after after 7 years someone tells me that i have a child with her

netiela

missmontana wrote: »

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Yes. The full fee for testing three people (two adults and one child) is £281.05.

If the person named as the parent of the child pays when they return their appointment form, they can pay a discounted rate available through Cellmark, a company we use to carry out DNA tests. Currently, the discounted rate is £215.69. These costs may change from time to time. If you would like to check the current costs, you can phone us or write to us using the phone number or address at the top of the letter we have sent you to ask you to arrange a DNA test. No part of the money goes to the CSA.

thank you,,but i spoke with CSA on friday,,and they asked me £290.00
may i ask you something alse then,,,i did sent the post before but no one answerd me yet....
A couple of weeks ago ,,she asked me to give her full legal rights??
Why is she asking this from me??
The girl is her own daughter???
Am i stoping her some how for this????
Cos i really dont get it,,,,im just ignorant in these kind of stuf,,,,:(

missmontana

I have no idea. You need to see the birth certificate. And get the DNA test done, then go from there.

Kimitatsu

I think you need to ask her what rights she is asking for. She already has parental responsibility as she would have registered the birth.

Please dont give her the rights to anything without running it past a solicitor first - it could be really expensive.

netiela

missmontana wrote: »

I have no idea. You need to see the birth certificate. And get the DNA test done, then go from there.

why do i need to see the birth certficate??? My name is not there,,,, !!!!

CSA_Help

netiela wrote: »

thank you,,but i spoke with CSA on friday,,and they asked me £290.00
may i ask you something alse then,,,i did sent the post before but no one answerd me yet....
A couple of weeks ago ,,she asked me to give her full legal rights??
Why is she asking this from me??
The girl is her own daughter???
Am i stoping her some how for this????
Cos i really dont get it,,,,im just ignorant in these kind of stuf,,,,:(

Full legal rights ?

She maybe wants you to pay for the child but have all your rights removed to actually see the child (maybe child doen't look like you ) god knows what go through some womens minds but sounds rather strange to me .

The big clue would be you having a different skin colour to you

No seriously unsure what she means by that but i would get tested .£290 for a test is a drop in the ocean which will probably happen to you in the future with the CSA

netiela

Kimitatsu wrote: »

I think you need to ask her what rights she is asking for. She already has parental responsibility as she would have registered the birth.

Please dont give her the rights to anything without running it past a solicitor first - it could be really expensive.

but if i dont want to get involved in this,, i meen i never was around for the girl,,what kind of rights would she asked me,,,,cos the only thing that she asked me is that i need to give her full leagl rights and thats is?????????,,,,but as long as im not in the BC ,, how am i stoping her,,,i just dont figure anywere for that little girl.

netiela

CSA_Help wrote: »

Full legal rights ?

She maybe wants you to pay for the child but have all your rights removed to actually see the child (maybe child doen't look like you ) god knows what go through some womens minds but sounds rather strange to me .

The big clue would be you having a different skin colour to you

No seriously unsure what she means by that but i would get tested .£290 for a test is a drop in the ocean which will probably happen to you in the future with the CSA

Im really confused myself ,,and i dont know what to think anymore..
I cant say the child looks like me,,but we have the same skin colour:(
Yeah i think i will get tested,,but i just wanted to know some info before doin it.
Its not the £290 bothering me,,,its the future that scares me.... but what can i do,,these are the mistakes of life.:(

CSA_Help

netiela wrote: »

Im really confused myself ,,and i dont know what to think anymore..
I cant say the child looks like me,,but we have the same skin colour:(
Yeah i think i will get tested,,but i just wanted to know some info before doin it.
Its not the £290 bothering me,,,its the future that scares me.... but what can i do,,these are the mistakes of life.:(

Before paying for a child it is better knowing that the child is in fact yours

You will be paying 15% from when the case was opened so you are accruing arrears as we speak if the csa has contacted you .it may be the best £290 you have ever spent .

Good Luck

DUTR

netiela wrote: »

Im really confused myself ,,and i dont know what to think anymore..
I cant say the child looks like me,,but we have the same skin colour:(
Yeah i think i will get tested,,but i just wanted to know some info before doin it.
Its not the £290 bothering me,,,its the future that scares me.... but what can i do,,these are the mistakes of life.:(

You can pay cellmark directly, that is what I done and it was a lower rate than what the csa were asking at the time, think I paid £198 but csa wanted £254, tests came back positive for me but saying that I knew they would :rotfl:
Good luck and lucky you have a supportive partner, my 2 GFs at the time I used to visit gave me hell :eek:

netiela

DUTR wrote: »

You can pay cellmark directly, that is what I done and it was a lower rate than what the csa were asking at the time, think I paid £198 but csa wanted £254, tests came back positive for me but saying that I knew they would :rotfl:
Good luck and lucky you have a supportive partner, my 2 GFs at the time I used to visit gave me hell :eek:

thanks for the advice
Hope you dont mind if ask you ,,how is it going now,,,is your life efected.from this??..and can you manage to agree with each others about this child???
are you in contact with the child???? and do you just pay the 15% from your income and thats it,,,???
But anyway this could be different for everyone,,,but the b..ch that im involved with is really hard to get through,,,but hope for the best.