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Allocating housework amongst family - does this work for anyone?
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My house is in a bit of a state at the moment, with a good half dozen glaringly obvious things to do (my arthritis is playing up).
Yesterday I found my husband trying to remove a small patch of mould from a metal window frame with a toothbrush (his current new clean one, not the one in the cleaning things drawer, of course). He managed to wet the dry clean only curtains, and spill filthy water on a quilt.
Is it a very clever ploy to avoid doing anything useful, or is he just insane?0 -
I have a theory that some people are programmed to do as badly as possible any jobs that they hate, so you never ask them to do those jobs ever again! example: break your best crockery when washing up, spill cat litter all over the floor when changing the tray and leave it there, pull up the precious plants you have nurtured - 'I thought they were weeds' when gardening, block up the hoover and put it away for you to deal with next time you want to use it (to hoover up the cat litter spillage perhaps!). Am I one of many or one of few that has to deal with this?
Shoki0 -
I never went looking for laundry in children's rooms, if it wasn't in the basket it didn't get washed, that was from primary school age.
My OH used to gather up stuff lying around and hide it, he did it last week to DD, she left trainers in the dining room for 2 days for no apparant reason.
I don't go in their rooms to clean etc, they are responsible for it tidy or messy, as long as all the cups etc are in the cupboards and there are no offensive odours on the landing I don't worry about it.
When they were both at home they took it in turns to wash up/load DW and each made at least one evening meal a week.
If you start them young they get into the habit and they are able to look after themselves, my DS is sought after as a housemate because he is a great cook.
Good luck...0 -
If you allocate jobs like this you have to be prepared for them not to be done well enough!;)Member no.1 of the 'I'm not in a clique' group :rotfl:
I have done reading too!
To avoid all evil, to do good,
to purify the mind- that is the
teaching of the Buddhas.0 -
I tried that with ex OH, he didnt notice for a month. Even when I burnt a load of the stuff to get it out of the way :rolleyes:
A tip - ZERO TOLERANCE! NEVER answer the common male plea 'where are my pants' The country would come to a standstill if women behaved in the same way. How pathetic is it for an adult not to where their clean underwear is? Do not entertain them!Member no.1 of the 'I'm not in a clique' group :rotfl:
I have done reading too!
To avoid all evil, to do good,
to purify the mind- that is the
teaching of the Buddhas.0 -
Why is it so hard for them to do a simple job. It turns into a battleground which breeds resentment in the person who does the main bulk of housework and accusations of being a nag from the other members.
I still haven't worked out how to deal with it, other than to live alone. I am sure it is simplerAn average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T:rotfl: :rotfl:
:eek::mad: :beer:
I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.0 -
I have unwittingly turned into super OS 1950s style wifey type, as I do all the housework and most of the cooking and launrdy, but I dont mind. I also work as well but thats flexible because Im self employed. Oh has to leave the house at 7.30 and gets back at 5.30, so when exactly would he clean, cook, hoover...?
BUT I know if I do need help with anything all I have to do is ask. He does heavy stuff like putting things in the loft, going to the tip, mowing the lawn, moving the chicken run, taking boxes of stuff in his car to the charity shop.
As I said previously I know how I like things done so I will do them, and he has learnt (they learn easily) that only clothes IN the laundry basket get washed.
I always prefer to wash my own clothes because I know where the stains may be, any mending needs and NOT to put bras and pants in the drier!Member no.1 of the 'I'm not in a clique' group :rotfl:
I have done reading too!
To avoid all evil, to do good,
to purify the mind- that is the
teaching of the Buddhas.0 -
justin138 wrote:That's it! I'm going to clone Justin for all you lovely ladies (and make my fortune in the process). He's brilliant at doing all housework / cooking / washing / ironing / cleaning etc. etc. AND makes me any beautiful cupboards / shelves (from scraps of wood) that I desire. He's perfect. (Mind you, he's 18 years younger than me, so is fitter for the purpose, and I trained him well before we wed; "get em young, train em well" I say).
Very happily married
JoAnyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination:beer:
Oscar Wilde0
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