MSE Pregnancy Club 18

rach

redmel1621 wrote: »

I personally quite like this one for wanting to stay yellow:question: and one of these for baby not letting the secret out:exclamati:search:

nipping out now but i'm happy for everyone to have their say or just leave it as it is!!!

I like that idea as I like the idea it's a ? for me til it's born!

think we have fallen in love with this bedding set although this is also v cute (my dh loves bears and is a bit of a grumpy bear himself), i just like the bright yellow colours to liven up a magnolia room!

we are going out for a bit of a walk before we head out later. I am thinking of taking tomorrow off sick as I'm just exhausted at the moment and tomorrow includes a 1.5 hr walk which I don't think I will manage, plus the travel. Have only had 1 day off sick since getting pg and think I should enjoy myself tonight without worrying about getting up tomorrow.

kmckee999

Hello ladies,

I havent been around much, busy working, trying to get things ready for nursery etc but im feeling so low that i need some help and advice...
I dont know why really im feeling like this, but im on the verge of disappearing for a few days to get away and think, but im scared to do this as the way i feel might be down to being prg
DH isnt being very supportive imo but only in the loving kind of way, he does most things i ask but our love seems to have gone since iv been prg and its really getting me down, i feel fat and lonely. I have mentioned this to him before now but nothing has changed, he just comes up with excuses that either im tired or he is tired!!
Is anyone else feeling low? or is it that our relationship is dwindling away? i really dont know or what to do, i think if i go away for a few days he will realise that im not here at his convienience and will start to be loving towards me again, or he will just get angry and it will make things worse, or i might think im betta off alone?
Sorry to put a dampner on today

xmaslolly76

Rach that first one is gorgeous lovely and bright and cheerful. The second one is also nice but i think it may look a bit washed out in a completely magnolia room but the bear is so cute :-)

rach

kmckee big hugs,you are at almost the same stage as me and I've been struggling a bit too. I know what you mean about the loving bit, that's partly why I have been making the effort to instigate sex etc even when feeling crap as it helps with the closeness. this morning we laid in bed for ages just chatting and I had a little cry and it helped. dh had been quite mean the other day and it does hurt me.

have you tried talking to him? i think they feel a bit pushed out by the pregnancy at this stage. you know it's also possible to have prenatal depression, not just post natal...maybe you should go and see your GP?

Has anyone heard from CAFC? My nephew is a year old today, great but emotional day for my sis who was v ill with HELLP syndrome, kind of advanced pre eclampsia i think.

xmaslolly76

Kmckee i think everyone goes through that period time in a pregnancy especially if its your first. Your uncomfortable and tired and Your OH is having to get used to you becoming a mom instead of just his lover. I also personally think men can get a little jealous and feel pushed out as until baby comes along there isnt much they can do. There are also some men who just dont like pregnant women for one reason or another, sometimes they think they are going to hurt you or baby and then the lack of intimacy gets you down and the whole thing just spirals and your hormones will make everything seem twice as bad as it really is.

I'm not sure what to suggest if he wont talk to you about it. Maybe have an evening where the baby isnt mentioned and you just give him lots of attention maybe a nice intimate massage (doesnt have to be anything sexual just you and him being close) so he can relax and see your still the woman he loves and not just a baby oven. If you take the lead hopefully he will follow men need to be shown the way sometimes ;-)

I certainly wouldnt go jumping to any conclusions right now about the relationship being over this is one of the biggest transitions your relationship will ever face it takes time to adjust to the new roles both of you face.

Hope your feeling better soon x

redmel1621

kmckee999 wrote: »

Hello ladies,

I havent been around much, busy working, trying to get things ready for nursery etc but im feeling so low that i need some help and advice...
I dont know why really im feeling like this, but im on the verge of disappearing for a few days to get away and think, but im scared to do this as the way i feel might be down to being prg
DH isnt being very supportive imo but only in the loving kind of way, he does most things i ask but our love seems to have gone since iv been prg and its really getting me down, i feel fat and lonely. I have mentioned this to him before now but nothing has changed, he just comes up with excuses that either im tired or he is tired!!
Is anyone else feeling low? or is it that our relationship is dwindling away? i really dont know or what to do, i think if i go away for a few days he will realise that im not here at his convienience and will start to be loving towards me again, or he will just get angry and it will make things worse, or i might think im betta off alone?
Sorry to put a dampner on today

Hi
Sorry you're feeling like this....I have gone through similar with all 4 pregnancies, it does pass. I also think we feel more vulnerable when pregnant and need 'extra' loving feelings and reassurance shown to us...it barely happens and we begin to feel neglected and unloved, even when things may not have changed or at least not changed greatly.

I am not sure whether going away will help the situation, as men often worry that they are going to be pushed out either before or after baby arrives as baby becomes centre of the universe for us mums, and they worry about all sorts of things but often won't share, or pretend even to themselves that they haven't got these worries...as well as the financial worry men ALWAYS seem to focus on when a baby is due to join the family. By going away you may only add to his worries that the baby is becoming your priority.

I personally have found it best to try not to dwell on it too much, maybe plan a few nights in watching a film and having some nice drinks (they don't have to be alcoholic) and maybe a take-away, just the two of you, don't even mention the baby or anything baby related....

My husband is useless when I am pregnant, yes, he will do extras if I ask him and tell me off when he thinks I have been overdoing it, but emotionally he just doesn't show any love towards the baby and 'i feel' he shows me less attention too. As soon as the baby is here he is brilliant, we seem to get back on track both emotionally and in the bedroom and he is brilliant with our kids. i have heard from a lot of women who say similar things, their men are just no good with the baby in the belly situation, but fall head over heels in love with their son/daughter once they are born.......

Keep your chin up, try and focus on you and baby and spend 'some' non-baby related time with your dh. I am sure it will all work out fine in the end.

Sorry about the long post:o

redmel1621

Oooh look we all posted similar answers;)

Rach I agree with xmas, the bright one might be nice to brighten up the neutral room:)

I have never bought any of those room sets as I know I wouldn't use any of it. I don't like cot bumpers and you can't use the quilt till 12mths anyway!! In fact ds3 still hasn't got a quilt, seeing as it is warm even at night now, I just put him either in his sleeping bag with only his vest on, or just his pj's and a blanket....

smartie12

redmel1621 wrote: »

:exclamati Could use this for wanting to stay team yellow, or to signify naught baby?


:question: Maybe drop this if we choose two other symbols, or just keep it for wanting to know but naughty baby


:search: This could maybe signify the looking for baby bits at scan?


:question: Could use this for wanting to stay team yellow


?? Maybe bold some of these to signify wanting to know but naughty baby

I don't know....let me know your opinions and we will modify the list, if enough people want to.....


I personally quite like this one for wanting to stay yellow:question: and one of these for baby not letting the secret out:exclamati:search:

nipping out now but i'm happy for everyone to have their say or just leave it as it is!!!

Ooo yes... I'd like one for VERY NAUGHTY BABY;):D

kmckee... a little while ago I actually walked out on DH:o We've had some awful days and as others have said most couples have been through some sort of similar thing. I'm sure you'll feel a little better about things soon... although I still feel like giving DH a big slap:mad: We'll have to meet up for a male slagging off session... and a cake;):D

Don't worry rach... I'm still on the look out for a bargain for you;):D:p

We've been to Exeter Toys R Us today but wasn't very impressed. Did get a toy with a voucher:) Then we had a walk around the shops and got a few clothes from Boots... again with voucher! I feel alot better about the neutral things that are around:j

And I got THIS top from Mothercare for when I go shopping in Morrisons again so stupid ladies don't go bumping into me again!!:rotfl:

freebiequennie

Hello all

feeling really tired today - have an essay due in wednesday but have an extension til next week so will prob use it as have only done 1500 words of a 3000 word essay and nothing has been or will be done today.

we brought the quinny buzz, has the seat unit and carrycot and has a bag for on back, a parasol, 2 raincovers, quinny blanket, footmuff/sleeping bag type thing and mosquito nets for both seat unit and carrycot, wheels have a few scratches and main seat unit has couple scratches, have worked out how to get off what can come off and all now in washing machine - thank goodness for a 9kg drum!! so for £175 we are happy and have thursday off work which is suppose to be a really nice day here so will wash the rest of it outside then (blame me if it chucks it down now on thurs!)

Going to buy the a car seat and base nearer due date as stil noly 26+4 so a while yet.

redmel1621

Oooh smartie I like that top:)

I'll lobby Martin and tell him we NEED more symbols as we need a 'very naughty baby' symbol, do you think he will oblige;)

Freebie - Sounds like you got a good deal there, it is exciting getting the puschair isn't it:) (being nosey) What course are you doing?