Further financial faux pas and even more disasterous decisions

Trying_to_be_good

Glad to hear you had a good chat.

I started some nero-linguistic programming as, perhaps a bit like your OH, I focus on the negatives of life - never quite knowing what I want to do, just what I don't like (and wanting to escape). That's what I WAS like - now I consciously focus on the positives. It makes such a difference, but is a conscious effort when facing any situation. I now believe I deserve my friends (that they're not waiting for an opportunity to delcare they never liked me anyway), that I deserve my job (where my boss has told me I'm outstanding) and life is a much, much happier place to be, rather than just exist in.

Hope that makes sense - all from realising that other people don't look at things that same way as I did, and me wanting to make the change to be more like them, and happier .

Happy (Chocolate) Easter

elantan

just wanted to add N.L.P is an amazing tool

elantan

moo2moo wrote: »

OHs bro arrives on Friday and in anticipation of this OH has purchased 2 crates of larger and a bottle of vino. The vino is already long gone. Can't begin to put the thoughts going through my head in to words. Not entirely sure whether I'm more angry or disappointed. He was very sociable last night but how long is that going to last? How long until we're back where we were three weeks ago. Life has changed so much since then. I can't go back to living like that. More importantly I won't go back to living like that. Will see what happens over the weekend but fully expect the drinking to return to a nightly bottle, perhaps not this week but more than likely soon. Feels rather like I've given up on him. I suppose I have.

In more cheery news I had a most fabulous day yesterday. Spent the entire morning transforming a few broken bits of fence, a pallet and a greenhouse door into a cold frame. Spent the afternoon pottering about doing more bits and pieces and am now glowing rather brightly from spending too much time in the sun without a thick layer of sun proof axle grease. Both DDs caught the sun whilst out riding and were dispatched to bed caked in moisturiser. No doubt DD1 will awaken the colour of a hazel nut whilst DD2 will resemble a tomato.

The hound from hell is enjoying the attention and the vast quantity of treats that accomany the changing of the sock. Shes discovered she can speed things up quite considerably by chomping at the tape, peeling off the sock and bringing it to us as a smelly slimy gift in exchange for further treats and another round of wedge the sock on the hound. Am fast running out of chewy sticks despite buying 100 on Saturday. At least her foot is staying clean and seems to be healing remarkably quickly.

Plans for today involve spending the entire day outdoors in the sun. OH was muttering things about concrete mixing and wall building

moo i can relate to the worry ... the what if's ... my oh has been drinking every day since sunday morning ... he is doing much better but it gets tiring ... i'm trying to look at it as were on holiday just now so let it go ... but this morning it annoyed me so much i said ... you cant drink as much tonight i dont have the patience for it ... he agreed to slow down for tonight .. i shouldnt have to ask this should i ?

i know i am never ever going back to where we were ... we will finish before i ever allow that to happen ... i'm just trying to get through these three weeks ( its probably not helped that i have had a few drinks myself ... i hadnt had one for three years but thought it would be nice to relax after a day at the parks with a wee drink ... none more for me for a few days though )

good luck with it all

chevalier

hope the weekend goes well.your hound from hell is a very clever girl to work out that ripping off the sock means she get more chews.lol

moo2moo

Have had a mad few days. Did the irnoning before breakfast and then got carried away in the garden on Thursday and removed the remains of the elm tree in small slices much to the disgust of next door who couldn't find any damage to his lawn or the hedge to whinge about although has since been round to complain that the stump left in the ground is a bit high for his liking and can be seen from his upstairs window. Proof that some people will complain about everything simply because they can. Mowed the lawns and generally tidied up and weeded. OH built the base for the second log store and then went to the supermarket voluntarily. I know he was trying to be helpful and he did stick to the list but some of his substitutions... well... it must be a man thing. Of course 10 scented drawstring dustbin liners are a suitable alternative to 150 nappy sacks for poo patrol. At least he though to pick up dinner from the deli counter which was considerably tastier than a kebab would have been.

Spent Thursday evening at work and arrived home in a cloud of can't be arsedness. Vegged in front of the telly and went to bed fully intending to get up early and do all the housework neded before the arrival of OHs bro. Of course this meant I slept in.....

Friday morning whooshed by in a mad cleaning frenzy. The assistance of the DDs was enlisted and they did a fab job of clearing surfaces and dusting. Even pursuaded OH to clean the bathrrom. Was most shocked when he agreed and did a pretty reasonable job of it.

Collected his bro from the station and came home via the farmers market with meat for a BBQ at some point over the weekend. Decided to appease the DDs and go for a bike ride returning home some three hours later having covered about 15 miles. 20 minutes later the DDs dragged OHs bro off for another ride to see the horses in a field a few miles down the road. Spent the evening post dinner playing Just Dance on the Wii, even managed to get OH and OHs bro to join in. Sent the DDs to bed considerably later than normal before a quick game of Mario Karting and rounded the night off with Team America which is truly awful and most funny because of this.

Had a great nights sleep as did OH, may well have to persuade him to partake of exercise more often.

chevalier

wow what a manic friday,frenetic but fun!Exercise is of course good for beer guts that need removing......:D

MrsMoo2U

chevalier wrote: »

wow what a manic friday,frenetic but fun!Exercise is of course good for beer guts that need removing......:D

And for keeping people occupied so not sitting around and thin
king that they need a drink to be sociable.
Well organised.!

moo2moo

and so the morning was spent scoffing posh icecream and exercising the spendy elves. The DDs have a dozen books to keep them occupied for the remainder of thehols thanks to a fab £5 pick 'n mix promotion. Meanwhile I lost the plot and purhased a floaty gypsy top type thingie and a piar of rather clingy jeans from Fat Face who rather generously threw in a £50 pair of sunglasses making DD1 a very happy little lady. Came to my senses before getting too carried away and purchasing girly shoes and bag... will need to do this before too long though although am completely lost as to what to get. What with this and clothes for OH and DD1 we shifted the better part of £100. Am rather glad this doen't happen every week.

moo2moo

Much to my amazement OH spent last night sober even though he was opening bottles of beer for his bro. Am most surprised by this. He seems to have settled into alternating a night with a copupe of drinks with a night of sobriety. Its been over a month since he had any unpleasant outbursts despite my thinking the worst each time the bottle opener comes out.

Spent yesterday evening playing on the Wii with the DDs followed by a late night movie. Was absolutely knackered when the elderly hound woke me at 2am to go to the loo, I came downstairs to let her out but by then she'd decided that this involved too much effort on her part and went back to sleep instead leaving me wide awake and randomly searching for handbags on t'internet. Aliens have taken over my body.

Plans for today involve much washing up and distributing of Easter eggs before a trip to the park or some such outdoor fun.

Happy Easter All!

Double_Trouble

I am so pleased that things are turning better than you expected long may it last.

Happy Easter to you.

DTxx