after after 7 years someone tells me that i have a child with her

DUTR

netiela wrote: »

I know its not the childs foult,,,i said that lots of times if you read all my posts,,,she is inocent,thats why i feel so bad,,but its hard to have a relationship with her cos of her mum.

Don't worry, you don't have to justify your actions, just pay the money if you have to and that will shut a lot of people up :cool:
If you don't have a father/child relationship with the dependant, you won't be the 1st to do so or the last, but as others have said start budgeting for 15% net (that will be the maximum (excluding arrears which are already accruing)

netiela

missmontana wrote: »

What's her name? I live in Portsmouth, my son is the same age, I might know her!

why what are you gona do,,resolve this messss...please....:(

Soubrette

netiela wrote: »

What if i do the DNA and turns out positive,,whats the % that the CSA gets from my income?????????

It is 15% of your net income ie your income after tax.

There are certain reductions depending on nights the child stays over etc but they don't seem relevant in your circumstances.

As has been said already, stop paying the mother directly and put 15% of your net income aside in case the DNA test is negative or in case you decide not to go ahead.

Sou

netiela

AnxiousMum wrote: »

First of all, glad that your wife is being supportive of you in this - what a shake up to the family.

Great advice given above - get the paternity test done so you can be sure that it is in fact your child, as there is no long term built relationship - I think that woudl be foremost on my mind at the moment. Then you can get into a relationship knowing the truth and getting to know your daughter.

With regards to the CSA, start putting aside the amount that you will need to be paying if an order is made against you. That way, it won't be a financial hardship on you when you get the arrears bill from the time that she has put in a claim, and if it turns out to be negative, then you, your wife and your own child will have money aside for a holiday to help put it all behind you. Good luck!

yeah im very happy that my wife is suporting me,,,very lucky to have her around,,she is just calming me down..:)

netiela

Soubrette wrote: »

It is 15% of your net income ie your income after tax.

There are certain reductions depending on nights the child stays over etc but they don't seem relevant in your circumstances.

As has been said already, stop paying the mother directly and put 15% of your net income aside in case the DNA test is negative or in case you decide not to go ahead.

Sou

thanks,,but i was thinking it could be different, in just wishing that she is not mine:question:

netiela

And something alse
a couple of weeks ago she sent me a text asking for full legal rights,,for her own daughter??
what does this meen, why dos she needs permison for me??
she is her mum???
sorry if i sound stupid,,but im realy stupid in these kind of stuffff

kelloggs36

netiela wrote: »

I just want to know whats gona be the diference if i do the DNA, or if i dont??
So how much will CSA get from my income in ether way??
And if i do the DNA will i need to sign anything, like birth certficate, even if i dont want to??
So i just wont to compare the difference to these 2 options,,,cos i need to choose the best one for me.

If you don't do a DNA they will take 15% of your net income anyway and you lose the option of getting the test done via CSA which is cheaper and if child is not yours you don't pay anything. If you do have it done and child is yours you pay 15% of your net income plus the costs of the test.

netiela

kelloggs36 wrote: »

If you don't do a DNA they will take 15% of your net income anyway and you lose the option of getting the test done via CSA which is cheaper and if child is not yours you don't pay anything. If you do have it done and child is yours you pay 15% of your net income plus the costs of the test.

why is cheaper with CSA, they told me £290,,,if i get online is cheaper( in a good company)

Maybeanotherday

What a mess sorry, no words of advise for you, sounds like your wife is doing a good job propping you up! Hope it all works out!

missmontana

netiela wrote: »

why what are you gona do,,resolve this messss...please....:(

You never know, Portsmouth is a small place. Send me a Private message.

netiela wrote: »

why is cheaper with CSA, they told me £290,,,if i get online is cheaper( in a good company)

Yes. The full fee for testing three people (two adults and one child) is £281.05.

If the person named as the parent of the child pays when they return their appointment form, they can pay a discounted rate available through Cellmark, a company we use to carry out DNA tests. Currently, the discounted rate is £215.69. These costs may change from time to time. If you would like to check the current costs, you can phone us or write to us using the phone number or address at the top of the letter we have sent you to ask you to arrange a DNA test. No part of the money goes to the CSA.