Please help - disgusting poo problem

smileyt_2

I shall keep a quiet eye on him - I think he brought the loo roll downstairs because he thought it would save me a job! He lives quite a distance away and I don't have a car, but he phones regularly (or he did, he might not now we have just had such an embarrassing conversation). I shall see how he seems over the next couple of months.

Why does ageing so often have to be demeaning?

Rummer

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meritaten

soappie is right - alzhiemers can affect people in different ways and so can senile dementia - which is NOT the same as alzhiemers. it does sound as if your friend has some form of dementia though as this behaviour is DEFINATELY not normal.
by all means contact his gp with your concerns - does he live on his own or with other people as they may well be the ones to contact. if not then Age Concern may well have the advice you need about getting him help - the poor poor man.
smileyt - my nan died some years back but my oldest aunt only died last year and she had alzhiemers too. same disease as nan but it affected her differentlyand she didnt become incontinent until just before she died. i also have some experience with senile dementia, which is just as distressing and to me sounds more like your friend.

Mrs_Boo_Boo

I agree with soappie as some people with dementia have a social facade which to the casual person would indicate that they do not have anything wrong with them. My mother-in-law had it years before she was diagnosed. You need to scratch the surface to get a real picture and it may be that he is early stages which would not reveal much especially if he sticks to established routines and tasks.
On the other hand he may have been so embarrassed that he was powerless to do anything! Does he have poor eyesight? so may not have seen all the poo. As we get older our sense of smell diminishes so he probably didn't smell it either. Physical dexterity may have meant that he knew but could not bend down to clear it up.
Perhaps other close friends relatives have noticed other odd behaviour.
Poor you.
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soappie

smileyt wrote: »

I've just spoken to him in a very uncomfortable conversation. He didn't know - as far as he was aware he had managed to use the toilet normally but he did admit he had a problem in this department. He apparently didn't notice that he had trodden in it and walked it through my house. He did agree to go back to his doctor after Easter though.

He also said he'd been to church tonight and the person he was sitting next to hadn't offered him a lift home (which she normally would have done) and he couldnt' understand it.
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Awww, Smiley, if he can't remember and thought he did everything OK then I fear that there is something there that needs medical attention. Now, if you can after today, is the time to be a real friend to him. Phone him after Easter and remind him about seeing the doctor.

Does he have close family you can talk to on the quiet? If not, do you know his Doctor and could you pop into the surgery and explain what's happened? He needs some help xxx

Pauls

One of our friends mums developed alzheimers a few years ago, and in the early stages they had a terrible time with her spreading poo throughout the house.

Hope you get your house sorted, and look out for the poor old chap

Penelope_Penguin

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Penny. x

meritaten

oops penelope - as you deleted mine I assume one isnt allowed to say you wanted to deck someone? will try not to do it again! but that person really really upset me as I only lost my aunt a few months ago - feel free to delete this one as its really an apology to mse and i will go away and try to calm down!

Penelope_Penguin

meritaten wrote: »

oops penelope - as you deleted mine I assume one isnt allowed to say you wanted to deck someone? will try not to do it again! but that person really really upset me as I only lost my aunt a few months ago - feel free to delete this one as its really an apology to mse and i will go away and try to calm down!

I deleted yours because it referred to a post that definitley needed deleting so looked odd. Hope that makes sense

I'll delete this one and yours later.

smileyt_2

Thank you all for your comments. They have definitely given me something to think about. At first I thought he had just gone home without saying anything out of embarrassment, and I was angry with him. However, he does obviously have a bowel problem and maybe some sensory problems if he didn't notice what he'd done. Or the beginnings of dementia. (I hope not).

I think I will contact him after Easter and check that he's made a doctor's appointment. I might try to weasle the name of the doctor out of him too, and phone the surgery. Hopefully they will be discreet enough to guide the appointment in the right direction without letting him know that I've contacted them - he would be very annoyed and embarrassed if he found out.

In the meantime - I am going babysitting for my neighbour as she is going to the supermarket for some stuff for herself, and a selection of cleaning products for me ...... hey ho.