question:- I'm mortgage free. should my girlfriend pay me rent ?

DarkConvict

My brother got married in September last year, and was charging his GF turned fianc!e rent although not a great deal, £100-200 a month, for a 4 bedroomed new build house. He let her kids stay rent free thou

scoobydoobydoo

DarkConvict wrote: »

He let her kids stay rent free thou

What a charmer! how much did he charge per person for the wedding meal?!

DarkConvict

It was a joke about the kids, im sure they got included in her rent :P Its a long story between my brother and his wife, she had 2 kids from 2 previous marriages and this nagging feeling money 'was' to be spent on her.

I don't know about the wedding, he got married at Eilean Donan Castle in Scotland, a good 2 hours away from the nearest airport. So due to the expense of even just getting there none of our family side went to it so the photos were a little lop sided in terms of equal family appearance.

But we are going off topic :P

scoobydoobydoo

lol Darkconvict, that sounds familiar. Nothing to do with money but with the lopsided wedding pics! Was exactly like that at my wedding, his friends and family and not mine there but thats because they all turned out to be very racist which was a *lovely* thing to learn after 30..mumble...years!

Perhaps your brother was just making sure that she wasnt using him as a meal ticket, which I can understand(ish), whereas the OP really does seem so obsessed with money given that he mentions every penny that his GF has "cost" him, and implying that she should be paying him back!

I really hope that rather than being the penny pinching money obsessed gold digger he appears to be, he is just very bad at expressing himself.

oldtrout

I don't think you are in love with her. If you were, this wouldn't be so much of an issue. However, if your lover moves in, then any increase in your overheads should be met by her.

MiserlyMartin

What a dilemma. Your house is paid for, by you. If you charge her rent and you later split, then I'm not sure if she can't stake a claim to the house. We need some divorce lawyers on this. If you do it in a lodger capacity with a shorthold tenancy etc then she wouldn't have claim to it, but she would feel like your lodger not lover.

Its an interesting one. I know where you are coming from as I am mortgage free. If I met somebody I would sell up and us both buy a new house 50-50 split. My proceeds from the sale of the house would stay in my savings accounts and not be anything to do with new girlfriend. I think that is not the case if married as what you have becomes theirs too. A case for not getting married I think!

MiserlyMartin

aliasojo wrote: »

I'm either just too old now or living in another world entirely but I always thought that loving someone and being in a serious relationship with them, meant you wanted the best for them and were happy to help and support them whenever you could. Being in the fortunate position of having a paid for roof over your head means you could easily do this with no cost to yourself but instead you choose to charge anyway.

I think that's disgusting tbh, this is supposed to be the person you love, not just a flatmate.

I think all other outgoings and bills should be split but if there isn't a bill there in the first place (i.e. no mortgage or rent payment required) then it's mean to still want to charge it.

Love doesn't pay the bills. Why is it that when love is involved all sensible thinking goes out of the window? I have seen many couples spilt up and many times especially ones who had far more assets than the other, it is really horrible. Its bad enough splitting up without having to then be stuck in a position where you can't afford to buy a place on your own when she gets the house. Or even when you split the house the 50% is still not enough for you to buy a place.

Its terrible that someone can work hard for years and see it robbed from them in the name of love. Love is blind and it seems it is blinding a lot of you from sensible precautions. Yes its not romantic, but we are not living in a world where people stay together until they die anymore.

C_Mababejive

Dumyat wrote: »

If I was your girl friend I'd pack my bags. Nothing to do with the money, you'd make me feel like a lodger not your girl friend. I'd be more than happy to split the bills.

Exactly...i would suggest that it isnt a good idea in a relationship to move into someone elses house.

You either jointly rent or mortgage together or the other party is treated legally as a lodger.

Take your pick..which do you want to be?

OTOH...she is effectively living rent free isnt she?

There is no such thing as a free lunch though so in return,he is getting erm...company and someone to share his life with as is she.
The female would need to consider her position as she is legally homeless i.e she has no legal right to reside in that home.

BLT_2

justwondering25 wrote: »

hmmm , because a lot of hard work went into paying for the house , would it be unjust if all the bills where split 50/50 and that she perhaps could put in her 50 percent of the hardwork and agree to do all the chores ? currently any washing up / house work is very much 50/50 , I think it's fair some recognition for the house been fully paid deserves more than a round of applause from my partner ?

fairness and a sense of balance seem to drive me on!

PMSL, Love this start to the day, this post amuses me.

Based upon a rental value of 500 per month, I believe your GF needs to work around the house for circa 85 hours per month. She will clearly need to report her earnings for washing and mopping the floor to the tax people. She does not need to give up her current job as she can treat the cleaning as an additional evening job.

The issue of holiday pay will need to be covered and there may be difficulties where her holidays do not coincide with yours. I would also suggest to her that perhaps she may want to consider not commencing her cleaning chores until after you have gone to bed otherwise this may impact on your quality time together.

Oh and when she comes to bed at 3 in the morning don;t forget to tell her you love her, things like that mean a lot to women :rotfl:

LOUY_2

To suggest he would be profiting from the relationship progressing is non-sense.

If she wasnt to pay rent, then surely she would be profiting from the relationship.