Please help, don't know where else to go.

RosaBernicia

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your baby.

Can I suggest that if you are not already in contact with them, you call the Patient Advice and Liaison Service at the hospital? They are there to help you with understanding the complaints process. This Dept of Health link gives some info about their role http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Managingyourorganisation/PatientAndPublicinvolvement/Patientadviceandliaisonservices/DH_4081305 - and you should be able to find their contact details on the hospital's website or through the switchboard.

PALS will be able to help you find out about the investigation of what happened and what has been done to prevent the same happening again. They should also be able to answer your question about compensation.

Rosa xx

Person_one

Rockporkchop wrote: »

Be honest, you don't want "justice" - you are after financial compensation. You should contact a lawyer.

It's a sad thing to have happened but for the NHS to pay out £800k for what is technically a late miscarriage beggars belief.

The NHS have admitted responsibility so presumably this was a viable pregnancy that was highly likely to result in a healthy baby. I don't think you can compare it to natural miscarriage where nobody was at fault.

confusedroast

Answer this: If you got £8 million pounds - and your ex got the same would it make you truly happy.....deep down in your soul? I think I know the answer

Person_one

confusedroast wrote: »

Answer this: If you got £8 million pounds - and your ex got the same would it make you truly happy.....deep down in your soul? I think I know the answer

I don't think money alone makes anybody truly happy, but it does have a way of making life easier. With everything the OP and his ex have been through, plus the breakdown of their relationship I can't judge either of them for wanting to at least take the opportunity to take a bit of compensation.

cheepskate_2

Person_one wrote: »

I can't judge either of them for wanting to at least take the opportunity to take a bit of compensation.

But it#s not just a bit of compensation. The girlfriend has already rejected 800k ????
To me, and I may be totally way of the mark, so apologies if I am but this seems like a huge money grabbing agenda out of what was undoubdably a very distressing experience.

As already has been said the money made from this is way over the £1 million mark and they are not happy with this.

Person_one

cheepskate wrote: »

But it#s not just a bit of compensation. The girlfriend has already rejected 800k ????
To me, and I may be totally way of the mark, so apologies if I am but this seems like a huge money grabbing agenda out of what was undoubdably a very distressing experience.

As already has been said the money made from this is way over the £1 million mark and they are not happy with this.

But it wasn't the OP's decision to reject the 800K, we don't know what sum he would have accepted.

Though I can actually understand the mentality of someone who has had their life permanently damaged and wants to 'take them for every penny' as a result. You can't put a price on the loss of your fertility and damage to your health but as we are in a society that likes to give everything a monetary value there's no other outlet to have your pain acknowledged. Nobody will be going to prison or being struck off for this I presume?

mernieth

I disagree with the people who think this poster is only after money.
he has said he wants 'justice' for the loss of his child....and others have rightly pointed out - in this society of ours 'money talks'. many people have pursued compensation claims - not for the money - but to force the powers that be...the faceless 'they' to admit they were at fault and that the life that was lost had a 'value'. and if they value life in pounds and pence - then making them pay up validates that life.
so i understand where he is coming from, and sorry that others cant see it.

samhuzz

I think some people are being a bit harsh on the OP. Stafford Hospital is well known for negligence I have heard in the news. If the loss of his unborn daughter was down to the hospital's negligence I think he has every right to sue them. I suppose he wants them to acknowledge that he too has suffered a loss, not just his ex. My 10month old son was treated very poorly by Burton Hospital and had a blood clot on the brain which wasn't picked up and I wish I had taken this further. So OP I think you have to do what you feel is right to get justice for your daughter and also to make the hospital take more care in the future to prevent this happening to some other poor couple.

Very sorry for your loss.

Sam

old_motters

Rockporkchop wrote: »

Be honest, you don't want "justice" - you are after financial compensation. You should contact a lawyer.

It's a sad thing to have happened but for the NHS to pay out £800k for what is technically a late miscarriage beggars belief.

It wasn't just a baby the OP lost, it was his relationship as a result of the failure of the pregnancy. As a society which has elected to have universal healthcare, society must be willing to adequately compensate victims of incompetence in that system. Money does not solve the pain however, it would undoubtedly offer the victim some small comfort.

We could all become Americans where the insurance companies get sued and costs go up and up and up?

The OP should get proper legal advice and pronto.

seraphina

My sympathies to the OP.

It's shocking that fathers are treated so shoddily in this day and age. The rights and wrongs of money in cases like this is neither here or there. The NHS is prepared to make some kind of offer; as a parent to the unborn child the OP has just as much right to involvement in the grievance process as the mother, who has already been adequately compensated for her own health issues.