Does money buy love?

studentphil

This topic has a money related issue. It seems to me that all the popular guys at uni with the women have lots of wealth displaying assests like cars and flash clothes.

Is it really possible to get a girlfriend if you are not lucky enough to have all these assests? I might like a bit of female companionship but sadly I do not have all these riches.

So, is it really as it seems that rich guys can buy the heart of a woman?
Do women not value a decent guy with not much cash these days?

Thanks

mclaren_2

in my opinion - as a bloke..... women, 98% of them, go for men with looks - fit - money. money isnt as big as looks though.

it used to be that personality would matter but in my experiance, it dont .... looks do....

"Do women not value a decent guy with not much cash these days?" - this is the same question i have asked many a time - but it seems like guys who are not as "hot" as these models or have something wrong with them (over weight, wrong hair colour ie red etc....) aint in with a chance to a nice lass.

so its not just money - money isnt the main thing as i said.... some women though are just hardcore bi*ches and only look for a man with both looks and those who are rich - some nice lasses only look for looks and the rest are married or taken..... lol

remember - you might have a flash car or a flash wardrobe but how much debt are they in compared to you?

Ladyrider2600

It seems that there are an awful lot of girls who, given the choice, would go for a big wallet than a big personality.
Me? The personality wins hands down! I've got no money, nor have I felt the need to pick up with someone who has it. I've dated guys with money, guys without, bood looking and not so good looking, but nothing beats a man who can really make you laugh! The best fun is usually free (!). I'm sure (and hope) that most girls would think the same.

Besides, would you really want loads of money and wonder if that dolly bird on your arm is really after your heart or your notes?

Any girl worth her salt would put personality first and you're the type of guy who'll end up with a decent woman. I can tell.

I don't like money. It can bring out the worst in people and in my eyes, causes nothing but trouble.
You carry on being skint and being the loevly person you are! :A

lisa_75

mclaren wrote:

in my opinion - as a bloke..... women, 98% of them, go for men with looks - fit - money. money isnt as big as looks though.

it used to be that personality would matter but in my experiance, it dont .... looks do....

I thinks looks alone might matter to an 18 year old girl, but not a mature grown woman.

A man needs to be able to offer a woman much more than a pretty face.

chugalug

You mention Uni so I'm assuming that we're talking about young girls and guys??? I only say this cos IMO everyone is more superficial when they're younger. You think what's important is what's on show. Not just girls wanting money and flash cars but also guys wanting the best looking girl. As you get older you realise that its all shallow and doesnt mean a lot in the grand scheme of things!!!

But, theres always people that aren't like that, you just have to find them!! Would you really want someone who's only interested in your money or car??

fiobee

studentphil wrote:

So, is it really as it seems that rich guys can buy the heart of a woman?
Do women not value a decent guy with not much cash these days?

Of course nice girls value decent guys! What is important is that the guy is attractive (which is not the same as handsome) and has a kind heart. Money cannot buy happiness (although my mom always says it helps).

Sarahsaver

A decent guy with no cash is ok ish, but he would have to be very decent! A sponger on the other hand NO WAY.

But why would anyone WANT to be broke? Just to prove that they are loveable without money? :rolleyes:

mclaren_2

imho whats more important - looks or the personality cos with me personality wins hands down - maybe i just say that cos i wasnt lucky with looks but on the other side of the coin - being shallow shows poor personality and in the long run, will hold you back in life

Bennifred

Maybe the guys with the money are more confident in themselves? Confidence (NOT cockiness!) can be attractive to the opposite sex - especially perhaps if you are away from home/friends for the first time and feeling a little unsure yourself

I agree with the other posters about it being an immaturity thing, though.

mclaren_2

Sarahsaver wrote:

But why would anyone WANT to be broke?

but this could be answered by why are everybody broke and in high debt? - being broke is so easy - one day you can have everything and the next, your laid off from your job and thats it, game over....

studentphil

For me personally a woman who was mad on dosh would be a no no!!
Do not get me wrong and I enjoy a comfortable and reasonable life money wise, but there are more important things to do in my life than dosh just now.

A level headed, down to earth woman after a bit of companionship would do me just great now.