Weekly Flylady Thread 29th March 2010

greenbee

funfairprincess wrote: »

Greenbee I know he's attached but if that were to change (or you meet someone else) if it makes you feel any better there is a big age gap between me and OH 16 years 5 months and I started going out with him when I was 18. We have our moments like any couple but it's never to do with the age gap just him being a prat!

See, even giving them that much of a head start, men are STILL generally immature compared to women :D

I don't see the age gap as being a problem - and to be honest, once he is over the shock, I suspect we'll end up as friends again, as long as his partner doesn't have a problem with it. My best friends through my teens and twenties were all men, and most of them I eventually lost because their partners couldn't deal with them having such a close female friend.

But I DO need to get out and meet people - and be completely open minded about opportunities that come up (although I could do with someone to chaperone me and make sure a. they aren't married and b. I don't screw it up by forgetting that I'm actually interested in the long term not the short term...

Anyway, better get showered and dressed and pretend to do some work...

Valli

Morning all it's the hols tra-laaaa


*rubs chin*

and that *rubs and frowns* would explain the presence of teenagers....
*stops frowning as doesn't need EVEN MORE 'laughter lines'*
washing on line blowing in stiff breeze

aaargh

Target Setting day up at school today. House is reasonably presentable from last week and I have to 'pop' into town.


Thursday Quiz

General Knowledge
Which Flylady dashed to Morrisons on Tuesday in DESPERATE need of Easter cards only to find three left from a swoop on Card Factory last year? And three is enough...

Algebra
Which Flylady shouldn't, in the opinion of another flylady, put a mirror in a room intended for teenage boys as boy+spot+mirror=stardrops+elbow grease?

greenbee

pigpen wrote: »

Quote:
Originally Posted by greenbee
He's not even an old flame... although I get the feeling that might have been down to me not paying attention (and in my late teens/early twenties the age gap would have meant I wouldn't have considered it!) I wasn't very grown up...

You weren't meant to be.. but at 18 my friends mum married her dad.. they have now been married 38 years.. he had 4 children from previous marriage too!!

you're all giving great advice... I think we're both working out how we're going to fit back into each others lives. its too important to risk getting it wrong.

That may depend what you are both looking for.. yep... yet another thing to be worked out. It's early days, and I think we're both a bit shell shocked... we need each need to work it out ourselves, as well as re-establishing communication and learning where the boundaries are.

It doesn't sound prudish. It sounds sensible. I've been there before. In my mid-twenties I met someone, fell for him (WHY???? he was an a***hole )and THEN found out he was married. It took me a couple of very unhappy years to extricate myself. And I met my last partner when he was separated and initiating divorce proceedings. Although I was nothing to do with the breakup, he felt guilty about getting involved when he wasn't completely free, and in the end our relationship didn't survive the strain of what was a fairly unpleasant and drawn out divorce, despite the fact that there were no children involved. I do seem to attract attached men though... why aren't there any single men propositioning me? It's ALWAYS the married ones...

Separated is not the same as living as husband/wife. Essentially that is the position OH and I are in now!! Given all I know about that relationship, I have absolutely no idea why he felt guilty. Some people have too much integrity!

Single men will (at your ripe old age ) either be divorced/married/hideously deformed or complete KH's.. Thanks... so reassuring... can I please have names/photos of all your KHs so I can at least avoid them...

Sounds like you are attracted by the wrong things.. .. As I always told my close friend.. look at the bulge in the back pocket not the one in the front! And watch out for the baggage biting your bum! Yes... ... I do realise that I've spent the last 15 years looking for people to make me unhappy...:(

Ultimately the friendship is the most important thing. If he wants more, then the ball is very much in his court, so he needs to decide whether it is just the shock of seeing me again after so many years, or what he really wants - and if so, he's got a lot of work to do before I even start to consider whether its what I might want. Once we get to know each other again, it might be completely out of the question, but right now it's a bit of strange situation.

Drunk texting says it all really.. he may just need a get out for his current relationship.. what do you know about that relationship? Longterm/children/financial implications?? Not really... and it doesn't seem appropriate to ask. However, it was one of the first things he mentioned when we met again... completely out of the blue... I interpreted this as meaning it was significant...

So... although I know perfectly well now to follow up Piggers' suggestions... I'm not going to . That's only a short term solution and actually, I'm now only interested in the long term - and to do that I need to make sure I don't get confused between lust and love Maybe once we get through the confused stage I can get him to introduce me to his eligible friends... he must have some (mind you, it'd be a bit like trying to get my brother to introduce me to his friends... I suspect he'd be too protective!). And for the moment, the confidence boost is great, and might help me in my attempt to get my love life back on track in some way...

Your brother has his career to consider.. you might have more luck with dating friends of a friend! lol Besides, would you want you brother to marry one of your work colleagues!! :eek: Good point... besides, I don't want to marry a doctor... but he does have non-medical friends

You lot do you have your uses sometimes!

We make you live somewhere decent you can bring the love interests back to without needing environmental health in first? Well, you try. Not much evidence of it succeeding at the moment...

oh... and last night's texts DEFINITELY had alcohol involved. This morning's are definitely more sensible!

Ah... but has he apologised for their content?

No technically nothing to apologise for ... nothing inappropriate... just more open and informal (and badly typed):cool:

Now go and lay the carpet and stop distracting yourself with my lack of love life...:p:p:p:p:p

seafarers_wife

my list for today, i had a very chilled out day yesterday and couldnt be bothered to do anything. did my dailies but didnt do anything big. got the weekend to myself, family was ment to be staying but got a better offer :rotfl: which means i can get a pile of my extra extras done.

Greenbee - get a cat, they are better than men, loyal, cute and also have the added benefit of loving unconditionally. plus they satisfy the biological ticking as well, not so good in other areas, but hey you cant have everything

My thoughts and prayers are again with those flyladies that need them xx

Spare Room - most of it done the other day
Level Two
[STRIKE]Vacuum the floor[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Make Bed[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Clean windows[/STRIKE]





Dailies

1. [STRIKE]Binbag dance [/STRIKE]
2. [STRIKE]Make bed[/STRIKE]
3. [STRIKE]Open windows[/STRIKE]
4. [STRIKE]Clean out litter tray[/STRIKE]
5. [STRIKE]S&S Kitchen[/STRIKE]
6. [STRIKE]S&S bathroom.[/STRIKE]

Daily Extras

Half the ironing pile

Weekly Extras

Clean Car (take it to the car wash)
Hoover car
filing
shredding
glass recycling
pair socks

Extras in General

Top back to shop
Vodaphone complaint letter to post
sort and chuck/charity shop gibble in boxes under beds and in loft
[STRIKE]buy beans for bean bag[/STRIKE]
buy xbox game oh wants
huge pile of shredding - do this weekend
huge pile of filling - do this weekend
sort and chuck old make up.
book car its mot
book cat in vets for bits to be cut off
get out in garden and pull up the weeds
buy and plant some pretty new flowers
pull back ivy thats growing in front garden

hollyh

That HHC didn't go to plan i

Put td on for 20 more mins cause the stuff was damp
Sorted recycing
Put dry dishes away
Washed up
S & S Kitchen

Then Ds1 came downstairs and knocked the bin over and instead of picking it up went back upstairs. I asked him to come and pick it up and he told me to F off i'm Fing busy.:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: So i've taken his xbox off him until he can behave himself. I'm not having it.

I'm going to do another HHC at 9.45 if anyone wants to join me hopefully this one will be trouble free.

rach

morning all

haven't really caught up but sounds like greenbee has a dilemma!

I have taken a sick day today, as have been rather dizzy and tired...think I just need a quiet day. I have to nip out at lunchtime to have a look at some baby stuff from a lady on netmums, but that's just a 20 min drive so no problem. I might see if my friend is in for a cuppa on the way back.

I will try and do a few small jobs around here, like washing etc!

greenbee

seafarers_wife wrote: »

Greenbee - get a cat, they are better than men, loyal, cute and also have the added benefit of loving unconditionally. plus they satisfy the biological ticking as well, not so good in other areas, but hey you cant have everything

I'd love a cat and a dog too... but I'd need a man too, as work means I'd need someone here to feed/water/walk them. Besides, I like the idea (I realise that it isn't often the reality!) of someone who will look after me occasionally...

Sod it... I've just had a client booked in for 10.30. I really must get myself washed and dressed and into work mode....

cally_c

Morning all,

It's a lovely day here today, sunny for a change!
Wednesday ~ Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
:j:jALL DONE:j:j
Compulsory Extra..
Turn on your favourite song and sing REALLY loudly along with it! .. I don't care if you all sound like strangled cats.. I want you to sing for me! I find it really lifts a cloudy mood!
What about:
I'm Gonna Make You A Star(drops) - David Essex
Flash - Queen
Cleanin Out My Closet - Eminem
or anything by DUSTY Springfield??

Thursday ~ master bedroom and landing
Level One
Declutter floors
[STRIKE]Strip bedding, wash sheets and remake the bed.. BEFORE BEDTIME!!
[/STRIKE]Level Two
Vacuum floors
Tidy away floordrobe/chairdrobe and top of chest of drawersdrobe!
Sort through one cupboard of clothing
Level Three
Sort out the airing cupboard or linen cupboard.. wha t can go? What do you need to keep?
[STRIKE]wash any curtains/nets that need it[/STRIKE]
Sort through one box of junk

In the process of clearning out DDs room so I can decorate when I'm off work (last day today :j). Spent three hours up there last night, her room is like a tardis - how can there be so much carp in such a small space???

Hope everyone has a good day,...

Dustykitten

Good morning one and all

It is cold here but lovely and sunny:D

I've:
Emptied the DW
Taken DS3 to school
WM1 on the line
stipped our bed
WM2 in progress
Removed a boot load of logs to the back garden (DS1 helped)
Filled the car from the emergency petrol can

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Think how his partner would feel. I've just come in at the end of this potentially exciting development, but repeat after me...
"Man who marries his mistress creates a vacancy"

What about "I couldn't even consider a relationship with someone who is attached" thats a great test of his mettle.

Sorry, that sounds awfully prudish, but I've seen the fallout, you wouldn't wish it on your worst enemy.
Have an ex friend who got with her husband while he was with someone and she is still, 12 years later, paranoid about him doing it again. Thats no way to live.

I love that quote and agree with your whole heartedly. I have seen the pain close up too many times and it is not nice :mad:

Greenbee the good thing is your stance has changed from 'I'm happy on my own' to 'I need to get out and meet people'. I wish you luck in your search for happiness just please don't cause misery for somebody else along the way x

Sandy - I hope a plan for treatment can be implemented, still thinking of you

Hi Polly, just because I haven't said it for a while

Toots - I hope you have a wonderful day on Sunday x

WM has just finished so I'll see what I can get on the line and then off to look for new shoes for DS2 and get some petrol

cally_c

Valli wrote: »

Algebra
Which Flylady shouldn't, in the opinion of another flylady, put a mirror in a room intended for teenage boys as boy+spot+mirror=stardrops+elbow grease?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:& don't forget the layers of hairspray as well!!

seafarers_wife wrote: »

Greenbee - get a cat, they are better than men, loyal, cute and also have the added benefit of loving unconditionally. plus they satisfy the biological ticking as well, not so good in other areas, but hey you cant have everything

They still keep you warm in bed though & they don't snore!!!:D