Secrecy over facebook, is it me?

hopingformore

Yeah! thought it was odd, will elaborate... I have been on facebook for a while, all my work collegues are and my daughters and friends. I'm not addicted by any means.
My partner has adult children who he keeps in regular touch with, all between 19 and 25, two are not in the country so a good free way to talk, so, he's on fb and i say 'Whats your name on it so i can look for you?' he told me but I still could'nt find him. when i asked to see the screen he shut the lid of the lap top.
As you can imagine a huge row broke out.
I felt that he had something to hide and said he could have a look at my fb if he wanted, he said he did'nt want to.
The next day I had a friend invite, so I accepted and went on his page, only to see his wife on there, (they're seperated,) I was shaking when I saw her, really upset and angry. How can that be right? I've asked him to remove her from his friends list but he won't, says he only goes on there to keep tabs on his 'Kids' so why does he need to be her 'Friend' while I've been kept away all this time.
Anyway the crux of the matter is he has taken himself off fb all together yesterday and his wife has gone 'Mental' calling him all the names under the sun as his kids have noticed he has gone..... What a reaction, he's blaming me I know that, i never wanted him to stop being in touch with his family, he said 'There would be some comment made and you'd go off it!' What????? A bit extreme though to come off completley to save the 'Hassle'? What do you think?

diamond_mum

yeah!! trying to hide something is he???

wobbly

Not good hun is it.
I have had issues with my oh accepting young gals as friends he dont even know. I have stopped going on fb as it caused too much grief all my fault as well!!
Hope you get it sorted. He is in the wrong x

Evansangel

Thats odd, me and my OH are both friends. And showing as 'engaged' on there to.
I would question it if he didn't want me as a friend on there

HannahIOW

Yes something is up there. Me and my OH are both on facebook and on each other's friends, also listed as 'in a relationship' with each other. However i HATE facebook with a passion... due to what other people think is appropriate behaviour towards someone else who is in a relationship.... anyway I won't go into that. I use facebook even though I hate it because it's a case of 'better the devil you know' to be honest.

MrsAnnie

hopingformore wrote: »

Yeah! thought it was odd, will elaborate... I have been on facebook for a while, all my work collegues are and my daughters and friends. I'm not addicted by any means.
My partner has adult children who he keeps in regular touch with, all between 19 and 25, two are not in the country so a good free way to talk, so, he's on fb and i say 'Whats your name on it so i can look for you?' he told me but I still could'nt find him. when i asked to see the screen he shut the lid of the lap top.
As you can imagine a huge row broke out.
I felt that he had something to hide and said he could have a look at my fb if he wanted, he said he did'nt want to.
The next day I had a friend invite, so I accepted and went on his page, only to see his wife on there, (they're seperated,) I was shaking when I saw her, really upset and angry. How can that be right? I've asked him to remove her from his friends list but he won't, says he only goes on there to keep tabs on his 'Kids' so why does he need to be her 'Friend' while I've been kept away all this time.
Anyway the crux of the matter is he has taken himself off fb all together yesterday and his wife has gone 'Mental' calling him all the names under the sun as his kids have noticed he has gone..... What a reaction, he's blaming me I know that, i never wanted him to stop being in touch with his family, he said 'There would be some comment made and you'd go off it!' What????? A bit extreme though to come off completley to save the 'Hassle'? What do you think?

Very odd behaviour for someone in a relationship (on his part). Do you know he has actually taken himself off? Or is he just telling you this, perhaps to lay a guilt trip on you?


How long have you two been going out?

INT1

Certainly something to hide, Facebook ss going around in a 180 and now people are starting to hate it with a passion, it is a bit too intrusive but then friends and family question if there not on your contacts or your not regularly updating it with pictures and what you been up to etc.

I wonder how long the FB phase will last?

piratefairy

Yes that's odd.
Was friends on there with my ex whilst we were together, but i barely used it so we wouldn't talk to one another on it or anythinhg..The first time I wrote something on his wall, as i was off sick for a week with swine flu, he removed my comments and deleted me as a friend on there.We were still togther at that point..Not for much longer..

hopingformore

I think his wife's reaction is really wierd too, there are other ways to communicate!! I told him he has cut his nose off to spite his face and to go back on and just say 'Woops, sorry, my mistake' and go from there, but take her OFF, what the He** does he think will be said that would upset me that much? I havent even met his 'Kids' so they don't know me to comment....
I am so suspicious now and indignant that i feel im getting the blame.
Bed alone, dreading seeing him tonight, its a horrible feeling.

hopingformore

treepotato1 wrote: »

Yeah - he's done that to create a dramady and make it seem like it's all your fault that he HAD to leave. The mature thing to do would be to take the ex off, although maybe he's more scared of her reaction than yours?

OMG, you are so right, i have never seen a reaction like the one he had last night when her text came through, talk about going white :eek: