Anyone worry what the neighbours think re baby..??

pigpen

I'd not worry.. they will hear you as often as you hear them!! There are worse things to hear than a baby crying.. a radio for example!

I think you are tired and worrying over nothing.. stuff the house go have a snooze with baby I'm sure you'll both feel much better for it!

Oldernotwiser

I used to live underneath a lone parent and her baby and was never bothered by the crying. However, it was a big difference when he became a toddler and was encouraged to run around shouting and jumping off furniture; then he made our lives a misery.

emsywoo123

Hi OP, we have just moved and got a new puppy, so similar thoughts myself, then thought, well she won't be a puppy for long...........then found out I am preggers, so feel for neighbours now!!
No, I do not worry. It is normal, everyday life

skylight

6.30 am is a reasonable time I think!

I do worry about my neighbours when the baby gets upset during the night. He doesn't wake often anymore (14months) but only when he has trapped wind/constipation etc. I would not leave him at silly o'clock and have had a few nights/mornings watching shopping channels downstairs so he doesn't affect the other kids or the neighbours too much.

But at any other time during the day then no. I don't worry; life has to go on!

belfastgirl23

I think you acknowledging it to them and apologising goes a long long way towards making things easier, so well done. It's never as bad if you feel people are trying to be considerate and are aware of you. We once had upstairs neighbours who had a baby. The crying was bad (DH is a very light sleeper) but much worse was their heavy footed stamping around and yelling from one end of the flat to the other 'do you want a cup of tea' in the middle of the night. And the one time we complained was after they started hoovering at 3am! Worse than anything was their total lack of awareness of the impact they were having on us! So don't keep feeling guilty but do keep being nice about it.

BTW I can't see the times you are saying ever being a problem really - at 8pm you can just turn the TV up and ignore it and by 8am it's reasonable that other people are up and about, even if you aren't yourself.

Oh also edited to say, if you know where their bedroom is, it's worth trying not to be above that space with baby when they're crying if it's at all possible - that was the other thing that used to drive us crazy, we ended up dragging our mattress into the sitting room on more than one occasion!

Katie-Kat-Kins

I don't have children, so tend to be less tolerant of them than parents. But in terms of neighbour noise everyone appreciates that babies cry and sometimes that is unavoidable. I could completely forgive a neighbour if I was woken in the night by a crying baby, it isn't their fault and they are also trying to get some peace. I would but furious if the neighbours were doing DIY playing music or whatever loudly at anti-social times though.

If you are worried, speak to them explain she is teething and ask if it is disturbing them. If things are really bad and you feel that you need to let her cry a bit then try to make sure that her cot isn't up against the neighbours wall and that there is as much sound proofing as possible but don't stress yourself out.

People who work shifts have to accept that one of the disadvantages (that the often better pay is designed to compensate for) is the fact that you are sleeping at weird times and may get woken. If you know your neighbours shift patterns you can try to be sensitive to times when they are going to sleep but if it is irregular there is not a lot you can do.

confusedroast

Their kitchen is below our bedroom where daughter and we sleep and our kitchen is above their bedroom so we are at opposite ends of the house
Just spoken to my nan and she definately reckons its teething and that I just have to ride it out
SHe makes me mad though cos she says I mollycuddle my daughter too much and then when she rang and said "is that her crying" I said yes I al letting her cry herself to sleep she said "Oh pick her up she is obviously in pain" I said NAN I cantt win with you can I!

delain

Don't worry about it, I am sure your neighbours are fine If you feel really bad about it perhaps you could ask if there is anything you can do for them, like be their 'delivery address' in case they need packages etc delivered to save them going to the post office if you are usually in.

I have three children who I know make a LOT of noise and my neighbours claim to never hear them, whether that's true or they are just being nice I don't know, but we all get on OK and I've told them if we ever make too much noise don't be afraid to knock on the door and ask us to keep it down

confusedroast

I know I spose it could be worse we could still have the alcoholic neighbours from hell downstairs who woke US up at all hours of the night (til I took them to court!!) OR we could be my sister who is SO LOUD all the time! I feel sorry for my sisters neighbours!

delain

confusedroast wrote: »

I know I spose it could be worse we could still have the alcoholic neighbours from hell downstairs who woke US up at all hours of the night (til I took them to court!!) OR we could be my sister who is SO LOUD all the time! I feel sorry for my sisters neighbours!

You could have my friends neighbours, she has one Aspegers/ADHD child, a toddler and a baby and her neighbours have decided they'd like her to move so keep calling social services on her pretty much every week and saying she leaves the children in the car all night (!?) when shes the best Mum I know, and complain to her landlord all the time.
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