MSE Parents Club Part 11

Glamazon

opinion time please

OH has suggested both of us working 4 days a week so J only goes to creche for 3 days. He earns less than me so I suggested he try to drop a day completely & I will work 4 long days as my wage is higher than his so we'd miss my lost day alot.

In theory, J would be with both of us Saturday, Sunday - then with OH on a Monday, Me on a Wednesday & Creche, Tuesday, Thursday Friday from 7.30am until 5.30pm (10hrs).

Pros - It means we pay £60 a week less in childcare
J is only in creche for 3 days
I would get 3 full days with him rather than just 2 and 2.5hrs 5 nights a week
He gets a full day with Daddy - more bonding time

Cons
Lose £75 from OH not working (thats before tax)
I wouldn't see him much those 3 days or the day when he is with OH - only 1.5hrs a night.

We would need to give creche a months notice, do budget planner and speak to our respective workplaces but thought I'd get other people's views on it in case I'm missing something

thanks

weezl74

Fitzio wrote: »

Fingers crossed Fergie's bottom troubles are behind him soon now he has new meds (did you see what I did there?).

:rotfl::p

oh har har:D
I hope so too fitz. She said he's at the age now where he 'gets' cause and effect so he's likely to start holding his poo in because it hurts and bleeds to go.:( She feels we might have a heck of a job potty training too

My current plan is to wait til the summer when he's just 3 and kessie is just 2 and just spend the whole summer out in our garden with no pants on.:D


Them I mean. I wear pants at all times. I put them back on during labour after my stretch and sweep and the midwife had to shout at me to make me take them off for pushing :o:o:o

Fitzio

Glam - I know I am probably going to regret replying but here goes anyway....

We are hoping to do something like this but I am waiting on my work to approve my requested hours. I am going to work 4 days compressed into 3, and DH is going to work 5 days compressed into 4. It means only childcare for 2 days and MIL will do one of those. It will be a longer day for Holly on the days she is having childcare so my parents will hopefully pick her up from childminders early so that she at least has someone familiar and can get home to her own bed earlier.

If you want me to be brutally honest (which I am being, sorry), I feel that your OH doesn’t seem to have done very much for Jack since he was born, and I wouldn’t trust him to look after him for a full day per week. My OH changes nappies, does feeds, gets up during the night with H on a weekend as well as playing with her, and he has looked after her for hours on lots of occasions when I have been out, or taken Holly out with him to give me a break. And he loves doing it all!

Does your OH realise what’s involved? You do so much for him and Jack that I think he would be lost if you weren’t there. If I were you and you were going to consider this (bearing in mind that you are running out of time to make a decision), I would say “right OH, you are in full charge of Jack this weekend to see how we get on” and whilst you would be there to offer advice, let him do the nappies and all the feeds etc.

Apologies again if I am out of line, and I know that I don’t know your OH, I am just going by what you post on here, but you know I get infuriated on your behalf about how much you do and the lack of hands on help your OH seems to give you!

jha

hello all - hope you are all well. Finally recovered fully and back online Baby orit-rhian is 15 weeks old now and 15lbs so doing well:D will try and keep up when baby allows:cool:

Glamazon

I know what you are saying - his first suggestion was he would work from home one day whilst watching J which I told him was impossible. He is starting to want to do more now BIL has gone (*rollseyes*) including wanting to be more involved in bedtime routine & has changed more nappies recently including 2 dirty ones.
If we sort the sleeping out then it wouldn't be a problem - maybe one day when he's off in May I'll get him to do it all for a day. I have to give the creche a months notice to decrease and would need to square things with work so it maybe something we look at doing from June and not right away IYSWIM.

Thanks - it was something I hadn't thought of properly!

Evansangel

Evening, i did start catching up but there's so much since i last posted i gave up!
I got to Kindof's fridge door falling off. Something similar happened to me when i was pg, except it was a door of a public toilet :eek:
I just propped it against the wall and left Ah well, they are skanky toilets anyway :rotfl:

Anything major after kindof's fridge door incident and now?

I got my free books from the TOMMY charity today, one about TTC and one about healthy pregnancy and a pregnancy leaflet.

I also finally have my birth to 5 book! :j

We have started giving Lily cooled water now in between bottles. We think sometimes she is thirsty as she'll cry for a bottle after drinking almost 6ozs 2 hours previously.
But she loves the water! She drank about 3ozs so far today

SugarSpun

Hello jha, nice to see you and good to hear that you're recovered and Orit-Rhian is doing so well.

Glam, I don't want you to feel ganged up on but I'd share Fitz's concerns.

Fitzio

weezl74 wrote: »

:rotfl::p

My current plan is to wait til the summer when he's just 3 and kessie is just 2 and just spend the whole summer out in our garden with no pants on.:D

On first glance, I did just notice that you were spending the whole summer in the garden with no pants on. You dirty mare! What would the neighbours think! ha ha.

Off to make dinner now, steak fajitas yum yum (I can't get into this nom nom nommy thing which I had never seen/heard until you lot said it!)

weezl74

jha wrote: »

hello all - hope you are all well. Finally recovered fully and back online Baby orit-rhian is 15 weeks old now and 15lbs so doing well:D will try and keep up when baby allows:cool:

hey you!

More news than that please:D:D:D:D?

And piccies of half pint too, I demand them:)

jha

does this piccie work?
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/photo.php?pid=30849816&id=1574151918