Clubbing Alone?

millsymuttleylaugh

Hi, I'm aware this might sound abit desperate but here goes...

I've been having abit of trouble in the friend department lately, I only really have one friend and I don't get to see her very often, shes settled down with a boyfriend and bills to pay so can't afford to go out.

I want to meet new people, but also got a craving for a good night out, so basically I'm asking your opinion, will a night out on my own just going to the one club then coming home be sad? I've wandered round the club alone before when I lost my friend, and I've taxied home alone before as well.

I don't really do anything else that gives me chance to meet other people, and I'm more confident after a drink.

Cool_Username

Sorry to hear you don't have many friends at the moment - I suppose you could go out clubbing by yourself but my only concern would be how safe it is being drunk in a city centre by yourself. Any trouble and you're on your own

How about starting a course of some kind at college in the night? Or maybe a weekly class at a leisure centre? Something like that will allow you to mix with people and possibly make a friend/friends who you can go for a drink with.

gar123

if you feel confident enough and safe fire ahead!
would there be any local charities that interest you helping them out, good way to meet kind hearted people!
good luck

millsymuttleylaugh

I'm just rubbish at making friends, I always have been. I've always muddled by with just one or two friends but now I'm on my own most the time and it is really getting to me, its like I'm missing out on my life

Cool_Username

millsymuttleylaugh wrote: »

I'm just rubbish at making friends, I always have been. I've always muddled by with just one or two friends but now I'm on my own most the time and it is really getting to me, its like I'm missing out on my life

I'm not great at making new friends either - but to be honest I don't think that being drunk and alone on a night out is the best way to make friends XX

The_One_Who

A nightclub is no place to make friends, to be honest. You could maybe start an evening class, dance class, crafty stuff, local clubs like archery or whatever. These will all give more opportunities to make friends than in a noisy club full of people getting drunk.

Skintslimmer

I agree with the idea of an interest group, or how about a part time job one or two evenings a week in a pub or bar? Thats a great way to meet & chat to loads of people

SailorSam

It seems sexist to say it, because if you were a fella it would be fine, but going clubbing alone is not the way to make friends

globalds

Even for a bloke going out on your own can be a bit weird.

When I was younger I worked away and would have a month or so off.
So I could go and drink as easily on a Monday night as a Friday, this mainly involved me drinking alone and feeding a fruit machine so I didn't feel a numpty.

Maybe join a dance evening class ...Loads about now with it being on TV all the time.
Salsa or something ..
Then at least you know some of the other people will probably want to go out and strut there stuff one or two weekends

minerva_windsong

I agree about joining some kind of interest group/sports club etc, as that way you'll meet people with something in common with you, whereas (apart from the safety risks) anyone you might meet at a club may have no shared interests.

Alternatively, are there any work colleagues/people on your course (apologies, I'm not sure what you do) who you could maybe go out with?

dogstarheaven

hey millsymuttleylaugh

i'm also in the same boat tho' my circumstances are slightly different to yours. i've always had probs keeping friends as when i find out their true colours after a long period of time for the development of a friendship and the compromises getting wider and wider, i always end up splitting up from them. i don't go out anymore ever since meeting my current partner (4yrs now) when we both realised that we had mutual interests that none of our respective friends could take interest in (camping, trekking, meals out) other than binge-drinking and clubbing all the time. in between the periods when i split up from my clubbing buddies and i was on my own, i've resorted to placing ads in the Guardian and the local paper for friendships. Some were good fun for nights out with. maybe this will be another option for you to consider as well as the other posters have suggested. i too, could do with more friends. i have two atm who are local (rest are too far away to see) but i have had issues with them for far too long now. besides, one of them has got far too boring for nights out as the only thing we talk about are, are our kids progressions and work - so not fun!! i have more fun being being with my partner than anyone else.

my partner has suggested i should take up classes and such but as i suffer from low esteem, i don't have the courage to go to them before (i've done lots of classes/groups/workshops in the past, so i know they can be fun).