I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

wanchai_2

AGGGGHHHH my OH is being a complete A.R.S.E this evening!!! Someone stop me calling off the fcuking wedding

bubbles0169

oh no what's he done/doing? Xx

wanchai_2

Just being really selfish. He NEVER wanted a stag but now wants to go for drinks with his friends next Friday - the night before I leave to go to my mum's for the wedding!!! I thought that we would spend our 'last' evening together, but no.

He also wants a few of his friends to stay over that night, even though our tiny house will be like a bombsite with wedding stuff and I have a girl coming to do my nails at 10am on the Saturday. He will no doubt be hungover as hell for the long drive to my mum's as they will stay up drinking till 5am.

When I tried to talk to him about all of this, he accused me of trying to stop him seeing his friends and said that I'd better not be like this when we get married! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

bubbles0169

Oh god why can't he have it on the saturday when you gone

wanchai_2

He's staying at my mum's on the Sat, she is organising a little BBQ and drinks at her house. But he could have it THIS weekend!!!!!!!!!! Or could have any weekend up to now! Grrr!!!!!!!!

double_mummy

hugs for wanchai

lots and lots of hugs xoxox

White_Sapphire

wanchai wrote: »

Just being really selfish. He NEVER wanted a stag but now wants to go for drinks with his friends next Friday - the night before I leave to go to my mum's for the wedding!!! I thought that we would spend our 'last' evening together, but no.

He also wants a few of his friends to stay over that night, even though our tiny house will be like a bombsite with wedding stuff and I have a girl coming to do my nails at 10am on the Saturday. He will no doubt be hungover as hell for the long drive to my mum's as they will stay up drinking till 5am.

When I tried to talk to him about all of this, he accused me of trying to stop him seeing his friends and said that I'd better not be like this when we get married! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs for wanchai, definitely :grouphug:

Sounds to me like reality has hit him hard and he's feels like this is his last chance to kick back with his mates. He is being a selfish little so-and-so about it, but could you suggest that, if he really can't reschedule it for this weekend (why??) perhaps instead of staying at your house they could stay at a mate's house so you're not crowded out and can have some peace. In terms of it being your last night together before the wedding, in a few years it won't matter at all whether that happened to be two nights before the wedding or three; just plan something for the last night you do actually spend together. Not ideal, and he's had ages to sort out a stag do (which is effectively what this is), but sometimes you have to compromise! I'd definitely be letting him know how much he has hurt you though, especially with that comment about stopping him seeing his friends!! :eek: :mad:

x

bubbles0169

could he have it on the thursday then wanchai? its the start of the weekend for most now!

as for me its going from bad to worse!
my mum offered to come 250 miles up and stay at ours to look after boys if we extended our honeymoon to 10 days instead of the seven days i said would be better as oh's mum will have them if shes off work on hol
a couple of months passed and we were booking it with my sil(travel agent) who said shed take the time off work to have the boys which we agreed as my mum hadnt mentioned anything else
fast forward about a year later my mum asking what hol she needs to book for the honeymoon, me asking mil what she needs to coincide with her holiday
i said its saves sil using her holiday and itl be easy for my mum what with having us(my sis and me, taking us to school etc)
but instead of asking me what i ment there and then she went off to sil and turned it into me saying that sil isnt capable of looking after the boys??
she had a massive row with oh while i was at work saying maybe my mum should come up whenever else we want the boys looking after??
i would never dream of thinking her not capable, i just made a fleeting comment, it would be easier for her and saves her holiday, as my mum done it all before
shes one of the bm's do want cos of all the help she gives us god i cant be doing with all this drama! its supposed to be a happy occasion

wanchai_2

double_mummy wrote: »

hugs for wanchai

lots and lots of hugs xoxox

Thanks DM xxxx

White_Sapphire wrote: »

Hugs for wanchai, definitely :grouphug:

Sounds to me like reality has hit him hard and he's feels like this is his last chance to kick back with his mates. He is being a selfish little so-and-so about it, but could you suggest that, if he really can't reschedule it for this weekend (why??) perhaps instead of staying at your house they could stay at a mate's house so you're not crowded out and can have some peace. In terms of it being your last night together before the wedding, in a few years it won't matter at all whether that happened to be two nights before the wedding or three; just plan something for the last night you do actually spend together. Not ideal, and he's had ages to sort out a stag do (which is effectively what this is), but sometimes you have to compromise! I'd definitely be letting him know how much he has hurt you though, especially with that comment about stopping him seeing his friends!! :eek: :mad:

x

They can't really stay at a mate's, his friends are coming from where he's from, about 20 miles away, so they are hoping to stay at ours. But they usually say that and then hop in a taxi home at the end of the night!! :mad:

He actually asked me to go along too, which I don't want to do as (a) his friends will be like '!!!!!!' if I turn up and I'm the only female, and (b) I have a MILLION things to do the next day, starting very early!

bubbles0169 wrote: »

could he have it on the thursday then wanchai? its the start of the weekend for most now!

as for me its going from bad to worse!
my mum offered to come 250 miles up and stay at ours to look after boys if we extended our honeymoon to 10 days instead of the seven days i said would be better as oh's mum will have them if shes off work on hol
a couple of months passed and we were booking it with my sil(travel agent) who said shed take the time off work to have the boys which we agreed as my mum hadnt mentioned anything else
fast forward about a year later my mum asking what hol she needs to book for the honeymoon, me asking mil what she needs to coincide with her holiday
i said its saves sil using her holiday and itl be easy for my mum what with having us(my sis and me, taking us to school etc)
but instead of asking me what i ment there and then she went off to sil and turned it into me saying that sil isnt capable of looking after the boys??
she had a massive row with oh while i was at work saying maybe my mum should come up whenever else we want the boys looking after??
i would never dream of thinking her not capable, i just made a fleeting comment, it would be easier for her and saves her holiday, as my mum done it all before
shes one of the bm's do want cos of all the help she gives us god i cant be doing with all this drama! its supposed to be a happy occasion

They couldn't do it on the Thursday either, as they all have work on the Friday and are coming from 20 miles away etc.

Oh God, families, who'd have them!! Can you talk openly to your SIL? If so, I would just sit her down and explain and apologise for the misunderstanding. Chinese whispers I think we used to call it xxx

bubbles0169

i phoned sil straight away to tell her i didnt mean that! x
how far away are you from your mums? can he drop you off and go back for it to be on the sat night then instead of staying at your mums? how come he cant have it on this week?