after after 7 years someone tells me that i have a child with her

elisebutt65

If you don't take the DNA then the CSA will take the 15% regardless

If you do take the DNA test then at least you will know whether she is yours or not and if she's not then you won't have to pay anything.

If she is yours then you will have to pay up.

If you find out she is yours via DNA then you can get Parental Responsibility and at least see her school reports etc and possibly start to build a relationship with her, perhaps apply for visiting rights etc. You don't need to have a relationship with your ex for this though.

DUTR

netiela wrote: »

I just want to know whats gona be the diference if i do the DNA, or if i dont??
So how much will CSA get from my income in ether way??
And if i do the DNA will i need to sign anything, like birth certficate, even if i dont want to??
So i just wont to compare the difference to these 2 options,,,cos i need to choose the best one for me.

The dna test will set people's minds one way or the other they are nearly 100% accurate.
You won't need to sign a BC .
Only you can decide which maybe the best option for you, fingers crossed the test will be negative otherwise it is an expensive screw

simpywimpy

but an expensive screw for which he is responsible

For all the advice etc it's not the child's fault should it turn out to be his

speedster

elisebutt65 wrote: »

If you find out she is yours via DNA then you can get Parental Responsibility and at least see her school reports etc and possibly start to build a relationship with her, perhaps apply for visiting rights etc. You don't need to have a relationship with your ex for this though.

if you know how to have a meaningful relationship with your child without having any contact with the ex....... purrrrrrrlleeeeeeaaaassssssseeeeeee, TELL US HOW!!! :T

missmontana

What's her name? I live in Portsmouth, my son is the same age, I might know her!

DUTR

simpywimpy wrote: »

but an expensive screw for which he is responsible

For all the advice etc it's not the child's fault should it turn out to be his

If the test turns out to be positve then yes

netiela

Soubrette wrote: »

If it is positive then it will make no difference as if you refuse the CSA will assume you are the parent.

If it is negative then you will not be liable for any payments at all.



At the moment it is 15% of your net income, you don't get a discount or penalised by asking for a DNA test.



Assuming the test is positive - just because you are liable for child maintenance payments does not automatically give you parental rights, you will not be forced to have a relationship with the child either. Access, parental rights and child maintenance are different issues.



You will not be penalised for wanting a DNA test and it would give reassurance that the child is yours or is not yours.

If you choose not to have a DNA test then the child will be assumed to be yours based on the mother's word.

Sou

What if i do the DNA and turns out positive,,whats the % that the CSA gets from my income?????????

netiela

simpywimpy wrote: »

Also, keep a record of any harrassment from the child's mother if it is getting out of hand so you can take action against her if needs be.

It might be worth changing your number and getting yourself and your family to block her on facebook?

Thanks ,,,,omg if you read the textes,,ive got around 1500,,,u will say whats wrong with this person.

netiela

simpywimpy wrote: »

but an expensive screw for which he is responsible

For all the advice etc it's not the child's fault should it turn out to be his

I know its not the childs foult,,,i said that lots of times if you read all my posts,,,she is inocent,thats why i feel so bad,,but its hard to have a relationship with her cos of her mum.

netiela

speedster wrote: »

if you know how to have a meaningful relationship with your child without having any contact with the ex....... purrrrrrrlleeeeeeaaaassssssseeeeeee, TELL US HOW!!! :T

yeah i agree with you ,,how can i have a realitionship without being in contact with her mum,,,without starting this realationship with her she is doing me heading,,,so imagene if i start......:mad: