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Weekly Flylady Thread 29th March 2010
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As Thursday is done, I'm going to have a stab at Fridays list when I get back from town:
Friday ~ Childrens pits, spare or neglected rooms!
Level One
Strip, wash and replace bedding
Declutter and vacuum the floor
Level Two
Sort through a cupboard.. any cupboard, could even be a kitchen one!
Drag out and sort all the gibble from under the bed!
Straighten the toy boxes and shelves
Level Three
Wash any soft furnishings that need it.. or the duvet!
Dust and deweb
Wipe sticky grotmarks from the walls, doors and paintwork
Extras- Binbag dance
- 15 minutes filing
- List 1 item to sell
- sort the shoes, coats and bags!
"A cat can have kittens in the oven, but that don't make them biscuits." - Mary Cooper
"Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful" - William Morris
Plus ca change, plus c'est la meme chose.0 -
I'm still in shock about his mother not thinking I am some total scrote who is simply not good enough..
Compared to ?????????Why should she think that? You're relatively normal...
Morning toots - why were you up that late??
Glad you escaped the snow. We had about an inch of wet snow Tuesday night and showers yesterday - much worse inland.
Not sure if it was the weather (does low pressure make a difference?) but I have had a serious dose of CBA this week.
Must kick butt into gear today.
greenbee - the 15 year gap probably means he understands why you behaved as you did when you were much younger. And yes it is funny how the gap seems much less important as you grow older.
However I agree with soappie - a really good friend like that is valuable, (but that doesn't mean I wouldn't be foolish enough to risk it:o)0 -
Think how his partner would feel. I've just come in at the end of this potentially exciting development, but repeat after me...There are a few little details to deal with... like he isn't currently single...
don't go there!
However i will NOT get involved while he is still with someone else as I've been there before and it just doesn't work out...
Good woman.
Alternatively there is the option of just using this as an opportunity to deal with the biological clock problem... definitely worth mugging for the genes
"Man who marries his mistress creates a vacancy"
What about "I couldn't even consider a relationship with someone who is attached" thats a great test of his mettle.
Sorry, that sounds awfully prudish, but I've seen the fallout, you wouldn't wish it on your worst enemy.
Have an ex friend who got with her husband while he was with someone and she is still, 12 years later, paranoid about him doing it again. Thats no way to live.
Thursday ~ master bedroom and landing
Level One
Declutter floors
[STRIKE]Strip bedding, wash sheets and remake the bed.. BEFORE BEDTIME!!
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Forgetting my manners, morning all! Wm on, dw on. Holidays have started!Please do not confuse me with other gratefulsforhelp. x0 -
I did all my jobs yesterday , but was too tired to come on here to list them, so I'll do it now.
Wednesday ~ Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
[STRIKE]Clean floors in these rooms
Clean baths, toilets and sinks[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Clear any clutter from desk
Dust PC and desk and wipe off those cup rings!! (baby wipes are fantastic for this!!)
Wipe keyboard and mouse (these usually have more germs on than your toilet so important).. And your house phone.. they must be just as vile..[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wipe down tiles in bathroom
Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required
Clean the brushes/dust box/filters on the vacuum cleaner!!!! .. make sure they are completely dry before using it though.. I don’t want anyone electrocuted![/STRIKE]
Extras- [STRIKE]
- Sort through those half empty bottles or ones with only a dribble left and decant into one bottle and recycle the rest!!
- Wash your bathroom mats etc
- Sort a wardrobe or part of, a drawer or set of drawers making sure it has what needs to be in it and any 'extras' are put where they should be
- Spend 15 minutes shining mirrors and picture frames
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Real stupidity beats artificial intelligence every time.
Terry Pratchett ( Hogfather)0 - [STRIKE]
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Morning all,
Ds1 has apologised properly now but he's still not using my laptop.:p I'm just glad he's stopped the whinging.
Greenbee it's a tricky situation but i think if you make it clear that you won't get involved while he's in a relationship it's up to him to decide then. My OH is 16 years older than me and most of the time i don't notice until i have to sit through war films.:cool:
Toots yay for not inviting toxic to your Confirmation. I hope you have a wonderful day.
Pigpen your doing so well, everytime you start decorating it inspires me to do some ( then i wonder what possessed me when i'm half way through:cool: ) I think maybe you should rest a bit now though.
HHC at 9.00 anyone?0 -
Morning all,
I have done all level 1s for this week apart from our sheets. We have some sun so I may try and get these washed, we are going away today and it would be nice to return to clean sheets.
I haven't written any more words yet but am happy with how my dissertation is progressing. I know how I work and if I feel I have comprehensive research it will be easier to write the full thing so that is what I am working at now.
The house is quite tidy, need to pack the car up for OH returning from work and do some general S & Sing and then I will be going on holiday
MFW 2025 No. 7 £1130/£1200
MFiT-T7 No. 6 £2873.51/£30,0000 -
He's not even an old flame... although I get the feeling that might have been down to me not paying attention (and in my late teens/early twenties the age gap would have meant I wouldn't have considered it!) I wasn't very grown up...Just be careful with the old flame Greenbee. You need to ask yourself if you want him to be that firm and reliable friend again possibly for the rest of your life. Or do you want to chance not having that by going too far too fast?
you're all giving great advice... I think we're both working out how we're going to fit back into each others lives. its too important to risk getting it wrong.Craftyscholar wrote: »greenbee - the 15 year gap probably means he understands why you behaved as you did when you were much younger. And yes it is funny how the gap seems much less important as you grow older.
However I agree with soappie - a really good friend like that is valuable, (but that doesn't mean I wouldn't be foolish enough to risk it:o)
It doesn't sound prudish. It sounds sensible. I've been there before. In my mid-twenties I met someone, fell for him (WHY???? he was an a***holegratefulforhelp wrote: »Think how his partner would feel. I've just come in at the end of this potentially exciting development, but repeat after me...
"Man who marries his mistress creates a vacancy"
What about "I couldn't even consider a relationship with someone who is attached" thats a great test of his mettle.
Sorry, that sounds awfully prudish, but I've seen the fallout, you wouldn't wish it on your worst enemy.
Have an ex friend who got with her husband while he was with someone and she is still, 12 years later, paranoid about him doing it again. Thats no way to live.
)and THEN found out he was married. It took me a couple of very unhappy years to extricate myself. And I met my last partner when he was separated and initiating divorce proceedings. Although I was nothing to do with the breakup, he felt guilty about getting involved when he wasn't completely free, and in the end our relationship didn't survive the strain of what was a fairly unpleasant and drawn out divorce, despite the fact that there were no children involved. I do seem to attract attached men though... why aren't there any single men propositioning me? It's ALWAYS the married ones...
Ultimately the friendship is the most important thing. If he wants more, then the ball is very much in his court, so he needs to decide whether it is just the shock of seeing me again after so many years, or what he really wants - and if so, he's got a lot of work to do before I even start to consider whether its what I might want. Once we get to know each other again, it might be completely out of the question, but right now it's a bit of strange situation.
So... although I know perfectly well now to follow up Piggers' suggestions... I'm not going to. That's only a short term solution and actually, I'm now only interested in the long term - and to do that I need to make sure I don't get confused between lust and love Maybe once we get through the confused stage I can get him to introduce me to his eligible friends... he must have some (mind you, it'd be a bit like trying to get my brother to introduce me to his friends... I suspect he'd be too protective!). And for the moment, the confidence boost is great, and might help me in my attempt to get my love life back on track in some way...
You lot do you have your uses sometimes!
oh... and last night's texts DEFINITELY had alcohol involved. This morning's are definitely more sensible!0 -
Message from Sandy - thanks to toots for your good advice, and to the rest of you for the love and support. She's used to doing things on her own - that's the way she is. Once she has sorted things in her head she will let us know what's happening. They're talking treatment options with her today.0
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Just in checking my lists for Today. I have decided that as the boys room is a tip and DS1 normally cleans it by himself as he is away DS2 should do it for a change so that's his job for tomorrow.
Greenbee I know he's attached but if that were to change (or you meet someone else) if it makes you feel any better there is a big age gap between me and OH 16 years 5 months and I started going out with him when I was 18. We have our moments like any couple but it's never to do with the age gap just him being a prat!
kids decluttered to school. coffee and nicotine on the go need to go stick the washing machine on.
Oh any advice about my eye it's really blood shot this morning and feels gritty (if that makes any sense) and is tender when I rub my eye lid ?????
The blood ahot bit may be due to me chatting with Jinky late last night about her love for Barry Ferguson but then again !
Toots Try not to think about all the people in church you'll be fine. I hope you have a lovely day.
AnW's mum if you have been unable to get a phrase book for Toots area let me know I'll give you a crash course.:rotfl::rotfl: Hope you and the kids have a great time.
Really should get started ................
I'm not a muggle...I'm just magically challenged0 -
Craftyscholar wrote: »Compared to ?????????
Exactly....Pigpen your doing so well, everytime you start decorating it inspires me to do some ( then i wonder what possessed me when i'm half way through:cool: ) I think maybe you should rest a bit now though.
I am getting the carpet down today.. and OH can finish the kitchen.. there is a large area needs sanding which was filled then I can assess and refill if necessary. We are having th w/e at his mums which will entail a lot of sitting, chatting and having food cooked for us!!He's not even an old flame... although I get the feeling that might have been down to me not paying attention (and in my late teens/early twenties the age gap would have meant I wouldn't have considered it!) I wasn't very grown up...
You weren't meant to be.. but at 18 my friends mum married her dad.. they have now been married 38 years.. he had 4 children from previous marriage too!!
you're all giving great advice... I think we're both working out how we're going to fit back into each others lives. its too important to risk getting it wrong.
That may depend what you are both looking for..
It doesn't sound prudish. It sounds sensible. I've been there before. In my mid-twenties I met someone, fell for him (WHY???? he was an a***hole)and THEN found out he was married. It took me a couple of very unhappy years to extricate myself. And I met my last partner when he was separated and initiating divorce proceedings. Although I was nothing to do with the breakup, he felt guilty about getting involved when he wasn't completely free, and in the end our relationship didn't survive the strain of what was a fairly unpleasant and drawn out divorce, despite the fact that there were no children involved. I do seem to attract attached men though... why aren't there any single men propositioning me? It's ALWAYS the married ones...
Separated is not the same as living as husband/wife. Essentially that is the position OH and I are in now!!
Single men will (at your ripe old age) either be divorced/married/hideously deformed or complete KH's..
Sounds like you are attracted by the wrong things.... As I always told my close friend.. look at the bulge in the back pocket not the one in the front! And watch out for the baggage biting your bum!
Ultimately the friendship is the most important thing. If he wants more, then the ball is very much in his court, so he needs to decide whether it is just the shock of seeing me again after so many years, or what he really wants - and if so, he's got a lot of work to do before I even start to consider whether its what I might want. Once we get to know each other again, it might be completely out of the question, but right now it's a bit of strange situation.
Drunk texting says it all really.. he may just need a get out for his current relationship.. what do you know about that relationship? Longterm/children/financial implications??
So... although I know perfectly well now to follow up Piggers' suggestions... I'm not going to. That's only a short term solution and actually, I'm now only interested in the long term - and to do that I need to make sure I don't get confused between lust and love Maybe once we get through the confused stage I can get him to introduce me to his eligible friends... he must have some (mind you, it'd be a bit like trying to get my brother to introduce me to his friends... I suspect he'd be too protective!). And for the moment, the confidence boost is great, and might help me in my attempt to get my love life back on track in some way...
Your brother has his career to consider.. you might have more luck with dating friends of a friend! lol Besides, would you want you brother to marry one of your work colleagues!! :eek:
You lot do you have your uses sometimes!
We make you live somewhere decent you can bring the love interests back to without needing environmental health in first?
oh... and last night's texts DEFINITELY had alcohol involved. This morning's are definitely more sensible!
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