Learn to control money but do not allow it to control you

Karmacat

I've bookmarked that blog, FW, looks good!

maz1964

Ive bookmarked it too FW, thanks and keep reading your thread too, thanks for your inspiration, been helping me past few weeks

take care maz:T

Firewalker

Loads already done - got up at my now usual time of 6.06. Off to Rome a bit later (Don't get excited it is work although not hard work). Good news is that the flight is direct.

I have other good news - apparently the tweeting by Americal bloggers is not one off. Yesterday's post was tweeted again - and this time by a Canadian as well. BTW, the Canadian bloke. bless him, tweeted repeatedly stuff from my blog (every three minutes or so; how do people do it) and one of the things he said was: 'Debt is negative wealth!' So, we are getting know, my friends - yet to make all of North America talking about 'negative wealth'.

Will be in touch tonight.

Firewalker

Lara44

That's great FW!! :j

I also enjoyed your post and also yours Ani. They were both very insightful and thought-provoking.

I think that I need more animal desire to finish something. I'm going to try to cultivate that - because my first phd chapter has to be finished in 2 weeks. I am a very bad finisher and that's something I don't like. When the outline is sketched out, I somehow get bored and don't want the hassle of filling it all in. I have been trying to re-learn to do something for it's own sake, rather than for the outcome or reward. Feeling bad that I got so far away from doing things for simple pleasure.

Craftyscholar

Lara44 wrote: »

I think that I need more animal desire to finish something. I'm going to try to cultivate that - because my first phd chapter has to be finished in 2 weeks. I am a very bad finisher and that's something I don't like. When the outline is sketched out, I somehow get bored and don't want the hassle of filling it all in. I have been trying to re-learn to do something for it's own sake, rather than for the outcome or reward. Feeling bad that I got so far away from doing things for simple pleasure.

Oh how well I know that feeling. Try not to think about what I could have produced if I had re-worked essays instead of submitting what should really have been my first draft:(
Which might explain why I am surrounded by pages of notes I have been taking from books and shuffling them round when I should be [STRIKE]writing [/STRIKE] drafting my own opinion:eek: and using the books as back-up support.

Happytogetdebtfree

WOW some thought provoking messages there that really made the mind go but i dont really have anything to say ....:O i want to say something profound but it may come across all wrong..... age is age and we are where we are what are we going to do next ..... i think of the books i read and so many answers come for these questions thoughts and view points but yet i just cant express in the way that will profound some but i will have myself a little go..... many people spend time dwelling on the question "why are we here" well we choose to be here we come back many times we come to learn ourselves or teach other people or experience things that will enlighten our spirit... jack canfield on the secret discusses aspects of things talking about rough upbringings and how probably 90% of people all have trauma or upset in there childhood and his answer to that is " so what, what are you going to do now" it doesnt matter how often we dwell on the past or try to analyse things wonder why we didnt see it coming etc etc but the answer to that is dwelling changes nothing .... we have all had the moments of lowest of the low when you wonder why me how can it be so and it takes some soul searching to get back up and carry on and then you face another blow but you still get up and carry on WHY? because no matter what i always know something good is always on the horizon always in front of me, we all have different appreciation and gratitude aspects but not one person can say they dont have something in there life that makes them feel good at least once a day ..... nodody is created to be a lone ranger your right everybody needs human contact and i hug nearly everybody i see why because i like to a hug says many things without uttering a word ...... what im saying is i dont believe in trying i believe in enjoying the journey be it at 27 or 77 im looking at my treasures as the things i teach others not what i own or possess im as much of a realist as i am real, i dont implode my ideas on others i listen take what i want from it and carry on..... im not saying life is easy or hard im saying life is life and as the famous harv eker says " we are either living or we are dying" what im saying after i have probably made no sense at all is one keeps trying dependant on what the gain is and my gain is happiness .... possessions mean nothing unless we know how people actually possess these things ... i think ive friend my own brain and i hope i make sense i dont think ive answered any questions ive just babbled some on that note happy tuesday xx

Firewalker

Ha! The day I have had. I am on my travels again and it was a day for adventure. First I set off the alarm in Manchester; then my suitcase had to be searched because I forgot my cosmetics inside although they were ready in a bag; then the flight was late; at Rome airport the cash machine won't give me euro and I refused to pay 5% commission; and to top it all I got lost around Termini station. Not nice area.

Perfect opportunity to try and find the good in the day. The nap on the plane, the dinner with my colleague, the chat on the phone with OH, DS3's hug good bye. It works, you know.

Now time to rest.

Firewalker

ani_26

I don't know how to start this post. You all probably see me as being cynical or whatever, but i like to think i'm not. Its just i'm on the outside looking in, as it were, to a place i don't belong, constantly. I suppose i've been ' lucky ' although i've always made my own luck. Always worked hard. I was like you too, fw. Always jetting off somewhere. Maybe i see alot of myself in you. Past tense. Maybe my irritation with mse, now. Seeing so many people spending so much time writing lists, reading this or that blog, writing this or that blog, following someone else's ideas. Maybe there is a place for it. I don't know, but there isn't a place for it in my world. All these people who say i don't have time to give someone else 10 minutes of their time to someone else. Who is the loser? I can't pop in and say hi to you because i don't have time for you. You're not worthy of my time. I owe you nothing. We all owe everyone at least a smile. At the very least.


None of it matters, except the here and now. Take time to give someone that smile. To say hello to someone. It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people who travel on public transport to work everyday. The same time everyday. For years. Yet they never converse with each other. I find it so sad, unbelievable, even. Maybe its just me, but i'll talk to anyone about anything. I may have no real friends, but it doesn't stop me being able to converse with anyone about anything. I suppose that is giving them my time.


Its easy, of course for me to look back and reflect. If only i'd done that. And this. I wish i'd done that. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, as they say. My life would be oh so different now. But i didn't, unfortunately, and the last place i wanted to be, is the place i am now. I won't end up like you, i hear you say. Maybe not. But you never know what is round the corner.

Take time , yes time, just to appreciate what is around you. How many times do you listen to the birds sing? watch the clouds in the sky. Smell the ( polluted ) air. Its all free and self awareness. Its what life is all about. Take time to appreciate and spend time with your loved ones. Maybe one day you'll understand what i'm talking about.


As ever i reach a point where i run out of words to say

hypno06

Have skim read through the last few pages - lots to think about!

I am in that place where I think rather *too* much at the moment. I read somewhere on another thread here that someone described it as "paralysis by analysis".....this describes me perfectly right now.

But of course then thinking about why you are over thinking and how you are going to pull yourself out of it just causes even more thinking.

Anyway, I hope the leg continues to heal FW

Triciaxx

hypno06 wrote: »

I am in that place where I think rather *too* much at the moment. I read somewhere on another thread here that someone described it as "paralysis by analysis".....this describes me perfectly right now.

But of course then thinking about why you are over thinking and how you are going to pull yourself out of it just causes even more thinking.

I look on these times as part of the natural rhythm of life (or I try to). Sometimes we reach a point where the current is swirling round us, pulling this way and that. Other times, we feel we have been swept into a backwater and are saying "Is this all there is?"

We often ignore these feelings and just plod on. If we are being swirled around, we may feel stressed and tired. If we are in a backwater, we may feel lethargic and a bit 'down'.

I think what has happened here is that, unusually, folk are sharing the feelings and saying 'Wow, I thought it was just me!'

It could be something to embrace and actively use it as the way to new and wonderful things or even to the release of whatever is wrong in our lives. That may mean subtle changes or radical decisions and is scary. Which is where a group to share with - probably stronger for being anonymous - can help.

Let's swim with the tide or against the tide - but let's swim and not drift along.