I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

Lexxi

I don't think many of us are planning on having very many weddings so it's peftectly understandable that we want everything to be perfect and that means getting a little out of hand. I for one am quite happy ranting on here and seeing that some things may not actually be feasible and I am being scary, it's helping me keep things within reality and also know that I'm not alone.

Alyssa_C_2

joolzred wrote: »

Because in the end it is *the relationship* and the vows of marriage and not the wedding trimmings that count. I held the view when I got married and had to rein in certain excesses & expectations from others then....

Shades of violet or designs of invites, or the differences between tablecloths actually becaome amazingly unimportant 5,10,20 (god willing) 50 years after the event.

Have a happy wedding day everyone

I think we all know that it's about our loved one (at least I hope so ) but lets face it, we all need the rant! I love that you hold this view and I hope your day is super special and you are well enough for next year.
However, I still feel the need to push certain peoples faces in the cake sometimes :rotfl:

TamVilla80

joolzred wrote: »

My word!

I'm beginning to plan for my (second) wedding and I am actually quite shocked by some comments on this thread.

Take a deep breath.... and remember why you are getting married. It's because you love this person so much that you cannot imagine not being with them for the next 50 years or more. Relax.

Anything else is pretty irrelevant, don't you feel?

Colour schemes, mum's hat, bridesmaids glasses(!), partners invites, reception themes etc etc, all this is just additional dressing and paraphernalia.

I did the big(ish) full white wedding and the extent of your trimmings will guarantee you nothing but stress - please remember the person you want to be with and your relationship with them is all that counts.

Who cares if the flowers are slightly the wrong shade of pink? If the photos show your uncle Trev looking pishhed? If your bridesmaid trips over your train and grazes her knee? It will NOT ruin your life for evermore - but getting so stressed and riled that you become a different person and possibly alienate your fiance, your family and friends could do just that.

I've been seriously ill in the years between my first marriage and my upcoming second (which we might get around to next year!) and the one thing I've learnt is that material stuff (the clothes, flowers etc) is just tat in the end. The important things are the people around you and the love you share and that's all that is of any worrh.

Here endeth Aunty Jools's sermon - please let the BZ ranting resume.

I'm with you Joolzred, exactly true! I read this thread and just laugh at how sad (and to be honest, a bit shallow) some people are.

I'm marrying my oh because I truly love him and want the world to know that we are commited to each other and hopefully will be forever. As long as he turns up (lol) and we get married, everyone could turn up in their pjs for all we care. We just want to share a nice day with our family and friends. If it they notice that my flowers are a slightly different red to the favours, or that we havent had chair covers because they are a complete waste of time and money, then they can sod off! I've got more important things to worry about than if someones doesn't like my shoes.

Alyssa_C_2

Ummm, ladies I think the whole point of the thread was that it was light hearted and would take some of the stress out of the planning. Lets face it, if I had my way I'd be walking on sunshine all the way through planning and marrying and for rest of my life with H2B. :j

However, some people throw spanners in the works and sometimes you need to throttle the caterers etc. :rotfl:
But the ladies posting on here are trying to stay grounded as much as possible. Yes all those bells and whistles are not important, but we all want our special day with hubby to be golden and perfect. I don't care if that color isn't right etc, but I do care if BIL2B gets drunk and throws up on my shoes. Or swears at my guests. Or tries to punch someone.
This is our safe place to rant and be reassured.

floss2

shellsuit wrote: »

How can you say all that when you've done it yourself?

If you hadn't split with your husband, you wouldn't say what you had, so that is really unfair.

You don't know why Joolzred & her husband split up, so you cannot imply that she is bitter because her marriage didn't work out.

I was married for 15 years, and have been with my DF over 7 years - I have said & would say exactly the same thing at any point in my adult life - the only bit that really matters is your relationship and why you are getting married. I still believe in marriage after being betrayed, which is why I am marrying again in September.

TamVilla80 wrote: »

I'm with you Joolzred, exactly true! I read this thread and just laugh at how sad (and to be honest, a bit shallow) some people are.

I'm marrying my oh because I truly love him and want the world to know that we are commited to each other and hopefully will be forever. As long as he turns up (lol) and we get married, everyone could turn up in their pjs for all we care. We just want to share a nice day with our family and friends. If it they notice that my flowers are a slightly different red to the favours, or that we havent had chair covers because they are a complete waste of time and money, then they can sod off! I've got more important things to worry about than if someones doesn't like my shoes.

:T Me too, it worries me how monsterous some posters can come across at times. I just hope none of their families or friends read this board as they may get a shock from what they read if they can identify the bride.

shellsuit

floss2 wrote: »

You don't know why Joolzred & her husband split up, so you cannot imply that she is bitter because her marriage didn't work out.

I was married for 15 years, and have been with my DF over 7 years - I have said & would say exactly the same thing at any point in my adult life - the only bit that really matters is your relationship and why you are getting married. I still believe in marriage after being betrayed, which is why I am marrying again in September.



:T Me too, it worries me how monsterous some posters can come across at times. I just hope none of their families or friends read this board as they may get a shock from what they read if they can identify the bride.

Implied that she was bitter, where???? :huh::huh:

She said that she had all the bells and whistles at her first wedding and that she is planning to get married again and won't be having them because they don't matter.

She's had them, so she has no room to tell other ladies not to have them, especially ladies who are getting married for the first time.

bubbles0169

lets get something stright, this is a tongue in cheek tongue out smily thread
it doesnt mean we wil ACTUALLY kill the mil2b cos she said aunty jane from five countries and 50 years away MUST come to your day
its about tongue in cheekily getting it off our chests, for some reason the emotion is multiplied by a hundred, probably directly because of the way something was said/done to the bride2b
its not about whats wrong or right its just light hearted
god i think wed all just belong in the nuthouse else??!!
please can we just keep the 'im a bridezilla 'cos....' thread and open a discussion in the arms if you want to get critical

shellsuit

bubbles0169 wrote: »

lets get something stright, this is a tongue in cheek tongue out smily thread
it doesnt mean we wil ACTUALLY kill the mil2b cos she said aunty jane from five countries and 50 years away MUST come to your day
its about tongue in cheekily getting it off our chests, for some reason the emotion is multiplied by a hundred, probably directly because of the way something was said/done to the bride2b
its not about whats wrong or right its just light hearted
god i think wed all just belong in the nuthouse else??!!
please can we just keep the 'im a bridezilla 'cos....' thread and open a discussion in the arms if you want to get critical

Good idea.

MissGolightly

we're off to cyprus to get married next year, and said to MIL2B rough price will be £600-£800 for a week, but only goes up by a couple of hundred for second week (going all inclusive) she said "i'll not be going, i can't afford that after (OHs sisters) wedding" (which is next May)

oh right yes, sorry, i'll just postpone my wedding even though OH and I have been planning to be married in 2011 since early 2009 and his sister only met her OH in Nov last year!! it's just the way she said it, so matter of factly. plus, OHs H2B earns more than me and OH combined, but MIL2B insists on paying for whole reception because that is "tradition." we are not asking for any help with our wedding, just that people pay their own hol, but she is going to spend more on 1 meal for people at her daughters wedding than she will spend on a 2 week holiday for her and hubby??!!

argh. RUDE!

Birdie85

bubbles0169 wrote: »

lets get something stright, this is a tongue in cheek tongue out smily thread
it doesnt mean we wil ACTUALLY kill the mil2b cos she said aunty jane from five countries and 50 years away MUST come to your day
its about tongue in cheekily getting it off our chests, for some reason the emotion is multiplied by a hundred, probably directly because of the way something was said/done to the bride2b
its not about whats wrong or right its just light hearted
god i think wed all just belong in the nuthouse else??!!
please can we just keep the 'im a bridezilla 'cos....' thread and open a discussion in the arms if you want to get critical

Well said Bubbles! I don't think any of us would seriously ask our guests/families/wedding party to do what we've been saying on here, it's just a fun thread to let out our crazy 'in a perfect world' ideas, this is not serious. If people come on here and don't get that then they shouldn't bother leaving comments when they clearly haven't read the whole thread and so missed the joke!