Help needed re elderly parent (Scotland)

Jockthearab

Almost time to conclude this thread.

Took Dad today to the Residential home where he's been allocated a place. It's all happened so quickly over the last ten days that I'm still trying to take it all in. The main thing is he's gonna be safe, looked after & have the company of others around him again 24/7.

The home seems pretty good, staff on 1st impressions are very friendly & positive. The downside is that although his room is more than adequate it does smell of stale pee! (No doubt from the last occupier). Looks like I'll be buying him plenty of air freshener! On a more positive note a new home is currently being completed just behind the current one & they are expected to move into this in April 2005. He will then have a larger room with en-suite facilities. All right for some, eh?!

Thanks again to all who have posted, supporting me with some great advice

Jockthearab

mink35

That's good new JtA. Take care

Mink (clean and bathed!)

margaretclare

Hi Jock

I'm very glad to hear that your problems with your Dad are at last reaching a satisfactory solution.

The room which smells of pee is maybe a temporary measure until they get the new block built and furnished. See if you can identify just which bit of the carpet has been peed on and then get some of that kind of anti-smell spray - the one you see advertised on TV with the little terrier using the spray before the little spaniel comes in...can't remember what it's called.

Best wishes

Margaret

margaretclare

Hi Jock (again)

Did you say you live in Dundee - I used to have a boy-friend from there many many years ago, called David Mitchell. He'd be 70 now....time flies

Margaret

Js_Other_Half

I think MargaretClare is talking about the anti bacterial fabreze - you can get it in most large supermarkets.

The other thing to try (if the staff acknowledge the problem) is to carpet shampoo the room using something like oxyclean - it does work on stale urine.

Hope your father is safe and happy in his new home.

christmas_donkey

Unfortunately, many homes smell of stale wee. The nursing home by me has to change the carpets periodically, and they regularly clean the carpets too. To be honest, its an awful lot of money to pay to keep your dad in there, could you not ask for them to change the carpet in his bedroom before he moves in? After all they will be getting £300+ from him weekly, its the least they can do. However, saying that, to get rid of the stale wee smell completely you would need to replace all the carpets which would probably cost more than they are prepared to spend.

poppy8

Have read all the above and wonder if someone can help. My parents live abroad and my family and Grandad live in the same village, although he has his own house. I visit him daily but have noticed him going down hill lately. Have told Mum but she is not coming back until April next year. Can someone tell me what a Care Manager is. Grandad has no contact with social work, meals on wheels etc, he is very independent but has recently talked about sheltered housing. I am taking him to look at one on Friday. It is run by the Council. He then has to fill in an application and wait for a space to come up. I seem to be rambling on but I want to do the best for him.

Should I get in touch with the social work department or will they be in touch with him if he puts in an application for the sheltered housing. Is there any way you can speed up his application. He is 85 but still quite lively.
Many thanks.

Jockthearab

Poppy,

you've got a pm!

NathalieDepeyrat

Hi. As a working mother, I've also been looking for a helper for my parents at home. The Almondbury Agency found me a perfect girl. She really helps them with housework, shopping, and everyday stuff ! http://www.elderly-help.co.uk/
I recommend then. It is a cheap way to help the elderly.:)

Nathalie

wannabe_sybil

Posting your first post on a six year old thread....

Can someone else report this please as my computer won't let me.