MSE Parents Club Part 11

BeenieCat

Mel for a car i would want to do the transaction off ebay, their Motors fees are a pee take. So i'd deffo contact them and ask if they wanted a private sale for their offer price. Saves the £20 FVF or however much it is these days.

Just painted the kitchen ceiling but it's looking well patchy, don't think i missed any bits so will let it dry for a few hours before i decide i can't be arsed doing a 2nd coat :rotfl:

Glamazon

beenie - inspired by your decorating I just suggested to OH that before I go back to work I will spend a day glossing all the doors upstairs, landing skirting boards & banisters. The only rooms that dont need doing are our & Jack's but he said not to bother!

But I will - I like glossy woodwork!

OH & I spent an hour cleaning BIL's room :mad:
He's been saying he'll do it for weeks but it was stinky, smelt a bit damp & of 'boys'. There was an inch of dust everywhere & no floor space :eek:

OH went in there to get something and said right lets just do it so he shoved all his clothes in his 2 suitcases and piled them at end of bed, I sorted clutter, huge bag of rubbish, polished & hoovered and stripped the bed.

BIL came back after his night out - was dead chuffed but is under instructions to keep it clean. He's gone for a nap and not even bothered putting the clean bedding on!!! :mad:

BeenieCat

A day?:eek: Noo you put me to shame it took me about 3 days to do the glossing :rotfl:

I've decided i'm not gonna gloss in the kitchen, it's only the skirting on one wall and who's gonna see that anyway with the table in the way:whistle:

cazscoob

ok ladies i need some advise from you all, i stopped seeing my real dad when i was in high school as he was an idiot and tried to take me off the school bus and take me away. he has tried a few disappearing acts when we were little and also tried to kill himself and us in the car. Just after we were married i had a meet up with him to try and get a relationship but as soon as i met up i had warning bells that told me to stay clear and back off. He lives in London and has never paid a penny to CSA or done anything to support us as we grew up, my step dad carried out his role and i love him to pieces for this.
Anyway real dad has been in contact with my mum through a site, he wants to meet us and meet the kids, its a big wedding anniversary for my grandparents and i would love to go but i dont know what to do. He has said he would love to meet the grandkids but i feel he isnt their grandad and i know this would hurt my step dad. my head is saying stay away with HUGE warning bells and my heart is saying one more chnace. i have a lot going on right now and dont know if i could cope with all this at the moment. i know you lot will give me your honest opinion hence me asking and needing reassurance x

searching_me

caz to be honest id listen to those alarm bells ... only bothering now the hard works done x

cazscoob

thanks just find it strange after all this time? x

tiamai_d

Caz, I would maybe go see him on my own, but not take the kids, not until I was 100% sure he would be a positive addition to their lives. If he were any other man would you give him another chance or is it just some silly 'blood is thicker' notion? Because thicker isn't always good, it just makes a bigger mess.

3onitsway

Caz It does sound very strange after all this time. Is he getting old and sentimental?
I had a similar situation, that I didn't see my bio.father after he & mum got divorced when I was less than 2. Then at the age of 26 I got a letter out of the blue asking to meet up. I did, out of curiosity I think, and met him & his family a couple of times, but soon realised he's a waste of space! He still phones now and again, but its not like a dad relationship, he's just some bloke, like a distant relative.
My thinking is that he's getting on now, he's a lot older than my Mum, possibly nearing 70, and he wanted a chance to play 'Dad' to all of his children before it's too late. (He's got two with the wife now, and two older than me to his first wife who he's also never bothered with!)
If you do decide to see him, i'd definately do it without the children for now, just incase he does turn out to be a knoob like mine.

emlou2009

weezl74 wrote: »

Just stunning!

I hope you had a nap today, posting at that time

searching_me

just went down and picked up the high/low chair its looks just like the one i had for zoe .. well chuffed and for £10 x