Its a wonderful life... Want to try.....?? A Single parents View.. !!xx!

krisskross

black-saturn wrote:

You seem very bitter.

And where do you get that idea from Viktory's posts? Or am I to assume that is your silly get you back, n'er n'er type thing that children in the playground do because she, and not only Viktory,has said similar things to you in the course of this thread. Do grow up.

black-saturn

Jet wrote:

I know that there are many university educated single parents who either stay at home with their children through choice or through not having a choice due to lack of adequate, flexible childcare.

I'm university educated and I also have 7 A levels at grade A but I CHOOSE to stay at home and do menial little homeworking jobs for a living instead of go out to work. I know I could get a really well paid job and earn lots of K but I had children to be with them and enjoy them, not to give them to someone else.

black-saturn

Scarlett1 wrote:

no-one is asking you to justify yourself, like single parents dont have to justify themselves to you, if you post drivel then I will come along with toilet paper and wipe it up

Well said :T :T

black-saturn

Scarlett1 wrote:

defensive because we dont agree with you, you seemed to put you're back up quite quickly when it was mentioned that you didnt help yourself in the adult world

Yes it sounds like she sat around watching trisha until her OH came along and bucked her up.

singlehouseholder

black-saturn wrote:

This is the preconcieved idea of what working people think stay at home lone parents do. We don't all sit at home watching TV all day, there isnt time to.

I dont think that,although I wish I was sat at home watching tv,instead of at work!! I'd go for BBC though, Homes under the hammer,, trading up, car booty and bargain hunt!!

lynzpower

I saw the programme last night and I was hearted, as I have been heartened before when I have worked with teenagers who become pregnant.

They could teach me a thing or two about moneysaving.

Lets face it they were very young, and at 20, I was getting drunk in a student union on cheap cider, writing pointless essays, and getting into a hell of a lot more debt than they were last night. The children presented very well, and the relationships looked warm, positive and loving. certainly put my "achievements" into perspective.

Being brought up in the care system, certainly does not equip young people for good budgeting, even being brought up in a 2-parent both working family doesnt always equip for good budgeting, ( im testament to that!)

Could you do up your flat with 700 and have change for nights out? Im not sure I could even manage it, even with the cash backing and the like that Im used to from here.

I think the word "overpriced" re the coat has been taken out of context, I think she was really talking about whether it was around the average price of a coat, and it was, but she felt she could never afford it. However, in saying that she could have by choosing to cut back on things for her sons, and have them go without, which she wasnt willing to do.

I think both of the girls presented as excellent parents and value for money for the taxpayer. If it costs 165 a week for a childminder, but they raise themselves and thier kids on this, then thats moneysaving- isnt it?

Its always infinately easier on those single parents that have involved ex's and decent extended family/ neighbours that can help with informal childcare. I remember working with a woman ( whos extended family would be very risky, she knew she could not leave her child with them) when i worked in children & famiiies social services who was a recovering alcoholic, & wanted to go back to work, so she wasnt in the flat all day wanting to drink. I managed to co-ordinate childcare for free for her while she did courses ( courstesy of new deal) but it all dried up when she was offered a job, there just wasnt the funding. in the end she worked very part time (under 10 hours) as thats the only childcare I could source. She was offered the managers job full time, even though she would have got credits and the like on top, there was NO ONE to undertake the childcare, there just wasnt anyone to do it. ( hence local drives for childminders nationwide)

Its all very well with this "on your bike" talk, but in my experience there just is not the support from the state to make it viable. In social services, the main thing that I was asked for was opportunities to help people get back to work. the lack of childcare resources was ALWAYS the stumbling block, not the money, the benefits agency, the organisation or the desire to work or the availability of employment.

black-saturn

krisskross wrote:

And where do you get that idea from Viktory's posts? Or am I to assume that is your silly get you back, n'er n'er type thing that children in the playground do because she, and not only Viktory,has said similar things to you in the course of this thread. Do grow up.

No, they do seem to be getting bitter.

krisskross

black-saturn wrote:

I'm university educated and I also have 7 A levels at grade A but I CHOOSE to stay at home and do menial little homeworking jobs for a living instead of go out to work. I know I could get a really well paid job and earn lots of K but I had children to be with them and enjoy them, not to give them to someone else.

If you have a degree could you not just do the year long course to enable you to teach? This would solve your financial and child care problems.

astonsmummy

black-saturn wrote:

My boyfriend is a lone parent MAN (yes they do exist) with a daughter. He has just started working in retail with the same company as I work for. He is only £18 per week better off than if he didn't work. He has to get up at 5am and walk 40 minutes each way to get there (if he took the bus every day he wouldnt be any better off). In the winter it will be awful. Wheres the incentive in that?

I work 2 nights a week (22hrs) and am about £40 better off, maybe your boyfriends tax credits havent been worked out properly

black-saturn

krisskross wrote:

If you have a degree could you not just do the year long course to enable you to teach? This would solve your financial and child care problems.

I don't want to be a teacher.