***manic monday mutterings ***

bank_of_slate

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

I have spoken to MIL.
She has been 'hurt' since my party that I apparently said 'What are you doing here?' when I walked in over the whole babysitting issue.

!!!!!!. Over 6 weeks she has been stewing and feeling 'hurt' and would much rather be upset with me rather than sorting it out. Frankly, I lost my temper a bit and told her that as a memeber of the family I think she should treat me with more respect and be able to come to me and tell me rather than carry around the 'hurt' for over 6 bloody weeks! I said about us going to Florida and having to share a house for 3 weeks-she said the time never arose to say something-I said (and I quote) Bullocks. You could have picked up the phone at any point and spoke to me an d the fact you doesnt hurts me greatly-I told her that she and my FIL are the only parents I have here and if she cant talk to me that it upsets me greatly. I apologised profusely for saying what I did, I am sorry for that- I have no issue admitting when I am wrong but she seems to feel acting the martyr and ruining mothers day etc is a better way to deal with it. !!!!!!. Women

How did she respond? has it cleared the air a bit?
...Linda xx

Bunnyinthelights

I think so, she apologised to me (under duress initially) I told her I am not unapproachable and that if anything like this happened again I would really prefer that she say something.

I told her that she was going to make herself ill carrying around the hurt instead of saying something. We agreed to drawn a line under it-she and my SIL LOVe nothing better than to have something to be 'hurt' about and mull over and wear the ol hair shirt, iykwim. Does my nut in. Why would you chose to 'be hurt' instead of saying something?!?!

She said she was worrried what all my friends would think-so I said 'you are worried about what my friends who you will probably never see again think but you dont worry enough to sort it out with me?' I hope she can see how petty she has been.

Like I said, I was sorry for the bottom of my heart and I could have said that to her weeks ago if she had spoken up!

Snaggles

Bunny, well done for tackling it, very brave. I really hope she now has the decency to snap out of it, accept your apology and stop being so damn petty. !!!!!!, it was only a misunderstanding over a throwaway comment. Silly mare (her, not you).

Bunnyinthelights

Good news about the sitter Luc-what are you going to wear?

Snaggles

I am feeling very virtuous. Haven't started the CD (as I haven't got round to reading the booklet ) but had healthy cereals for breakfast, salad for lunch and pasta in a tomato and veg sauce for dinner (ate early so I could eat with the kids...hoping I don't end up wanting to snack later because it was TOO early...might have an early night!). I know I haven't drunk enough though, so will make sure I have a couple of large glasses of water this evening.

And no chocolate!

Bunnyinthelights

I hope so Snags.

How are you today?

SuzySu

Oh Bun....your MIL sounds EXACTLY like my mother - she could sulk for England (and very often does!). I'm in the doghouse at the moment over something I said yesterday so she's going to enjoy playing the martyr for a few days. I really can't be arsed with her childish behaviour so I'm letting her get on with it.

Bunnyinthelights

Very virtuous Snags, well done.

I feel ill. Have cold and upset belly. Stress. I think I am almost at the stage now where I stop eating, this has only happened to me once before and I am feeling the same, where every time I eat, I feel ill.

bank_of_slate

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

I think so, she apologised to me (under duress initially) I told her I am not unapproachable and that if anything like this happened again I would really prefer that she say something.

I told her that she was going to make herself ill carrying around the hurt instead of saying something. We agreed to drawn a line under it-she and my SIL LOVe nothing better than to have something to be 'hurt' about and mull over and wear the ol hair shirt, iykwim. Does my nut in. Why would you chose to 'be hurt' instead of saying something?!?!

She said she was worrried what all my friends would think-so I said 'you are worried about what my friends who you will probably never see again think but you dont worry enough to sort it out with me?' I hope she can see how petty she has been.

Like I said, I was sorry for the bottom of my heart and I could have said that to her weeks ago if she had spoken up!

Good for you bunny, You have been the mature one by getting it out in the air, how long would she have stewed over it if you hadn't? Life's too short, just ask Weller and Ellidee.

By the way, how is your friend that was in the car accident?
...Linda xx

Ames

Lucifa73 wrote: »

I just had a call...

I got a face to face interview:j:j:j

Small issue with childcare though...

Yaaaaaaaaaaaay! Well done!

ghostmadlittlemiss wrote: »

Yeah, it's the estate agents I'm waiting for. I love the flat and I can't wait to move in there.

Right, I need serious help here. My car just failed it's MOT, to the tune of about a grand! :eek: Mainly because last year's lot botched the repairs and also didn't spot that the back driver's side tyre was the wrong size. :mad: :eek: I'm going to have to sell my car now, there's no way I can afford that. :mad: What I want to know is, what can I do about the garage I used last year not repairing her properly and contributing to this year's damage? (The salt on the roads when it snowed didn't help either) Legal suggestions would be best though right now, I'm not fussy. :mad: :mad: :mad:
Kayleigh

You could try Community Legal Services, you're a student so you'd qualify for legal aid so they'll talk to you. They'll be able to point you in the right direction.

bank_of_slate wrote: »

Weller (with good reason though)
...Linda xx

Has Wannabe been around lately?

Right, off to finish catching up...