Anyone worry what the neighbours think re baby..??

Kaz2904

We had awful neighbours when DD was small. If she was having a bad night the bloke would come and hammer on our front door. He did it so hard once that the door flew open. I was so scared I never went downstairs.
They used to go out in the evenings and come back late. Then the music would go on. Then we'd wake and lie in bed hoping that DD didn't wake. Then she'd wake and the cycle would continue.
The most annoying thing is that DD would probably not have been such a nightmare child if they hadn't been so awful. We would be legging it through to her within seconds of her crying to stop them banging on the door. We were stressed out to the limit and couldn't see any way to cope with DD.
Essentially, they violated our privacy. They would have got less sleep anyway as we cold never settle DD after they banged on the door as we were so jumpy then
Funnily enough, they got divorced not long after I had spotted their car with a baby seat in it. So I expect he was as much an ar5e when he had his own child too!

ilovecheese

I agree with everyone else, a baby crying is a noise that you have no control over, and it would not bother me at all.

I have a neighbour that screams and shouts at her two children (not that often but she must get pushed to her limit and then she lets rip!) I have to admit that being childless myself (by choice) I do have a little giggle and thank god I made the decision not to have any!!

Have a quick word with your neighbour and just keep the lines of communication open!

Best of luck

JennyR68

Speaking from a neighbours perspective, whenever I hear crying from next door I just think oh bless the baby's crying. If it goes on a bit I feel for the parents but it doesn't put me out in the slightest.

You'd have to be a right grouch to get annoyed at a baby, we were all one once!

JBD

I had a similar problem with my 1st child. It wasn't the crying, it was when he started to crawl. Then they were forever banging on the ceiling. I nearly had a nervous breakdown over it.Thankfully we managed to move out, into a caravan for over a year then finally managed to buy a tiny little house.
Unfortunately you do get people who think living in a flat is the same as living in a detatched house. It isn't, you have to be prepared to be considerate both ways.
Try not to worry too much, you should be enjoying this stage of your babies life! When you get tense and worried I think the baby picks up on it and it becomes a viscious circle. You have been given some good advice on here about getting your LO off to sleep. At the end of the day there is only so much you can do and she will probably still cry sometimes.
Perhaps you could see if you could speed your move up a little bit? Also suggest that when you view new houses this is one of the things you think about . Personally I would rather have a smaller house than a larger flat, also we managed to get a semi detatched [although would have loved a detatched] so at least we only have 1 set of neighbours to worry about.

tattoed_bum

Oh bless ,is she to young yet for nuerofene (sp) .This used to help my son better than calpol ever did ,
When i had my son i went from working a 70 hr week to being at home looking after a tiny screaming person they should come with a hand book lol.
It's quite a shock to the system having this small tiny baby to look after who is completly reliant on you but you will get there and you will sleep again ,have some little frozen teething toys at hand as these can be quite good to .
Speak to your neighbours and just ask them if she is disturbing them the chances are they dont even notice .
My son and dh are both deaf and i get a bit paranoid whenever i have a new neighbour as when either of them have there hearing aids out it can get loud in here .
whenever i get a new neighbour (about every 6mths or so the house next door is a temporary accomdation whilst they wait on permenant housing) i knock and explain to them that it may be a bit noisy and none of them have complained yet .

Agutka

Definitely ask if it bothers them, then you don't have to worry yourself, stressing even more, about the crying.
I asked my neighbours if it was okay to have the nursery next to their bedroom. For two and a half years they sleep against the same wall, with my son screaming blue murder from time to time. My neighbours say they never hear him. So I can let him cry, rather than stressing about the noise.

lostinrates

DH's last London pad had a couple and a baby for neighbours. He DID used to hear it, terribly in fact, but it didn't make him think anything bad about the neighbours. Occasionally he used to say to me he couldn't wait till next doors baby went through the night...but ultimately, people know that babies cry.

I think he would have pretended he barely heard her had the neighbour apologised: the last thing tired new parents need is feeling their neighbours are monitoring their progress!

redstararnie76

Rockporkchop wrote: »

If you need an hour to yourself then I recommend you put your DD on the Gina Ford routine. It's strict but it means that you get a guaranteed hour in the morning, 2.5 hours in the afternoon and 12 hours at night when they are sleeping. The routine has been an absolute godsend to me.

I would second the Gina Ford routine, I was so relieved when a friend lent me a copy of the contented baby and I finally managed to gain some control over my life. I know it can be controversial, but I honestly felt that it saved my sanity!

I really sympathise OP. Our walls are really thin, and I cringe when my 4 year old stamps on the stairs. As a result we originally put off having another child because I didn't think it was fair on the neighbours. It wasn't until we had to come to terms with the realisation that we couldn't afford to move and if we kept putting off having another baby, I would be too old to physically have one. My baby's due next month and I'm already worrying about how I'm going to deal with the noise and I just know that I'm going to be constantly apologising to the neighbours because I feel dreadful that I'm inflicting a baby on them.

confusedroast

Well I tried the gina Ford and HATE it - since posting last we have been out for a walk where dd wtayed awake the whole time, so we went for a car journey to the shops (as this always works) with no sucess, it was only when we were in one shop that I opened up dd mouth to see her entire bottom gum black and blue and it looks like 4 more teeth are coming through! I burst into tears and thought "Fancy feeling sorry for myself for lack of sleep when my darling daughter is in agony!"
She was a big baby at birth so have had her on home made puree foods from 4.5 months, she is SOOOOOOO good otherwise - the lack of sleep is that she wakes 4-5 times in the night so I always get up (other half sleeps through it!)

Husband is on route home with wine and chocolates, dd has had some nurofen for children (BTW this is early £4 in sainsburys and its on offer in Asda or £2!! Brought 3 bottles!!), about to run a bath and when hubby gets in dd and I are getting in it, then he will get her to bed whilst I have a large glass and a hot steamy bath, then going to sleep in the living room tonight around 8pm and get a full nights sleep - everything will be better tomorrow

Souk08

I have no babies but I live in a flat and it wouldn't bother me. Go and knock the door if you're worried and deffo take advice on how to get some me time from other mothers. My sister's best friend had twins and accepted any offers of help she got!