to say with the weaning thing as i have experienced both, jake was always a hungry baby, guzzled his milk and i started him on some baby foods at 17weeks, jasmine was happy on her milk till just before 6 month, but they do advise between 17 and 24 weeks, so it really bugs me that 5months is described as early!! its not its after the 'allowed' start time!! anyway, my point is every baby is diff and just cos one baby is happy to wait till 6 month another may not! and at the end of the day it really doesnt affect anyone else so i dont care if someone weans their baby at 4 months old, its up to them...

dont mean to offend anyone just dont know what to say, but kindof, best thing to do is just see how it goes really, x

fernliebee

KOAG- It might be his colic that is making him seem hungrier. I found with DD who was very windy, that she couldn't tell the difference between having bubbles in her tummy and it being a bit uncomfy because of that, and the uncomfy feeling of actually being hungry. I found once her wind settled so did all her 'hungry' cue's she was giving me. I think babies just equate any feelings in their bellies as hunger (bit like me )

You may well find once his colic eases off his feeds even out a bit. Like everyone else has said though only you know your baby and ultimately it is your choice on what he needs at any one time.

My_Fathers_Daughter

LOL - weaning is one of those subjects that always causes a stir!!


Benjamin was a big baby and always very hungry (although I couldn't tell you how often he had milk because I never bothered to think about it, just kept offering boob when he showed the signs LOL). When he was 15 weeks I went to a BLW seminar which was interesting to watch some videos, discuss some of the theory and chat to other mums who were BLW their babies.

I raised a question which is basically that I think the application of 'dates' to a baby's development is fundamentally flawed (we all know how they develop differently - yet apparently at 17 weeks someone flips a switch in EVERY child to say it might be safe to wean, and then again at 6 months??? :cool:)

The BLW response is that a baby is physically ready to eat when they can
a) Sit up unaided
b) Guide a piece of food into their mouth
c) Swallow said piece of food (they have got rid of the tongue-thrust reflex)

So I waited for that. Benjamin was sitting unaided at 4 months but I didn't wean him until 5 months or so - and then it was much more like experimenting and playing with food than feeding for a while.

It all seems like such a long time ago now!!




FWIW - from reading on here I don't think many people find that weaning makes a non-sleeping baby sleep better. I think we all have it in our heads a little that the more they eat the better they sleep but I don't think that always comes out in the wash.