MSE Pregnancy Club 18

rach

Hi all

Hope everyone is ok this morning; I felt a bit rough on the way in this morning but am ok now after a cuppa and a pastry! I’m off on flexi leave this aft and taking my 6 year old godson to a pottery painting caf!, so it’s hard to settle when I know I’ll be leaving about 12! Oh well, can’t say I’m too worried! Just hoping the painting caf! near friends house is still open (can’t get through on phone or find website) otherwise will be a train trip to Greenwich!

Sir monster – yes it was WW pool. I might try the Spa instead as I’ve heard it’s nicer. I am tempted to try the New Add pool as I think it has been done up and is much cheaper. We talked about joining David Lloyd but obviously it’s pricey and without a car on hand it’s not quite close enough for us to go as regularly as we’d need to to make it worthwhile! So annoying about the music

Claire – we first heard the heartbeat at the 12 week scan through the fancy scanning machine they had

Pigpen – something is really not right, can you not just go there and refuse to leave til they do something? I know you don’t want to go there but something has to be done. I know what you mean about being pathetic when ill – I’m the same, can usually argue with anyone and make my point but when ill am a gibbering wreck!

slm6002

pp glad you have got your mum coming to shout at the doctors for you. as many have already said we are worried for you and your little one, so hope things get sorted very very soon.

Just taken both kids to the dentist and they got the all clear. they also told me that i dont need to be seen until after baby is born (wont get kicked off their books for not going) so that i can be refered again for the sedation clinic.

It seems that overnight i have become pregnant looking rather than just fat. not sure if its what i am wearing today or not but caught a glimps of myself in the shop window and could actually see a bump at last.

LydiaSophia

I hope no one minds me coming here and moaning but I feel totally miserable today. I am 27 weeks pregnant today and am overjoyed at the prospect of being a Mum but just feel so miserable.
My husband makes all the right noises about being a dad etc and I know he's looking foward to it (baby was planned by us both) but he just hasn't changed at all since I got pregnant.
He spend a fortune at the pub and loads of time there. I have limited his money now and given him a weekly budget but he now feels that this is HIS money to go out with and we never go anywhere together. I am sick to death of it. I have spent most of the weekend in tears. I just feel like he doesn't want to do anything with me or spend any time with me. I use to go to the pub with him but now I can't drink I just don't see the point.
I feel soooo miserable and am starting to question our furture together. He does nothing at all around the house and as I am at work (out the house 12hrs a day as I commute) I am really starting to struggle with everything. I sort out all the bills, the car etc etc and he does nothing at all. Sorry if this sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself but I just feel like crying all the time :-(

oxclairexo

Chakani wrote: »

I am having a homebirth, and I'm due just 3 days before you - it is my second, but if I could go back and have the first one again, I'd have had a home birth for him as well.

I love the thought of me and my family being the only ones my mw has to concentrate on at a time. When I had DS in hospital we were left alone a lot (they were exceptionally busy, I don't think it's normal to be left as much as we were), and they gave me G&A and told me I was making a fuss, I wasn't in labour yet. They came back after a couple of hours because "it sounded like you were draining the entire hospital of G&A" to find I was 10cm dilated. I only just made it to the delivery suite in time. I found it frightening as a first timer not knowing what to expect, and I would have found the whole experience a lot better if there had been someone there who knew what was going on, and could have recognised how fast it was going.

I just know when I think about having the baby at home I feel quite chilled out about the whole thing. As soon as I think about going to hospital I start to feel anxious. It really upsets me to think if I have bubs in the evening DH will be sent home and I'll have to spend our first night as a family in a strange environment without him .

dreambirdie

pigpen i hope the hospital pull their fingers out of their ar*e and actually do something for you. they sound terrible! i hope u are ok!

kitkat when do u have to tell them if you will work or not? im going throught the same thing work are pressurising me for an official leave date, but i dont know what to say, as i feel ok, albeit im tired but id like to try and work as long as i can.

i think the babys head has engaged. last night i got terrible pressure pains down there, and today i just feel as though something really heavy is sitting on my foof? does that sound like it to you guys?

Bufger

Lydia

Time to give him a kick up the backside.

You shouldnt be lifting/stretching or doing anything strenous in your early stages. You should get plenty of rest and backrubs and you should have at least 50% of the weeks meals cooked for you (and if you work longer hours than him that number should go up)

He needs to realise what he's got isnt there forever no matter what his behaviour is like. I would say sit down and have a chat but shouting/screaming and throwing things seems to work too

Chakani

Yes I hated OH being sent away at 2am - when he was allowed back at 8 am, I was packed and ready to go home!

I feel relaxed about a home birth too, that's what made me think it was the right thing for me. How far are you from the hospital in case you needed it? I think that is an important factor to lots of people. We are 15 mins away by car at a quiet time, 35 when it's busy, but there is an ambulance station just round the corner, and all the community midwives live in the same small town as me, so I feel very safe.

rach

lydia - it's not on at all. As bufger says he needs a kick up the backside! where are you based?

moneysaver12

pigpen wrote: »

the local abertoire!

They told me the leeds referral had been made weeks ago.. then said they had sent out 2 appointments and then admitted the referral had not been sent at all.. class or what?!

Oh, they want a 24 hour urine collection... HAHAHA!!!!! I'd wet myself laughing if it were possible!!!! i said I can do that in about half a second!!

My mother has now offered to come and yell at them for me lol.. I think she just likes yelling at people!

I seem to be leaking urea/ammonia from every pore I feel like a stink of wee.. and I can't decide if it is just me being a touch neurotic and smelling things that aren't there.. but it has to go somewhere!! :eek:

The blood loss is nasty and smells horrific.. it smelled so bad this morning I wasn't sure if it was bowel leakage or not.. but this isn't a problem apparently.. *shrug*

Gosh that is crap, i don't understand how they can treat people like that when they are suppose to be caring. They should realise by now that you do not go to hosptial unless you feel that there is something wrong and that you know your own body.

Not sending the referal is crap, they need a kick up the bum. If i lived nearer to you, i would yell at them too.

Are you going to go with your mum, i hope that something can be sorted out for you. Hugs.

smartie12

PIGPEN I'm sending DH to come pick you up and I'll take you in with me to hospital when I go in tomorrow;) I have moments when I feel myself wanting to "just give up" and fall in a heap and cry so I hate to think what you're feeling like (((HUGS)))

I can't fault my labour ward and staff (it's the hospital as a whole who is crap:mad:) and have been surprised how they're taking my situation so seriously. And I haven't told them everything:o:shhh:

Managed a quick shop to make sure DS has food in the house (bless him - he's been sooooo good by himself at home:A) and saw the most upsetting thing:(

A ickle newborn baby in pushchair kept being left in the middle of the store whilst mum went half way cross the store to pick things up!!!:mad::eek: When we first saw the cutie little baby there was NO SIGN WHATSOEVER of mum... and then we saw it happen again!!! I could of quite easily took the baby and it would of taken the mum a while to notice. So so worrying:( To be honest I don't think mum was "well" going by the way she was acting. Not much we could do about it and I really hope if there is a problem she'll get help.