MSE Parents Club Part 12

tarajayne

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

DSS has eaten less than Benjamin today his temp is up but he is not feeling overly ill, his throat hurts when he swallows but he is mostly okay. I managed to get him to have some rice pudding before bed but I worry when kids won't eat - any tips?

Don't worry, he'll eat when he wants to. Lots of drinks and ice lollies. Tonsillitis is awful, no school on Monday!

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I don't understand it in the slightest. Why would you not want children there? What was their reasoning?

'Cos she's a biatch and he did everthing she wanted. :cool: He spent years thinking they were trying for kids and we found the fertility pills when clearing out her stuff (she had an affair) and she hadn't been taking them.

Off to ask him now. X

redmel1621

I'm ok thanks Tara...and yes, dh does need a kick up the bum, but don't worry he is not getting a minutes peace, I have done non-stop naggin haha, it has caused a few arguments but tbh I couldn't care less....he is not going to sit on his backside while I run around like a loon and if he tries it (which he does) then he will have sore ears and a sore head!! he will soon realise it is easier to get up and help out:)

MFD the two reasons I can see for people not wanting kiddies at their wedding is 1, they have spent tens of thousands on it and don't want anything broken/wrecked/accidents etc through having children there. 2, They are extremely self-obsessed and couldn't bear the thought of their guests having to pay attention to anyone/thing other than them:)

Fitzio

Figure of hate here then.

I didn't have any children at my wedding. We had a small wedding, but a few of our friends who came have children. They were glad to get babysitters and have a night out. It's unfortunate that Jenny doesn't have anyone to look after Erin, but it's entirely her friend's decision who she invites to her wedding.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sorry Fitzio. I just don't understand at all


But anyone who is my friend and has had a child makes their child important in my life too...



*is confused and glad I haven't ever come across this IRL*



Edit - would be interested if you would change your mind now Fitzio - feel free to ignore me - just being nosey! xx

searching_me

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Love the new avvy!!

We only had 23 at our wedding. 16 adults and 7 kids

Then we had a reception with 200+ there at night although it was the day that England went out of the world cup last time around!!

my reasoning to it is why spend loads of money on just one day when you could use it to set up the rest of your life .. some people spend £1000's and £1000's on a day when you could just have a cheap day saying your vows (which is the only part thats suppose to matter) and use those £1000's on the savings for a house or setting up the house you already have for your future family life .. sorry went in to one there x

got-it-spend-it

To play devil's advocate I can see why some people wouldn't want children at their wedding. Firstly some people just aren't into children and as SM says see them as a mess creating nuisance, hence not wanting them there. Secondly I can understand that some venues are not very well suited to children crashing and running about, although I don't really think this is a problem in the case of babes in arms. Thirdly I think in some cases numbers are very restricted and some people see saying no children as a way to cut back on numbers and ensure they can invite all the grown-ups they want to. I'm not saying I agree with any of these reasons, but I can understand why a childless couple might decide to say no children. What I really, really hate is when couples invite some children (say those of close family) and not others.

emlou2009

I dont understand the "no kids" thing at weddings either. I dont see why someone would want to have their wedding in a venue that doesnt have kids either. A friend of mine got married on Thursday this week and specified no kids after 8pm as the venue wasnt licensed - the evening do started at 7! Needless to say we made our apologies.

redmel1621

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Sorry Fitzio. I just don't understand at all


But anyone who is my friend and has had a child makes their child important in my life too...



*is confused and glad I haven't ever come across this IRL*



Edit - would be interested if you would change your mind now Fitzio - feel free to ignore me - just being nosey! xx

I would also be interested in this...I 'think' most of the people I have known get married and not allow children, have been couples who don't already have children of their own?

My old manager spent 2yrs planning and nearly 50 000 on her wedding!!!! No she didn't have children, and no, children weren't allowed.

EDIT - Although i would never really slate anyone for their wedding choices as, at the end of the day, it is their wedding:) Peole should always do what they want to ensure they enjoy their special day.

tarajayne

He can't remember exactly, but he thinks it's because she said it would be a better party without children and the adults would have a better time, yeah right! :mad:

Well, I on the other hand have thought about the fact that the church service will be at least 45mins long so have made party bags for the kids to be given out at the start with word searches, pencils and puzzles in. And books for the little ones. And I may have popped some chocolate in by accident too!

Krystaltips

Tara, I disagree with the Ice Lollies and a sore throat... I always found hot drinks and soup are a lot easier on swollen tonsils than cold things...

Mfd, if he's not feeling like eating I would just go with it, keep his fluids up and dose with calpol/calprofen as required... They always bounce back quick enough...

We had loooooooooads of kids at our wedding, all my friends have children... It's probably one of the biggest reasons we're friends lol...