Allocating housework amongst family - does this work for anyone?

whatatwit

Penelope_Penguin wrote: »

Hi there! We have a "Fly-dash" every day I'm in charge :rolleyes: and I allocate tasks for people to do. We do this for half an hour each evening, and it works :j

Penny. x

I do something similar....Mrs Twit...tidy up, clean up, wash the pots.

Hmmm, think I'm going wrong somewhere.

Magentasue

I don't think it's the same as allocating tasks, penny. Its about changing habits, attitudes and the culture of teens.

I'm living through this one and all the posts above ring true but I think it's hopeless. Sorry! But I think the only families who have this sussed are those where they have been ubertidy throughout toddlerdom and beyond.

danksshady

if you find the solution let me know - with 3 teens and 3 preteens I would love to work it out

mk_wotsit

It's a hopeless cause. I just sweep through the house a couple of times a day, scooping up their crap and throwing it through their bedroom doors.
Thankfully the most untidy one is off to uni in a couple of weeks. The other one just stays in bed all day anyway.

I try not to take it personally. They're just at a selfish age!

~Yorkshire_Belle~

the only families who have this sussed are those where they have been ubertidy throughout toddlerdom and beyond.

Oh dear - no hope for us then! :eek:
Sadly isn't not just the teens/pre teens but mainly the big lump with a shed, the contents of which seem to have crept all around the house because of 'jobs in progress'. Any advice for untidy partners? :rolleyes:

PS How do you do quotes with the link to the original post?

Zazen999

My OH's DD is like this, she's 11. I usually do the thing of not letting her do what she wants to do until said mess is tidied up. So, We can't go out because we are still waiting for you to [insert task that needs doing]. The best one is, I can't get off the computer to let you onto it until x, y and z are done. Just choose things they really like doing and be subtle about it.

If it got really bad, the bin bag would be threatened and carried out, but I find with the above approach she is starting to clear up her things on her own. She is only with us 1/3 of the time, so I have to re-educate each time she is over [well, remind her].

Or move the messy kitchen stuff to their beds, crumbs and all. If they mess your kitchen up, then you will mess their rooms up. One night in a crumby bed might do the trick.

Don't nag, just stick to your guns. Sooner or later they will move out.

mary43

The kids bedrooms are their domain to mess up as much as they like but my biggest gripe is the bathroom -wet towels left all over the floor, washing (will it do itself ?)..........oh, and the kitchen.............the pile of festering mugs/plates/bowls that materialise in a sort of sculptured pile on the worktop while young lad walks off - wash dishes ??? No way.............unless he's after something -namely money !!
Does seem like a thankless task.
My eldest son was much the same but now, talk about houseproud ! Hardly dare sit down in his house...............lol

*zippy*

Hubby and I can't wait until our two have their own places so we can go around to make a mess and see how they like it

I tend to throw as much through their bedroom doors as I can. I'm tackling 12 yr old DD's bedroom today in the hope if I get it straight & clutter free she will keep on top of it...little chance I know, but I live in hope.

buxtonrabbitgreen

I don't think there is any answer either. I have one teen who is tidy (in his room) not in the rest of the house and another who is a complete slob. If I tidy said slobs room she doesn't like it can't cope with tidiness.
During the holidays I have come home every day to the sculpted pile of washing up aforementioned.
Towels on the floor etc.
My eldest 2 have thier own homes which are very tidy. So they do change when they leave. The only idea I have is to encourage them to leave as soon as poss.
The 2 I have at home are aware that they will be chucked out at 16 if they don't co operate. And I can back this up with evidence of the eldest 2. So should improve soon.

janeym8

anyclothes,shoes or things like that i would actually put out in the wheelie bin (they would have to retreive them),wet things left in bathroom went into their beds under the covers.it would make them tidy up for a while .i would leave post it nnotes beside things eg a note in cupboard to remind them to dry dishes /pots before putting away.lots and lots of nagging!!!i would sort out their washing in bundles and leave at bottom of stairs for them to take up-if it got trodden on tough luck lol

a few of the things i did -they are a bit better now ages 18 and 21 but they are often out of the house so generally things are tidier

good luck

janey xxx