Weekly Flylady Thread 29th March 2010

lemanie

Morning all,

Thanks for the updates on Sandy, Greenbee, please pass on my best wishes. Also, re your man friend, I am sure you will make the right decision for you both now, just remains to be seen if he does, but you aren't that naive young lassie anymore and seem to be a classy lady so hope you find a suitable horologist soon to help you with that ticking clock.

Soappie, glad that BG are going to get you sorted, and your NN does sound very N. Warm thoughts winging their way.

Hex - yuck, :rotfl:but am loving the solutions

Thifty - thanks for noticing and for the sympathy, much appreciated. I rang my lovely sister yesterday (had been putting it off because I know that she feels in equal parts guilty and strangely jealous as it has been her rare hereditary neurological condition for 25 years and now she can't even keep that to herself:D) and we had a good talk and a good cry and whilst still tearful and low-ish, I can see the other side ...just...

LW - I was told in my late teens that I probably wouldn't ever conceive and would be very unlikely to carry a child so I just never entertained maternal instincts and I don't think that you or I are unusual. My Mum was a single-mother with children with 3, possibly 4 different (very absent) fathers which wasn't common in that era/where we lived plus she is a very selfish woman. I mothered her from being 11 (including all the housework and cooking) so can only assume that she thought I would be ok when she left me alone in the house with no money at 15? Having had no real experience of being mothered or seeing how parents should work from close hand I continually question my parenting instincts/actions and feelings (I have 3, well they did say, probably!) but all 5 of us are a close family unit and we muddle through... but admits in a very quiet voice that I do occasionally wonder if it was wise to have any let alone 3, especially when I read about just what joy and delight folks like the ones on here get from their children and I'm sure give in return...

carlsberggal wrote: »

DS has just been to my work, now he's supposed to be in Caterrick, but guess what he's got his date finally for Afghanistan, it's next thursday.

So sorry for your anxiety, wishing him safely home already!

pigpen wrote: »

LOL.. you have no idea how often I get asked that.. they are all mine.. I've spent 12 years breastfeeding!!

Eeek :eek:, 12 years! and definitely notice board, mirrors need shining

ajmoney wrote: »

I am so proud of him, he left working with me which he had done since leaving school for close on 30 years and it is not easy to retrain for anything in your late 40s.

What a lovely post, congratulations to you both.

So sorry about such a long post, with no mention of flying, but I was decluttering feelings . Sorry about the pity party too, promise to pick myself up and go flying...today... will report back on progress later.

Mel x

ETA - I knew there was something else - AnWsMum and Toots, have a lovely weekend and hope that the confirmation goes really well Toots, DD was confirmed last May and it was really lovely, wishing the same for you.

tiredanddesperate

hollyh wrote: »

Then Ds1 came downstairs and knocked the bin over and instead of picking it up went back upstairs. I asked him to come and pick it up and he told me to F off i'm Fing busy.:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: So i've taken his xbox off him until he can behave himself. I'm not having it.

Well done. There is never any reason for being disrespectful, to anyone, but especially to your mum. And as for the bad language :eek:. Although I think I have a 'thing' about swearing.....I've never really said 'naughty words' (apart from the occassional 'bo**ocks' - that works for me )

I tell my boys that they have no need to swear, they are clever enough to find a proper word to use instead! If they do swear (DS2 has been known to come out with the odd word every now & again) they have to write lines.....

I am far too clever to swear!
I am far too clever to swear!
I am far too clever to swear!
I am far too clever to swear!
I am far too clever to swear!

So far, it seems to have done the trick.....mind you, they are only 9, 10 & 11 and extremely young for their age....no street cred....not cool or anything like that....which is the way I like it :cool:

Zero tolerance in our house........

Stand your ground, no one deserves to be spoken to like that. :T:T

Notso

ps. If I have spoken out of turn, please forgive me....

hex2

seafarers_wife wrote: »

Greenbee - get a cat, they are better than men, loyal, cute and also have the added benefit of loving unconditionally. plus they satisfy the biological ticking as well, not so good in other areas, but hey you cant have everything

and you can have four at once if you want to!

cally - some of them snore!
Greenbee - you know my background, and my view . Everything crossed for you.
Funfair - thanks for the offer, Bute I think, or Glasgow.

10am and we are not dressed yet - again. I still have next week off as well :T. Boys are being brilliant despite the weather meaning we haven't been out.

So far I have emptied and filled the DW, put the meat order from the online butchers away (looks good - and came at 8am!), made french toast for DS1 and drank too much tea as usual. Not raining today but cold, windy and frosty so hopefully we can go out.

Thanks for the sympathy and sugestions re the bin. I think the biggest issue is that I fail to see why an unbroken plastic bin should be added to landfill just because he doesn't want to sort it. If he had done it on the day it would have been a simple swill and disinfect. It is black bagged and in his bedroom for his dad to deal with.

greenbee

Dustykitten wrote: »

Greenbee the good thing is your stance has changed from 'I'm happy on my own' to 'I need to get out and meet people'. I wish you luck in your search for happiness just please don't cause misery for somebody else along the way x

Don't worry... I'm not prepared to put myself through that kind of pain either... but it is nice to have someone interested (actually, there is more than one, but with the others I know either they are definitely after a bit of entertainment or that it's the attraction of something they can't have - I did tell someone yesterday to stop IM'ing me on their day off and spend some time with their wife)

hex2 wrote: »

Greenbee - you know my background, and my view . Everything crossed for you.

Thanks Cats are too much responsibility at the moment... but cats and dogs are definitely part of the selection criteria for men (along with an ability to cope with my erratic work lifestyle and my many and varied neuroses).

I may, of course, be getting worked up over nothing... it's probably just spring....

hollyh

Thanks notso , he wouldn't speak to his Dad or OH like that so i don't know why he thinks it's ok to do it to me.:mad:

That HHC was more productive, in that time i

Folded load from td
Wm x 1
Td x 1
Tuesday ~ Living room/family room or other reception room!
Extras

1. Finish/do a small DIY job

Wednesday ~ Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
[STRIKE]Clean baths, toilets and sinks[/STRIKE]
Level Two
Clear any clutter from desk
Dust PC and desk and wipe off those cup rings!! (baby wipes are fantastic for this!!)
Wipe keyboard and mouse (these usually have more germs on than your toilet so important).. And your house phone.. they must be just as vile..
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wipe down tiles in bathroom
Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required[/STRIKE]
Clean the brushes/dust box/filters on the vacuum cleaner!!!! .. make sure they are completely dry before using it though.. I don’t want anyone electrocuted!
Extras[STRIKE]Sort through those half empty bottles or ones with only a dribble left and decant into one bottle and recycle the rest!!
Wash your bathroom mats etc
Spend 15 minutes shining mirrors and picture frames
[/STRIKE]Compulsory Extra..
Turn on your favourite song and sing REALLY loudly along with it! .. I don't care if you all sound like strangled cats.. I want you to sing for me! I find it really lifts a cloudy mood!

Thursday ~ master bedroom and landing
Level One
Declutter floors
Strip bedding, wash sheets and remake the bed.. BEFORE BEDTIME!!
Level Two
Vacuum floors
Tidy away floordrobe/chairdrobe and top of chest of drawersdrobe!
Sort through one cupboard of clothing
Level Three
Sort out the airing cupboard or linen cupboard.. wha t can go? What do you need to keep?
wash any curtains/nets that need it
Sort through one box of junk
Extras

1. check all the smoke alarms are working as they should!
2. Sort out the junk from your favourite/most used handbag!.. Get rid of those receipts from 1982 from your purse! lol

Friday ~ Childrens pits, spare or neglected rooms!
Level One
Strip, wash and replace bedding
Declutter and vacuum the floor
Level Two
Sort through a cupboard.. any cupboard, could even be a kitchen one!
Drag out and sort all the gibble from under the bed!
Straighten the toy boxes and shelves
Level Three
Wash any soft furnishings that need it.. or the duvet!
Dust and deweb
Wipe sticky grotmarks from the walls, doors and paintwork
Extras

1. Binbag dance
2. List 1 item to sell

My Extras

Ebay
Sort Ds2's toys
Sort paperwork I've almost finished this just 2 more things to file
Get compost from garden centre
Repot leeks
Finish weeding path
Clear ironing basket
Move rabbit stuff to Wendy house, leaving a small amount in the utility room
Sort toy corner
Update freezer inventory
Secure top of rabbit run
Collect ebay & freecycle items
Bins in

I'm going to tackle the bedrooms now.:eek: I may be some time. Ds1 should be doing his now and Ds2 can help me with his, there's about 6 million teeny tiny pieces of paper on the floor where he's been cutting as well as a mound of other carp. I'm regretting not doing it last week now.

rach

hex - just read back about the vomit. Good on you, he won't forget that in a hurry!

piggers - we also often take our own pillows, DH always moans about other people's pillows!

so, a little list for me:
look at trains for liz hen do
get cash
see/buy moses basket & sleeping bag from netmums lady
see k?
talk to dh re going to wedding in june or not?
reply to wedding invite
wm
get chicken out to defrost
spend 30 mins sorting spare room
check smile cc has been cancelled
look into mystery santander card on credit report

Mumto5

Wednesday ~ Bathroom and Study/Pc Area

ALL DONE STAR PLEASE

Thursday ~ master bedroom and landing
Level One
Declutter floors
Strip bedding, wash sheets and remake the bed.. BEFORE BEDTIME!!
Level Two
Vacuum floors
Tidy away floordrobe/chairdrobe and top of chest of drawersdrobe!
Sort through one cupboard of clothing
Level Three
Sort out the airing cupboard or linen cupboard.. wha t can go? What do you need to keep?
wash any curtains/nets that need it
Sort through one box of junk
Extras

1. Do a small job you have been putting off forever
2. check all the smoke alarms are working as they should!
3. Sort out the junk from your favourite/most used handbag!.. Get rid of those receipts from 1982 from your purse! lol
4. Fill a binbag for charity shop (or the bin if you prefer!)

Friday ~ Childrens pits, spare or neglected rooms!
Level One
Strip, wash and replace bedding
Declutter and vacuum the floor
Level Two
Sort through a cupboard.. any cupboard, could even be a kitchen one!
Drag out and sort all the gibble from under the bed!
Straighten the toy boxes and shelves
Level Three
Wash any soft furnishings that need it.. or the duvet!
Dust and deweb
Wipe sticky grotmarks from the walls, doors and paintwork
Extras

1. Binbag dance
2. 15 minutes filing
3. List 1 item to sell
4. sort the shoes, coats and bags!

Busy day yesterday. Just skimmed the thread.

Sandy - so sorry it wasnt' what you wanted to hear. Thinking of you and your family.

Greenbee - thanks for the updates on the above.
I'm torn with regards to your dilemma. DH was married:o when we met. I was 18, he was 27. It wasn't pretty but we have been together 22yrs and he's not filled the mistress vacancy. Nevertheless I have friends and relations who have unhappy tales to tell.

Toots - Best wishes for Sunday - it was one of the best things I have ever done for ME. 30 Nov 1999 - I celebrate the anniversary like a birthday.

Pigpen - I have DS's of 11 and 15 - my problem is getting them to look in the mirror, neither have awoken to the power of the fairer sex and appearance is very low on their list of priorities. A Pinboard is an excellent idea - I must get to the Home Store.

Hex - Deffo put it back just before he comes home - how revolting.

DD1 has got into DS3's primary school. (Big sigh of relief). They are very oversubscribed and there are 7 sets of twins starting in September.

My girls night out on Tuesday was good fun. DH had promised to do the morning shift and school run but didn't much to my disappointment. However fate paid a visit and he agreed to do it this morning. DD2 had a wet and dirty bed (v. rare event) and he had to deal with it.:rotfl:

pigpen

greenbee wrote: »

Now go and lay the carpet and stop distracting yourself with my lack of love life...:p:p:p:p:p

PMSL..VERY rude reply about laying... but..

I need to go collect the carpet first... and before that I need to get out of bed!!

Valli wrote: »

Thursday Quiz

Algebra
Which Flylady shouldn't, in the opinion of another flylady, put a mirror in a room intended for teenage boys as boy+spot+mirror=stardrops+elbow grease?

Are you daft? White vinegar and MF cloth.. shining in seconds! Have I taught you NOTHING?!

greenbee wrote: »

I may, of course, be getting worked up over nothing... it's probably just spring....

Lord save us!!

GB is in season.. she'll be spraying in corners next!!

tiredanddesperate

hollyh wrote: »

Thanks notso , he wouldn't speak to his Dad or OH like that so i don't know why he thinks it's ok to do it to me.:mad:

I have the same thing with my boys - they 'try it on' with me when they wouldn't dare with DH. That's probably why...they wouldn't dare with him. He's never been violent or anything with them or ever given them any reason to think he might, although he can't half SHOUT - we all jump when he shouts ....(in fact, as they keep reminding him :cool:, he had to promise to the judge when we officially adopted them 3.5 years ago, that he would never hit them )

It's just a boy thing...one day he will grow out of it

Out of interest, what would his Dad say if he knew (or does he know?)

Notso

boddy

Morning everyone.

Had such a shock this morning. Checked my bank account and £12,000 had been taken out.:eek: I dont owe them that amount and did not have that amount in my account. No wonder bank was trying to contact me. Rang mortgage company and they said it was a mistake. My heart was going like the clappers. Been to the bank and all sorted now. Phew! Its a good job I checked with it being a Bank Holiday weekend and my bills coming out.

Off to meet DD now and will catch up on my flying later.

Hugs for everyone specially Toots, Lady L, Diva and sandy.