MSE Parents Club Part 12

My_Fathers_Daughter

Fitzio - all I have said is I don't understand. And I don't. If any of my friends wanted me but not my children then I would simply choose not to associate with those people any more.

Not meant to offend. Just a statement of fact.

SugarSpun

Thank you again lovely ladies! It's been another lovely day.

redmel1621 wrote: »

TBH if dh did this I would do one of two things...either change the locks or pack my bags and be nowhere to be found when he did get back!!!! That is the kind of behaviour that I might expect of a rebelling teen..not a grown man who is married and has a child:mad:

I totally agree. Husband wouldn't dare and not only because he knows I'd be gone. He wouldn't take advantage like that - and I wouldn't stay with him if he did.

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I wouldn't want to go to a wedding that specified no children - what kind of people don't want children at their wedding? I am horrified!! I wouldn't want to be friends with those kinds of people.

Fitzio wrote: »

We didn’t want a big wedding and only had 34 people there. If I invited children it would have increased the numbers and we couldn’t have had the lovely venue we did. I don’t feel I need to justify my choices personally, but to call people self obsessed etc is ridiculous. And why does it mean you don’t like the kids just because they are not invited to the wedding? Lots of people have weddings without children. It doesn’t make us children haters.

If you choose to have kids, you should always put them first, but it doesn’t mean that everyone else has to bow down to your choice. I know it’s not directed at me personally, but I am actually really quite angry at your attitudes and some of the comments.

We had no kids at our wedding except Molly, who was a 4.5 month bump under my dress. This is because none of our guests had any, but we probably wouldn't have invited them anyway, partly because the wedding was a Friday and they'd have had to take a day off school. It wasn't our self-obsession but logistics and happenstance.

I think it's down to personal choice. People who have kids or love kids are more likely to make sure the kids enjoy themselves by including little touches like party bags - people who don't have kids or who don't spend a lot of time around them might not think to entertain them and the kids are then bored and acting out and perpetuating the myth of "kids misbehave at weddings".

Anyway, I am off to Budapest tomorrow for work so will be on briefly in the morning. Goodnight xxx

tarajayne

Fitzio wrote: »

I am astounded that so many of you think it’s unacceptable for people getting married to choose who they want to attend their wedding. I am sure there are plenty of posts recently from the same people saying “it’s your wedding, do what you want etc”. Why can’t you respect other people’s choices without criticising them?

We didn’t want a big wedding and only had 34 people there. If I invited children it would have increased the numbers and we couldn’t have had the lovely venue we did. I don’t feel I need to justify my choices personally, but to call people self obsessed etc is ridiculous. And why does it mean you don’t like the kids just because they are not invited to the wedding? Lots of people have weddings without children. It doesn’t make us children haters.

If you choose to have kids, you should always put them first, but it doesn’t mean that everyone else has to bow down to your choice. I know it’s not directed at me personally, but I am actually really quite angry at your attitudes and some of the comments.

I think it was completely your choice as it was your day and you should have exactly what you both wanted. X As someone who has no family here it would be impossible for me to find a babysitter and I would feel guilty at turning down an invite to someone who has thought highly enough of me to send one. I think I would be cross if it was a member of my family as I suppose I feel family children should be included but as for friends, no I don't think I'd be cross but I wouldn't go. I would possibly go if it was just an evening do though. XXX

Sami_Bee

Diving in

Fitz - I totally agree with you, if I had got married before having children as was planned I wouldn't have invited children. I don't see the problem? I hate seeing kids running riot as they inevitably do at things like that, its annoying

tarajayne

I do have a babysitter booked from 9pm for ours though. She's whisking them away so Mummy and Daddy can get tipsy!!!

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Diving in

Fitz - I totally agree with you, if I had got married before having children as was planned I wouldn't have invited children. I don't see the problem? I hate seeing kids running riot as they inevitably do at things like that, its annoying

Hate to see children enjoying themselves?

I don't believe that of you Mrs H.

Again - all I can say is that this is so far removed from anything I have ever come across I find it completely inexplicable.

Since when were kids a nuisance?

*excuses herself from what she is finding to be a difficult conversation*

Sami_Bee

Happy Birthday SS!! (sorry been meaning to say that all day )

Ps. I waitressed at a few weddings that were all geared for the kids being occupied but it was still a nightmare, I much prefered the grown ups only ones

jennynoo

Sorry for starting something I won't hold a grudge as the happy couple can choose whatever they want, I'm just upset it means I can't go and that they haven't realised that.

redmel1621

Right I am off, I have probably drank too much coke and am hyper and saying the wrong things, so will booger off for now. I probably would have been better having a beer!!!

Will catch up tomorrow xx

tarajayne

Ben and Erin already have a list of requests for the DJ, I'm facing an evening of Mika!!!

Anyhow, lets change the subject, what's everyone doing tomorrow? I just looked and it says showers midday, I wanna go on a picnic as OH is tiling the floor.