In-Laws and Dog - Baby on way

BigBlackcat

tandraig wrote: »

if this is the case i am thinking of - the grandmother fell asleep leaving the baby in a carrier on a table because she wanted the baby out of the way of the dogs - and the two dogs belonging to the grandmother killed the baby. on autopsy - the jack russell inflicted over ninety bites - the staffordshire one. both dogs put down.
and that has to do with this thread how?[/QUOTE]


Dog + Baby = Potentially dangerous situation...

suited-aces

cheepskate wrote: »

I find it GREAT how the in-comming and usually the daughter in law can cause 101 problems before they even arise.
Hopefully my son will never marry or will turn out to be GAY so i never have to deal with the daughter in laws from hell.

Spot on. How DARE she risk nana and fido's feelings by trying to protect her baby from a mauling. Let the tot fend for itself. That's all that's wrong with this generation, they're too soft!

My mother regularly left me in the play pen with our 3 pitbulls and it never done me any harm!

suited-aces

Any wrote: »

Not babies, but children can provoke a dog. Hell an adult can provoke a dog.

I don't think she meant it like that though... I agree, the problem didn't arise at all yet and just coming to MIL's house and start listing her " rules" with the baby before any problems even arose is just asking for trouble...

Aye love, best to wait 'til after the baby's been attacked to bother with any stupid rules.

I adore dogs, but some people in this thread make me wonder who unlocked the asylum!

System

suited-aces wrote: »

I adore dogs, but some people in this thread make me wonder who unlocked the asylum!

Probably the same ones that develop paranoia about every dog wanting to attack children.

kindofagilr

Evansangel wrote: »

:rotfl:
He might of! He prob was slagging you off to his cat pals!

LOL I suppose there is that possibility lol

It does amaze me the attitudes of some people on here who state "their dog would never hurt anyone" how many times have we seen on the news about dogs attacking babies and toddlers and killing them

People always think "their" dog wouldnt hurt anyone, it just takes one moment for the dog to snap and thats it.

misgrace

rach83 wrote: »

Following on from the in-Laws and smoking thread I have a similar problem but relating to a dog.

I am expecting my first baby in May. My OH's family have a staffie. I am no dog expert but he seems to be reasonably well behaved (hes 2 and has been owned from a puppy). I don’t want to start a massive debate but I know that as dogs they do not have the best reputation for one reason or another.

The dog has never experienced being in the company of children/babies before and I am worried that because he gets so much attention at the moment that he will get jealous of the baby. He is a very strong dog and I am not overly happy about the baby being around him full stop. We are inevitably going to have to go to their house with the baby and this worries me.

What can I do without causing upset to the in-laws?

I can only tell what I did regarding the dog I had, my dog wasnt a pedigree but a good old mixture.

I had my dog from a dog home from the age of approx 18 months, there was me, my son and my daughter at home.
Go forward a few years and daughter is having a baby, and is living with me as she and partner were saving up for a place of thier own.
We were all concerned that my dog might not take to the baby, or get jealous, as he did show the odd sign of jealously in the past.

Now I loved my dog to bits, by this time I have had him for approx 8 years, he was my friend, and when he passed away I was distraught for months, this is the depth of feeling I had for him.
But now I have a grandchild coming into the family and of course my grandchild comes first, and I was pooping myself that if my dog got jealous or showed any signs I knew I would have to let my dog go.

I was frantic, the time was getting nearer and I still didnt know what to do.
Bit by bit my dog was seeing cots, baby clothes etc all over the house, I was sort of hoping he would get used to these things.

Daughter has now gone into labour, and I still had my dog, so what I did was that when I saw her in hospital I would bring back the baby's vest, and clothes that he had worn in the hospital, and let my dog smell them, I left them around for a day or two.
My daughter was in hospital for a few days, so every time I would come back with the clothes he had worn, and would place them in the pram, the cot, on the back of a chair etc for my dog to get used to the smell.

The big day came when baby came home, and I was on pins, we all were, soon as my daughter came in with baby, he went up to my daughter her, smelled her and the baby, he went off.
Over the course of the next hour or so my dog would keep going up having a look and a sniff of the baby, that was it, he never bothered the baby, never made any noise towards the baby, and as time went on he would sit by the moses basket in the front room, keeping him safe lol.

My daughter and baby lived with us approx 2 years till they got thier own place, and the dog loved my granson, never once did anything untowards to the baby.

Like I say I cant speak for the Staffie, as I can only tell you my experience, maybe this will be a bit of help for you.:)

Any

suited-aces wrote: »

Aye love, best to wait 'til after the baby's been attacked to bother with any stupid rules.

I adore dogs, but some people in this thread make me wonder who unlocked the asylum!

Aya love?????? Where did you get your tact from? Love is a name only my husband can call me.

Actually, I don't know - I never realised that people come to visit, put baby in the middle of the floor with a dog and shut the door behind them!! Sorry, my mistake.

I thought that at the first visit there will be every one around and the OP will know whether there is reason for concern. The chances are, that the moment they enter the house the MIL will shut the dog away and there will be no need of bringing the issue up.

jackieglasgow

But isn't that a potential problem as well? Dog starts to associate baby arriving with getting locked in another room in his own house. Dog resents baby/child, unable to form any kind of bond or relationship.

I am the first person who would say to anyone please keep your dog away from my small child, no matter what the breed- and I did do in the past when my boys were small - but if it is part of the same family as the child, it should get to know the baby asap. Of course you do not leave them alone, you do not perhaps even leave the dog untethered anywhere near the baby, but keeping the dog isolated, especially in its own house, cannot be a good thing.

suited-aces

!!!!!! wrote: »

Probably the same ones that develop paranoia about every dog wanting to attack children.

Not every dog wants to attack children. Not every strange man wants to kidnap them either, but you'd still advise your kids against talking to them wouldn't you? I'm not talking about life changing alterations here, just simple precautions to prevent massive heartache.