CSA Variation is crap!

speedster

how old are the kids mraverage.?

i know i'm prying! just wondered if they're old enough to catch the train yet?

my mates boy is 13 and regularly flies down on his own to see his dad.

Blackpool_Saver

speedster wrote: »

perhaps a little less "gruff" to the questioning and a little bit more tact.

another generalisation, i know, but a lot of guys who come here for help who are miles away from their kids because it's quite standard procedure in the pwc's "removal of dad" plan when they split to move the kids to the other end of the country.

sad, but true and you see it all too often.

Yes, I could have put it better, but I still say that the OP seems to be incapable of admitting any fault at all.
I have been a stepmother twice and have helped two absent parents fight to see their children and watched them pay thousands whilst I got no child support myself for my son.

MrAverage

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Perhaps a halfways point?

When the csa didn't contact you, might it have been prudent to put some money away each month ready for when they did contact you?

The first contact I had with them was basically a nil claim as they told me it would be within the protected earnings threshold. Thats why I thought it was being dealt with but when they wrote to me I was equally shocked.
So if somebody tells you its a nil claim, how much am I supposed to put away?

Blackpool_Saver

speedster wrote: »

i know i'm prying! just wondered if they're old enough to catch the train yet?

:rotfl::T

I wish he would come back on....... my ex stepkids did the train thing

MrAverage

speedster wrote: »

how old are the kids mraverage.?

i know i'm prying! just wondered if they're old enough to catch the train yet?

my mates boy is 13 and regularly flies down on his own to see his dad.

My eldest son is 10 & the other son is 6. My youngest is autistic so would have a lot of problems looking forward. My eldest has expressed an interest in living with me, which shocked me, but I aint encouraging him to think it.

Blackpool_Saver

MrAverage wrote: »

The first contact I had with them was basically a nil claim as they told me it would be within the protected earnings threshold. Thats why I thought it was being dealt with but when they wrote to me I was equally shocked.
So if somebody tells you its a nil claim, how much am I supposed to put away?

this is what I mean about full disclosure of facts, that is BAD NEWS, and i am sorry that happened to you

Blackpool_Saver

MrAverage wrote: »

My eldest son is 10 & the other son is 6. My youngest is autistic so would have a lot of problems looking forward. My eldest has expressed an interest in living with me, which shocked me, but I aint encouraging him to think it.

i am sorry he has an ASD condition and i wonder if this is why the variation failed as you can ask for more support with a disabled child.

MrAverage

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Yes, I could have put it better, but I still say that the OP seems to be incapable of admitting any fault at all.

Dont Judge me, you dont know me.
FYI I did a lot to keep the marriage together, including moving away from my 2 daughters and family.

missmontana

speedster wrote: »

perhaps a little less "gruff" to the questioning and a little bit more tact.

another generalisation, i know, but a lot of guys who come here for help who are miles away from their kids because it's quite standard procedure in the pwc's "removal of dad" plan when they split to move the kids to the other end of the country.

sad, but true and you see it all too often.

but he said he moved away WITH her, to try and make it work.

missmontana

It seems you are being torn in all directions MrA, I wish my NRP made half as much effort and he only lives 20 mins up the road and works 5 mins round the corner...
But, at least you are making the effort! I applaud you :T and hope it all works out.