Clubbing Alone?

Sublime_2

It would probably would make you feel more lonely going clubbing by yourself. What are your interests, are there any local events that you could take part in? Or alternatively have you thought about voluntary work.

My sister used to do St Johns ambulance, which she enjoyed (although she goes out loads anyway), and they used to all meet up from time to time, and have a night out. They also cover some interesting venues, so can be good fun.

sapphireeye

I have to agree that clubbing isn't the best way, not least because you can't really talk to people inside a club! How old are you and where are you located? I've heard of social groups like Spice and things that meet up and go out places together very frequently, you don't have to go to everything, just pick and choose! Or you could get a sociable part-time job working in a bar/restaurant? I actually used to work at a theme park and the social life there was amazing, every week they had staff parties and I made most of my current friends working there!

Or as others have said, you can start a class or hobby. A team sport would probably be a good one if you're into that sort of thing. Alternatively something that you can do on your own but is not completely solitary, so you get that social interaction even if you're not specifically making friends. I've just started horse riding and the riding school are so friendly, it's nice to go there for my lesson and have a chat with the owner and the instructor and soon I'll be able to join group lessons and meet people that way. I guess the same applies with things like ice skating lessons etc. Unfortunately as I've discovered, hobbies aren't always cheap!!

stclair

Im not sure which part of the country your in however you may want to consider searching for groups such as this one:

http://www.manchestersocialites.com/home.php

DealCruncher

Why not plan for some time away? STA travel have some great deals on group travel - most of whom are lone travellers. Get clubbing with them somewhere exotic..

Pelican_eats_pigeon

Personally I think clubbing alone is one of the most fun things! Nothing to tie you to doing anything other than exactly what you want!


Something can't 'be sad' just like that, it's a subjective label, not an objective one.

Rachel85

I don't think it's sad at all, just so long as you keep yourself safe. Could you book a taxi in advance with a company you trust?

I do think that the other suggestions re: how to meet people are good. When I moved to be with DH I knew noone and was miserable. Can I ask where in the country you are? There may be other local MSE-ers in the same boat who would love to join you for a good night out!

d-seven

I used to go clubbing alone in my early -mid 20's because my friends werent interested. However, I went pubbing alone when I started renting and had a better social life through meeting people down the pub. That was probably the best time of my life.
You should be ok if you look as though you are in control. As long as you dont wander round the club looking sad and forlorn you should be ok. I found it quite liberating. There's nothing to say men or women shouldn't go clubbing alone. I have to admit, nightclubs aint the best places to make friends because most people are on the pull!

millsymuttleylaugh

I'm 20 and I'm from Doncaster.

I'm unemployed so don't have a job and don't go to college so basically I don't see anyone really. I had a group of friends last year but we drifted apart, they were a couple of years younger than me and soon as one rumour went round I guess I got chosen as the one to be evicted out the group and other than that I only have one friend, I don't see her as often as I'd like and when we do go out together her boyfriend is there.

I know clubbing isn't really ideal to meet friends with similar interests, but just talking to other people - sense or no sense, would just make me feel more socialised. I do enjoy clubbing and I found in the past that friends I went with we'd sort of drift off on our own and meet up again later.

I don't want to sound a slag but I don't mind people on the pull as I like dancing with guys when I'm out anyway. I'm always sensible with my drinks and unless I've stayed at my friends house I've always caught a taxi home on my own and never had any problems there.

I really don't have anyone else to go out with but I really fancy a good night out, this friday is the last all inclusive night at my local club and the club is always full and its a really good night.

boliston

I used to go to clubs on my own quite a lot back in the '90s (in my late 20's early 30's) and I don't remember it doing me any harm. I sometimes went with a friend but not always. At the time I don't think I used to drink alcohol so no worries about getting drunk on my own.

DCFC79

millsymuttleylaugh wrote: »

I know clubbing isn't really ideal to meet friends with similar interests, but just talking to other people - sense or no sense, would just make me feel more socialised. I do enjoy clubbing and I found in the past that friends I went with we'd sort of drift off on our own and meet up again later.

I don't want to sound a slag but I don't mind people on the pull as I like dancing with guys when I'm out anyway. I'm always sensible with my drinks and unless I've stayed at my friends house I've always caught a taxi home on my own and never had any problems there.

I really don't have anyone else to go out with but I really fancy a good night out, this friday is the last all inclusive night at my local club and the club is always full and its a really good night.

jeez i wish there were more like you where i am, they either get too roudy and start hand bag fights with other people or just throw up, id happily make friends with you if you lived closer, what about some of your school friends ? have you tried looking for a job as that would help