question:- I'm mortgage free. should my girlfriend pay me rent ?

Trying_Times

ROFL, what a thread, Brilliant, love flourishes on t' board. If you want to keep the house to yourself don't have a relationship, dont get wed, cos half will pass immediately to your new wifey.

I'd chose a good date for the wedding, April 1st sounds best.

Good luck for the future.

TT

boliston

Definitely charge rent as otherwise it means that SHE will be in a position to squirrel away all that money she has saved by moving in with you living rent free yet you will not have saved a penny from the arrangement.

tabskitten

boliston wrote: »

Definitely charge rent as otherwise it means that SHE will be in a position to squirrel away all that money she has saved by moving in with you living rent free yet you will not have saved a penny from the arrangement.

think if she has the good mind to do this then she and the OP are indeed well suited.

boliston

keza wrote: »

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i think you should work out your percentage of your overall income and then work out who pays what towards bills as shes earning more than u. i think thats a fairer deal.

Work out your combined income, divide your income by the total income and times by 100. this will give u the percentage of your earnings compared to hers.

then apply this percentage to the bills. then your both paying your way fairly without upsetting anyone. .....

I would not be happy having to pay more than 50% of the bills just because I earn more. You could take the same argument to other situations, like a supermarket could decide to charge more for a joint of meat if someone earns more and charge less if someone is not earning much.

sueby78

Confused.com.....

You say you want to charge her 'rent' on your house...then you say you travel to hers 90 odd % of the time and stay with her so she isn't staying at yours anyway...then you plan to maybe sell or rent the property you own (I'd rent, if its paid for then what rent you get is all profit and if things should go wrong you still have a property, paid for, totally in your name that I would think she wouldnt have a charge against but you could fairly protect that property with a simple agreement) and move to live near her either buying another house together or renting together.


Have I missed an important factor of what or where she is paying rent on? If she rents her own place now, but you move into a new rented or mortgaged place on new fresh terms together, then anything from there on in is surely 50/50.
I don't get where you are asking her to pay rent on as she doesn't stay with you, won't move away from her parents so its not a likely future plan that she will move into your paid for house and you are thinking of moving into a new property together at no advantage over one another?Surely thats an even footing??

Maybe I missed an important post

ps are you going to charge the cats rent at the going cattery rent? (that is a joke so take it as so, some of the more witty comments have made me smile reading the whole post start to finish)

rugbymum

Just because she earns more than you is no reason for her to pay any more than 50% for anything.
You are being a total mercenary IMHO.
If you truly love your GF then rent shouldn't even come into it, as other posters have said use the extra funds to pay for holidays & fun stuff!
The fact that you are complaining about fuel costs & wear and tear on your car is the ultimate in pettiness. If you want to spend time with her, then it's your choice to see her, don't b*tch about any costs. My current partner travels two hours at all times to see me and wouldn't dream about mentioning fuel costs or anything else, for the simple reason that we're together!

joeblack066

justwondering25 wrote: »

the situation :- we've been together for two years , we live around 2 hours away from each other , but see each other every weekend ( me doing the traveling 99 % of the time at my cost never asked for a bean in fuel , she has 2 cats and can't leave them at weekends) i stay at her place, she does not ask me for rent for the weekend but I have the travelling costs so alls fair there.

I would be either selling my place to buy a place down where she lives and then buy a place down there or buy a 2nd place , rent out first place etc mortgage on 2nd place, as she wants to be around her family.

I guess I'm a real horrible loveless individual !

You don't have a relationship, you have a business arrangement with 'perks'!! Unbelievable!

Verbatim

When my then boyfriend now husband moved in with me he thought he'd live for free. He soon accepted he should pay half the bills!

But charge him rent?! When I needed help paying the mortgage I got in lodgers but they had their own room and own bed...................

boliston

Verbatim wrote: »

When my then boyfriend now husband moved in with me he thought he'd live for free. He soon accepted he should pay half the bills!

But charge him rent?! When I needed help paying the mortgage I got in lodgers but they had their own room and own bed...................

You would be surprised at the number of couples who prefer to have their own room and bed!

Noselfdiscipline

I love all the gold diggers in this thread! Of course she should pay rent.