MSE Parents Club Part 12

weezl74

tiamai_d wrote: »

Weezl, don't worry about SALT, in my experience they won't even look at a child under 3 because it's not a problem till then. Lots of children talk later. I think you are clever enough to know that you are speaking to him enough bla bla bla (which is what I was lectured about, 'oh do you let him watch tv all day?' yeah totally cos I lock him in a cot and let him stare at tv and never speak to him at all, you idiot) read books and talk about the pictures. And SALT's don't appreciate HV sending children off to see them with supposed speech problems, they much prefer nurseries to send them because they actually spend soem time with the child.

Speaking of nursery, that was one thing that REALLY helped Chris. Going to nursery and seeing children his age speaking, so if you were worried, I'd look down that road rather than SALT.

hello tia how's the loft?

Ah ok, not salt then for a bit.... OK

I like the idea of nursery but I'm worried the welsh will be a set back cos he'll get confused!

emlou2009

Another thing Weezl, my cousin was classed as "special needs" when young and didnt attend "proper" school til he was 7 because he was at a special school for children with learning difficulties, he is now 17, achieved 12 A-C GCSE's last year and is now doing his A levels, you honestly wouldnt know he was ever classed as not normal

3onitsway

Weezl We have 'yeah' too now, but it's often said with a 'no' shaking head! :rotfl:

Sami_Bee

3onitsway wrote: »

I've heard of it, but not been. I think they're constantly advertising on the radio. Why, are you going?

nah just saw it on tv and thought 'ooh I've never had south african'

Sarah_Joanne

weezl74 wrote: »

I think he understands 'can you clap?' and 'can you wave?' because he does those whenever we say it. But everything else seems a bit flukey really, like he's just guessing until he gets the response that shows he's got it right (us smiling, clapping, saying 'good boy!')

Isn't that how he learns though?

Becles

BeenieCat wrote: »

Can anyone tell me how to word it so i'm basically saying i can't do it, don't want to be tied into it every week... Without being arsey and still keeping things friendly?! Or is it not possible?

You could start talking about cellars and axes a lot while giving her an evil wink and grinning manically at the boy

I think you're just going to have to be blunt and say you can't do it as it's too much being on your own with yours never mind looking after additional one. I know it's hard to do.

One of my sons friends invited himself to a football group Josh used to go to. It meant I had him at home for about 45 mins, then dropped him off on the way home from the leisure centre. He was hyper and stuff would get thrown round the bedroom while they were getting changed into football gear so I had to keep rescuing socks and stuff from on top of the wardrobe and on the lampshade. It was doing my head in and I was building up the courage to say no more, but he joined a local team and his Mam decided to stop the leisure centre sessions.

Still writing this essay but the group project is done. It's such a boring essay and I'd rather be outside in the sunshine

emlou2009

I think theres something wrong with me, the NSPCC advert was on and it didnt touch me, then the RSPCA Home For Life advert came on and I welled up at the thought of the poor kitty being abandoned by the owner dying

3onitsway

Sami_Bee wrote: »

nah just saw it on tv an though 'ooh never had south african'

Can't say it appeals to me - but I said that about the gorgeous Argentinian before I went there. We had a South African restaurant open just up the road, but it closed down before we got round to going - it only lasted about 3 months, and was always empty.

tiamai_d

weezl74 wrote: »

hello tia how's the loft?

Ah ok, not salt then for a bit.... OK

I like the idea of nursery but I'm worried the welsh will be a set back cos he'll get confused!

If it will make you feel better, do go see a SALT. They will be able to asses him and hearing from someone who knows what they are talking about will hopefully put your mind at ease one way or another. You can also get a list of what you can do to help him. But be warned, they probably won't be worried.

A nursery is a good idea if you were thinking about it. It's not so much about the language they speak in, but just that they are speaking.

When Chris went to his first one aged 3, he went in not trying to communicate at all and came out after a few months of 2 afternoons per week, pointing to things and making sounds. Basically he had copied the other children who would ask for things and he worked out that not everyone is psychic like mummy and he has to communicate.

As well as that, the staff are usually very good at picking up on problems. They have to write down daily diaries so there is a file of evidence which gives a much better indication of what he is doing. Better than my memory anyway!

But I'm not bullying you, I've just found nursery to be a very good tool for things like this. But I have a great nursery and have been spoilt.

And btw, I made carrot cake last night :T:T:T:T it's YUMMMYYYYYYYY!!!!!! Kids love it, even Chris the pick little so and so

workinmummy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

he may not make it to nursery but he's already signed up for school, see I did do something I have attendance cards for both boys that we have to get signed to prove we are regular church goers so they can get in. I should ring the school and check they got our form tho! :eek:imagine if they didn't get it!! I was so lazy and posted it even though I drive past the school like 20 times a week!

Was that form just not to register an interest though. There will be another form to fill in when he's actually due to start reception. Don't forget to post/ take that one in as it will have a deadline.

Glamazon wrote: »

Hi weezl :hello:

Speaking of BIL, did I mention he's coming back? He's under strict instructions that as soon as he gets his exam results in August then he either moves out on his own (passes exam) or moves back home (fails exam).

I'm gonna miss the spare room for 6-8 weeks

Noooooooo :eek: