MSE Parents Club Part 11

aless02

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

Speaking of supportive OHs, has anyone found that their OH has got less supportive of BFing as baby grows up? Mine was awesome at first, but now H is a bit older he doesn't like me feeding in public and is just generally much less helpful when I am feeding. When I told his the HV said I should be proud of myself, he was really sarcastic. He now says he was joking, but I don't think he was....

Mine's REALLY annoying about BFing in public...he swears that he doesn't mind but that he's afraid some numpty will complain and then he'll have to get in a fight with them. Rubbish, obviously. It usually comes up when we're someplace that's not a coffee shop (coffee shops he's okay with just nowhere else!).

3onitsway

My OH was funny about me feeding in public but he wouldn't have dared say, because if he had, he knows i'd have whipped both boobs out and slapped him about the head with them!! But I could tell from his face.
But he was supportive of the actual breastfeeding - maybe I was supposed to stay at home for the first 8/9 months. :rotfl:

He came home from work one day, (we both worked in the same place), and someone had asked how the sleepless night were. He'd said he doesn't notice them because I was feeding V myself. He said she was really shocked that i was STILL feeding. V must have only been about 6 weeks old!

pigpen

I have NEVER apart from when I fed DD1 in church during her baptism.. discretely in the pew.. not at the font obviously .. had nayone say anything negative to me about it.. but then I possibly sit there giving death stares and 'come and have a go if yo want to lose your limbs' vibes lol...

Though OH's mum said I am not permitted to bf the baby in church when his sister gets married in Sepember.. I said fine I will let it scream then.. she said no if it cries you take it out.. I said if it cries I feed it.. I am so hoping it needs feeding during the service... heehee....

fattybooboo

gymfiend wrote: »

Thanks so much for all the advice on the mastitis, just about stopped me from wapping them off with a meat cleaver :rotfl: Thanks for the link to the group Elle, have bookmarked it and will work out how to join I am exclusively pumping, though I still try to get him to latch sometimes but less often than I was as he really isn't interested I'll persevere for as long as I pump though and pray that one day it just clicks for us.

Hi Gym. If its any help I was in a similar situation a few months ago when Toby and I got thrush (I didnt even realise u could get it on your breasts!!) It was v painful when he latched on and the treatment took a couple of goes before it cleared it up. I remember thinking that I couldnt carry on much longer like it, but likewise there was no way I wanted to stop BF!! Looking back, although it was HIDEOUS at the time, it was a relatively short period of time and Im so glad I didnt give up. Having said all that, obviously do what you feel in ur gut is the best thing for you and your baby and you cant go far wrong!! In RL my DH side of the family havent ever BF so tend to be quite questioning about it (some would say negative ) and never mention the positives. Luckily for me my mum BF and my mum and dad are v supportive and also 2 close friends with babies the same age BF and that helps alot. But even so, the negative opinions still get me down even now. Kinda makes me more determined in a way. I spose I should rattle off the positive benefits to said people but part of me thinks I know that its best and I cant be bothered trying to convert people that are not even going to listen. Sorry rant over!! Anyway I really hope u get back to normal soon and then you will be so proud of yourself that you got through it. xx

Somnium

WM - we are using MAM atm too wonder if they do cherry ones!

So far not fed in public so no idea how OH will feel.

For those of you who keep loosing dummys I have some spare dummy clips the fairies can deliver, there humphreys corner too

Natalie85

MAM dummies for us too, the other ones were instantly spat out n disgust :P lol

Am has just gone down for a little nap, OK mag just came thru the door, time for a rest I think

Were still struggling with childcare and I'm due back in 3 months eeek. nurseries are now out, tried every one local and nothing available, childrens information are sending me the childminders with vacancies for babies, so fingers crossed we'll find something or I may become a SAHM. which i have no problem with but it wasnt really the plan !!!

Sami_Bee

yes gisi! he used to happily get me a drink, cut up my steak, even put food in my mouth but now he huffs and puff and usually while he's fetching Ed finishes. He's fine about in public but we're not out in public together much lol so I don't think I've BF in public with him since christmas. He's not very 'happy' about me not having a set end date either, I'm not sure when I'll stop but I think it's pointless deciding now while he won't drink from a cup/bottle because it would just stress me out

Fitzio

Natalie85 wrote: »

MAM dummies for us too, the other ones were instantly spat out n disgust :P lol

Am has just gone down for a little nap, OK mag just came thru the door, time for a rest I think

Were still struggling with childcare and I'm due back in 3 months eeek. nurseries are now out, tried every one local and nothing available, childrens information are sending me the childminders with vacancies for babies, so fingers crossed we'll find something or I may become a SAHM. which i have no problem with but it wasnt really the plan !!!

Nightmare Natalie. I would love to give up work but no way I can afford to. And I would owe them too much money if I didn't return! Really hope I don't end up with that problem. Can you change or cut hours to suit the childcare that is available if necessary?

Sami_Bee

Natalie is west leigh high close to you/on the way to work?

newbie_maz

OH is fine with me bf'ing in public so far cos he knows i am. I'm discreet about it and find the most appropriate seat and cover up a bit. He doesn't see why i shouldn't. Plus he likes that we can do normal stuff when we're out and about & i'll feed her while we're having lunch or coffee, instead of making the effort to go to changing room or mothercare or somewhere to feed her and him being bored.