Allocating housework amongst family - does this work for anyone?

pounds_and_pensive

kazmeister wrote: »

I WANT ONE LIKE THAT

Get to the back of the queue!

Calephetos

lister wrote: »

Ladies - I think you are missing a possible trick in educating teenage sons to do housework.

What you need to do is explain to them that most young ladies will much prefer a young man who looks after himself and his environment rather than living like a particularly grubby neanderthal. Whether or not they believe you is another matter, but it is their loss if they don't...

My partner's mum went back to work when she had him, so his dad gave up work to look after the boys. With a male primary caregiver/domestic role model he's a great find! I guess kids get accustomed to what they see. If Daddy never does the chores, why should they?

He splits the chores with me. Actually, I think he does more than I do... He cooks most nights, washes up 90% of the time (though in 2/3 day batches - there are only two of us), does the 'icky' male-only stuff (bins, toilet cleaning, creepycrawlies, mould, mank, hairtraps, drains, weeing on the compost, taking the compostables out in the rain, fixing the bikes) and I do most of the rest (dusting - ha! vacuuming, laundry, garden, sweeping - but he wields the dustpan). He moans about vacuuming not being effective. Well, tough - I'm not sweeping the stairs with a dustpan and brush unless the vac conks out! I do the laundry because while he's happy to do it, I live in fear of him mixing darks and delicates. I'll trust him with the rest of my life, but I draw the line at my fuzzy socks and favourite jumper. :rolleyes:

I'm v.v.lucky. Train your sons so we can all have one like mine!

Edit: Steel - mine makes me tea and porridge every morning too Delivers it to the bedside table and everything. He is so well-trained

Steel_2

Calephetos wrote: »

Edit: Steel - mine makes me tea and porridge every morning too Delivers it to the bedside table and everything. He is so well-trained

Ahhhhh....what a happy day it will be when my hubbie can do porridge. At the moment it's cereal or toast (usually cold by the time the butter goes on so it lies in a slime layer - yeuch!).

I once asked him for a bacon sarnie and he gave me a look of absolute horror and asked how? I wrote it down in easy steps: add butter to frying pan and heat until melted, add bacon and fry for 5 minutes, slap rashers in between two bits of bread with brown sauce. 20 minutes later he'd got the bacon out of the fridge and was reading the back of the butter label for melting instructions. :rotfl: I now do all cooked breakfasts.

LouBlue

Steel wrote: »

I once asked him for a bacon sarnie and he gave me a look of absolute horror and asked how? I wrote it down in easy steps: add butter to frying pan and heat until melted, add bacon and fry for 5 minutes, slap rashers in between two bits of bread with brown sauce. 20 minutes later he'd got the bacon out of the fridge and was reading the back of the butter label for melting instructions. :rotfl: I now do all cooked breakfasts.

Please don't tell me you fell for that old routine. :rotfl:

Looks like you already have.

Steel_2

LouBlue wrote: »

Please don't tell me you fell for that old routine. :rotfl:

Looks like you already have.

Damn, damn, damn......:D

LouBlue

Steel wrote: »

Damn, damn, damn......:D

Send him my way for a week, he will come back on bended knees, offering you lots of help from now on.

LizD_2

How do you fit it in?

I work full-time and just can't be bothered with it and am not interested. But I kind of feel why should I do it all? DH does do the washing up, but expects me to do the rest. I do do it sometimes, but i get sick of keeping the place tidy when he can't be bothered to sort his own things out.

How do you all cope?

kazwookie

You need pigpen and her flybe thread, honest it has helped me loads

cazac71

LizD wrote: »

How do you fit it in?

I work full-time and just can't be bothered with it and am not interested. But I kind of feel why should I do it all? DH does do the washing up, but expects me to do the rest. I do do it sometimes, but i get sick of keeping the place tidy when he can't be bothered to sort his own things out.

How do you all cope?

If your`ve got the money, get a cleaner, if not, write out a rota, and tell DH tto pull his weight more.;)
If not, do i little at a time.:o

Bitsy_Beans

I am not a flylady but having looked at the website and the threads it does makes sense.
How would your DH feel about some sort of rota? Would he be prepared to muck in and help? If you're both working full time I do tend to view it as a shared responsibility.