From Trash to Cash: the Dribble continues

jo70mo

evenstarcrafty wrote: »

thanks for that Jo,I know you are right but its sometimes hard
I think hes a lazy person, his mum ran round after him and he expects I should do the same, whereas I was bought up in a housrhold where everyone had to do there bit
I have tried to show him I appreciate him and made him surprise breakfast in bed on Sunday
Anyway i think the message about changing myself is very true ,in fact its what Ive been dicussing with my counciller and I have to say I dont feel so much of a victim anymore I feel I can change things for myself,even if he,s still a lazy *****,there is a lot of bad history between us and I have forgiven him for so much already but never learned to let go till now, I feel a lot lighter for it
Coming on this thread has helped me loads as well cos everyones so nice and supportive,which is something Ive lacked for sometime,so thanks everyone:A

You really would make an excellent counciller and I really apreciate you taking the time to help me
thanks:A

Sounds like you are really getting somewhere evenstar.
I think the lovely part about taking responsibility for your own feelings is that you don't have to squeeze yourself into forgiving someone but just find a way that you can feel ok.
By the way it is really hard and I by no means 100 % live the things I am talking about. I just find that the more I remind myself about them during the good times the easier it is to bring them into play in the difficult times.
I am no way advocating people let themselves be trampled on I just find it useful to remind myself that there are other ways to stop yourself being used as doormat than wishing that someone would stepping on you.
I find it useful to put this stuff "out there" as a way of processing it myself as well.
Jo x

babymoo

cagneuk wrote: »

Ok I'm back from catching up now.

Evenstar - Silloth???? Too far from Newcastle for that car boot, hope it's worth it for you. I think Hexam is about my limit. cost in petrol is crazy these days, especially with a boot full of stuff to sell.
Helz - has been said before but you only need domain for now.
Hales - I know you say your commitments list is open to everyone but I'm too scared to put something on there yet. one day though.
Joey - your links are excellent but some of them don't work. will pm you with what I've tried.
MummyandP - sorry to hear about your friend, I have clots in my right lung and my brain, they're not the easiest thing to come to terms with but once you accept them, you just have to adjust your life a little to adapt.
Yukki - I love Harriet and Jessica

And that's about it I think. sorry if I've missed anyone.
Ok here goes... (sorry for a long one)

Well, yesterday we went to my parents for lunch, came back and OH said she wanted to nip down to her parents with the kids while I listed more on ebay.
So with the house to myself, and surrounded in boxes of books and ornaments, I decided that the best thing to do would be to leave the listings as they are (15 active, 5 with bids) as I don't want to overdo it in my first week,:D especially if they all sell then it's trip after trip to the post office. So instead I chose to tidy the house, dishes, washing, toys away, move all boxes around pc out of the dining room. I just thought that my OH does it all the time so it's about time I did my bit, there's no point trying to make money for a stable future for my family if when I get there, I have no family to support because somewhere along the way we lost what was important.
Sorry if that's too deep, but it's how I felt.

When OH came home with DS, (DD decided to stay at grandma's) all the house was clean and tidy, we got DS to bed and then we sat down together and watched the film FAME. (really enjoyed it too btw):D

We also talked about my ideas and the reasons I'm doing it is not just to sit and mess about on the computer, but I want to be able to make enought money to pay off our debt quicker and so that she can drop 10 hours a week after her maternity, and that these are both things we want so I would like her support. She agreed and even though was unsure how she could help, she is going to use her twitter and facebook, talk to her friends, other school mums, her slimming club,etc
she's also volunteered to drop a few leaflets through the door for them, I asked if she was being paid which she isn't???? so I said I'd rather you did something to help us make money, so she's going to drop some leaflets through doors too when I get some made up. compromise.;)
As we went to bed, my mind started to tick, working by myself is rewarding, gettin my wife to help is fantastic.
Now imagine, what we could do if some/all of the dribblers, got together and worked together on a project.
That was it. I was up out of bed and I have scribbled about 8 or 9 pages of ideas, backrounds, etc. before I decided I had to go to sleep to get up for work today.
So I guess, now with the clear light of day I should review what I've written and if any of it is worthwhile, I'll come back on and share it with you. If not, I'll come back on and you can all laugh about it. Fine with that too as sometimes my midnight ramblings can produce Genius or Jester.

Ok dribble over. back to you.

Love it whats the ideas??

moneymabel wrote: »

lmao:rotfl::T Thanks thats cheered me up!

God I am in such a foul mood-OH is still being a !!!!!!,its peeing down with rain and I cant think of anything productive to do, have emailed a few websites re links to my site but now stuck. Not in creative mood so cant make any jewellery-could castrate OH with my pliers that would pass a few minutes.......:rotfl:

Anyhooo ignore me just feeling sorry for myself when there are people a lot worse off than me.

Can you not join some wedding forums? Put your website in your signature and start conversations about jewellery, where they are getting it from etc?

SaucySecrets wrote: »

Fabregas is mine.
I will not share.

Back to slowly dying in bed...

Glad to see you back sweetie!! Keep your chin up and don't do too much!!!

Yukki - I absolutly love them sock animals. Can you do a cow one for me? Please? lol

Thanks to everyone who is reading my blog and commenting, I want it to sound powerful and written from the heart but not like I am batting for sympathy if that makes sense so if it does then please tell me

yukkibear

This is taking me right back to my childhood. My first blog post about my sock pets can be found here

yukkibear

Babymoo, I'll have to look out for some cow print socks and then yes of course I'll do one for you.

babymoo

Right i'm off to battle with the rain and post my ebay stuff bbs

paulabear

moneymabel wrote: »

I'll do it if you can come round and kick my OH's in return?!

urgh cant find anything to blog about....ahhhh stupid me...sulkies!!!!!! Paula can I blog about Sulkies? any chance you could email me a couple of photos of them? my email address is in my profile :-)

Yes definitely! Just made a teeny keyring one, it's so miniature, I love miniature things...dogs...merkins... no I'm joking! Just about to get the boy from school but can you hang on til I've done some new ones please? The range is looking a bit sparse so far, thanks so much for doing it though! Can't wait! Need a blog now don't I, to put everyone's sites on, need a laptop that's not bloody oH's first...:p

babymoo wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who is reading my blog and commenting, I want it to sound powerful and written from the heart but not like I am batting for sympathy if that makes sense so if it does then please tell me

It's strong and from the heart with no dramatics; it just seems to tell the truth about how you felt with no batting for sympathy at all, it doesn't read like that. Just about to take your Sulkie to the P.O.

evenstarcrafty

yukkibear wrote: »

Babymoo, I'll have to look out for some cow print socks and then yes of course I'll do one for you.

theres loads of aminal print out there you should be able to get some great socks for pets
You should try primark if theres one near

cagneuk

Hello again,

Saucy - welcome home.
Right, I've re read my ramblings and they're..... well, erm good, I think. I'd really like to share them all with you, but not on an open forum. I've wrote them all down as they were written (more or less) I created and published a page on blogger but put no links to it anywhere on my main blog. If you would like to read it and let me know what you think, pm me or shout up on here and I'll send you the link.
Ideally would love all the posters to have a read as it's about us all working together on a project but not the casual readers who don't post, it's not ready for them yet.

moneymabel

That's cool Paula- let me know when you're ready :-)

Babymoo your blog is fascinating and I haven't got even the tiniest sense of you looking for sympathy so don't worry about that.

Good idea about the wedding forums, think I'll save that for when I'm in a better mood tho coz I'll just end up telling them men are useless and don't bother to get married lol

paulabear

Me please cagne :-)