From Trash to Cash: the Dribbling never ends

elly68

good afternoon well got soaked but made £50 so that well and truly covers trampoline.
dd says puppy looks like a charlotte

jo70mo

You know when we didn't have a car for a bit (not very long admittedly) I definitely felt our days were more purposeful and meaningful. which may seem daft as sometimes it was hard or frustrating. but we definitely thought more clearly about where we wanted to go and why which in turn seemed to mean we spent less time being aimless and unsure what to do. instead we seemed more connected with doing the things that were important and meaningful to us and even what we wanted to eat. we were often more creative with food as it was easier to find a way of making do with what we had than journeying to the shops.
maybe a bit too deep but I really felt a difference and more awareness of my surroundings and the weather and the length of the day. more contact with other people out and about. felt healthier and more energy. saw more animals and heard more birds.
Jo x

jo70mo

yay elly well done. £50 is great.
Jo x

munchki

Jo, I know what you mean about the car, but to be fair that isnt quite the issue. when I was married I all but begged to get my licence over here and was told no over an over again. Finally got it oct 2008 (marriage ended 2 months later) I suppose in my mind it is a matter of I tried so hard to convince him to let me get it and now losing the car. Now it is just one more thing that he causes me to lose (joint loan, but I am registered keeper) one of the few things i have not lost outside of a few bits of furniture etc. It is a mind thing nothing more. I can not justify the nearly £350ish a month expense, payments are just getting behind, the cost of petrol, insurance etc. I can bus to work, I can have shopping delivered and I can get a train anywhere in the country. For right now I just don't need it and can save pennies to buy a little runner before winter hits. Really hard to explain but I know by turning it in I am doing the right thing.

elly68

sounds like a good decision munchki ,or house move s all based on releasing funds to clear debt which in turn will make me and oh happier and in turn the kids our kids age 9 and 7 seem to understand this better than most adults we speak to .some times decisions just have to be made.

jo70mo

That does sound like a big mind thing munchki and sorry if I sounded preachy. know it must be hard to let go of.
Jo x

munchki

no need to apologise and i dont mind sharing to be honest as sometimes the questions we ask or the thoughts we share could be the exact same as someone else is thinking but to scared to mention....iykwim?

It was very hard at first and prob the only reason i have tried to hang on to it as i refused to once more allow him to take something else, I even lost my bank account last week because of him! As the days have gone by the past couple of weeks, not sure what has happened but I see everything so differently. Sometimes the right time is not when we think it is , but more like when it thinks it is! All I know is that I am not so bothered now about letting it go back, other than feeling guilty about not being able to keep paying for it. The ex and the recession have a lot to answer for! My life will go on, continue to get better and I am very grateful for all I do have, most of which money can never buy. I crave a simple life, filled with laughter, joy and yes even a few tears, most of all friends and family that are so precious to me. I am starting to have that very life and to me that is so much more important than any car or any things in general. Going through the past time frame has been one of the hardest things I have ever really done I think, but it has also been in an odd way, a very rewarding experience.


Added note: rather freaky and odd but just as I posted that comment, the prettiest rainbow I have seen in a long time just appeared, now sat here admiring it.......ahhhh the simple pleasures, and strange coincidences!

moneymabel

To quote Toots 'there's no such thing as coincidences' The rainbows a nice sign to cheer you up :-) I think you're doing the right thing getting rid of the car- just think, the next one you get will belong to just you!

Thanks Ellys DD, Charlotte is a lovely name but we've already picked one- Mist. ( already being called Misty)

jo70mo

and wow munchki - it has been a hell of a tough time(probably more so than we will ever know) but how will you feel in months and years to come when you have that knowledge of just what you were able to overcome and get through. I have a feeling that life will not be able to shake you very easily.
Jo x

evenstarcrafty

mateypeeps wrote: »

Just a long-shot, but are you taking Triludan for hayfever?

If so, read the leaflet with it for some of the symptoms.

It felt like it was killing me with palpitations.

You are right that it is most likely stress though.

No Im not taking any meds and dont drink or smoke anymore....its the stress that,ll get me