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not_tonight_josephine wrote: »

I would have to disagree. The ex has (quite rightly) received compensation already for the injury to her and the loss of her ability to have a child. However if there is a separate case for compensation for the loss of their daughter, then I believe the OP would have a case to claim some of the payout - the loss of a child can be devastating to a father as well as a mother.

I don't think the OP is under any impression that this will bring his daughter back (and presumably his ex isn't either), but as he has no doubt shared the grief and suffering I believe he should also share the compensation. Whether money can actually ever be a true compensation for something like this is a separate issue -that is just the way our legal system works at the moment.

OP, I'd agree that you need specialist advice. Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss.

Very nicely worded, I agree!

Also OP, I am sorry for your loss.

sarahs999

I think there is some confusion here.

There are two claims. One for the woman's infertility, which has been paid - £800k. The op is not suggesting he should have any of this.

The second is against the hospital for causing the death of their child. That is something that both parents should be entitled to claim for, whether they were married or not, or are still together or not. Please, feel free to correct me if you are a lawyer and I'm missing something. These posts saying the OP is not entitled to money are not understanding the situation completely. If a hospital is guilty of negligence then you are entitled to claim.

**confuzzled**

I agree with josephine and sarahs999, the ex's infertility has rightly been acknowledged and compensated, the OPs ex is now looking for further compensation for the loss of their daughter which BOTH parents should be fully entitled to do.

OP, you need to speak to a solicitor, I wish you all the best and sorry for your loss x

busiscoming2

Leon_Telford wrote: »

Hi

Last year in March I lost my unborn daughter at 20 months old due to
Stafford Hospital falling to get correct a long standing internal
bleeding problem with my ex girlfriend. My ex had a life saving
operation which left her not being able to have any more children and
also with a large scar on her belly.

She got awarded about £600k in compensation. However she then started
a claim against the hospital for the loss of our daughter.

The hospital offered a out of court settlement for about £800k which
she rejected. Due to go to court in July.

Our relationship fell apart after the loss and she refuses to give me
any of the money, am I entitled to make a claim against the Hospital
myself? My name is on the headstone and I went to see my dead daughter and I think I put my name on the forms.

Verbally we did agree to share the money but nothing in writing. As
her Dad do I have any rights to make a claim? Have made a complaint to
the hospital and waiting to hear back.

Any help / advice would be useful.

Please help suffering from depression over this and want justice for
my daughter. Feel free to email me back.

Thanks

Firstly I want to say what an awful thing for you both to have gone through, but..

Am I reading this right your ex got £600,000 in compensation for her suffering, and now is on track to get £800,000 for the loss of your child?

If I am reading correctly it beggars belief the NHS is paying out so much for the loss of the unborn child at 20 weeks. Yes it is devastating to lose an unborn baby, but it is something that happens to a lot of people for a lot of reasons. Something about the payouts doesn't sit right with me - yes it was their fault she lost the baby and had to have major surgery, so she has been compensated. But for the loss of the baby somehow doesn't seem right. More money won't make the pain less or enable her/you to 'buy' a child, so why is more money necessary?

Why wasn't the loss of the baby in with the original settlement?

euronorris

Unfortunately, I believe the NHS has adopted a 'settle out of court' attitude to cases such as this. They are afraid that if they simply apologise, they have admitted liability and may, therefore, have to pay out a lot more.

Whereas, I believe a survey was carried out quite recently, which showed that all that most people wanted was an acknowledgement that they had messed up and to apologise. However, because they refuse to do this when you first complain, many people go on to claim compensation because they are angry and don't feel the NHS is listening to them or even cares.

Leon_Telford

Sorry for the confussion yes it's another case over the loss of my daughter.

The case over my ex not being able to kids ain't nothing to do with me nor would I want any.

Just want justice in the case over the loss of my girl at 20 weeks.

Errata

Leon_Telford wrote: »

Sorry for the confussion yes it's another case over the loss of my daughter.

The case over my ex not being able to kids ain't nothing to do with me nor would I want any.

Just want justice in the case over the loss of my girl at 20 weeks.

First of all I am truly sorry your baby died. If you want justice then why not push for an apology ? Settling for money isn't justice, it's the NHS buying you off to shut you up. Is that what you want ?

ETA If you wish to pursue a claim these people are experienced in bringing cases of medical negligence http://www.irwinmitchell.com/servicesforyou/personalinjury/atoz/medicalneg/Pages/default.aspx?ref=GooglePPC&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=medical%2bnegligence%2bsolicitor&utm_campaign=im

cheepskate_2

£1,500,000 and these people are wanting more.These compensations cost someone, usually the tax payer.

Accidents happen, unfortunetly when a Doctor or Surgeon makes a mistake it usually has huge consenquences.
We nearly lost our son to Menengitis, due to a doctors incompotence. Would I have wanted money or that the "compensation" went to pay for more education so no more babies would die. I know what one i would have picked.

You could have given me all the money in the worl and it would never ease my heartache if my son had died, but trying to make sure others didn't would have.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

A terrible thing to happen.

However, it sounds almost as though your concern is getting a share of the money. I can't imagine how that sounds to the woman who has all this to deal with - 'the relationship' over, so where's my share of the cash?'.

I am deeply sorry that she had a late miscarriage, but how is your demanding a slice of the pie 'justice' for anyone?

And I really, really hope you didn't tell her that her being left in such a condition 'ain't nothing to do with' you. Even if you actually meant the compensation, it would have sounded so wrong.

Rockporkchop

Leon_Telford wrote: »

Sorry for the confussion yes it's another case over the loss of my daughter.

The case over my ex not being able to kids ain't nothing to do with me nor would I want any.

Just want justice in the case over the loss of my girl at 20 weeks.

Be honest, you don't want "justice" - you are after financial compensation. You should contact a lawyer.

It's a sad thing to have happened but for the NHS to pay out £800k for what is technically a late miscarriage beggars belief.